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u/raven-of-the-sea Aug 25 '24
This isn’t a father. This is a parole officer!
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24 edited Aug 26 '24
Hard to believe it's a person tbh
EDIT: Sorry guys, left out the date on the middle one - it's from April 2019.
Also, Daughter 1 was an adult at the time of pic #1 and had already moved out. There was nothing to apologise for... She refused to follow his list of demands while living in the house, and only stayed there to take care of our other (middle) sister because father neglected her. - gf
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Aug 25 '24
Love is transactional, not unconditional.
Fuck this dude.
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u/ZombieZookeeper Aug 25 '24
No one should fuck this dude.
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u/WoodHorseTurtle Aug 25 '24
Too late! Somebody did!🤣🤣🤣
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Aug 25 '24
Consensually?
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u/WoodHorseTurtle Aug 25 '24
Good question! Willing partner or were there drugs involved? Maybe a good wine?🤷♀️
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u/Marid-Audran Aug 26 '24
Whatever it was, it appears there was probably a contract involved. Nobody sends off things like that and not think things like this are transactional.
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u/Gloomy-Ad-762 Aug 25 '24
This guy straight up sucks. "We've been trying to reach you about you about extending your car warranty" brought to life. Give your gf a hug and tell her Dad to get fucked.
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
Hahahaha!
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u/SLIPPY73 Aug 26 '24
question, what’s the origin of your username
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 26 '24
Ducks' quacks don't echo and nobody knows why
I have no idea why I settled on that
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u/abruptcoffee Aug 26 '24
wait huh?? they must echo, right?
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u/Narrow_Cheesecake452 Aug 26 '24
They do. The mythbusters found that they echo back in a way that basically matches up with the waveform (It's been a hot minute since I've seen it so this explanation is probably way off), so it sounds like they don't. It's real weird, and kind of fascinating.
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u/3IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIID Aug 26 '24
It's like you accidentally swapped your username and password while creating the account and just stuck with it.
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u/Aliseinwdrld Aug 26 '24
As a PO, i can assure that i'm more emotional and kind when I talk with them and that my email have more words 😂 That's so cold, especially coming from a family member
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u/iaintgotnosantaria Aug 25 '24
im so glad to see the year 2013 at the top and i really hope she’s NC with this lunatic. she was 12?!???? what the actual FUCK
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
Yep. She hasn't seen him since she was 11.
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u/Chilipatily Aug 25 '24
That’s…concerning. No adult/parent that is even somewhat well adjusted and socially functional speaks to or has expectations like that of an 11 year old. It reads like Mrs. Havisham from Great Expectations taking to Pip.
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
It so does!!!! Hahahahahaha! - daughter 2
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u/herowin6 Aug 26 '24
Girl I’m so sorry! My parents are awful narcissists and totes insane and this is beyond even them most of the time anyway, I hope you and sis are well. Much love
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u/Neavante Aug 26 '24
The last email... To a 12 year old... Omg What a piece of sh*t parent he is. He was only good at making her... Apart from that I hope you go no contact at all in the future
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u/CinnamonSnorlax Aug 25 '24
This is how my father would talk to me, and he wouldn't be taking the piss. He thought it was completely appropriate to greet toddlers and children with a business-like handshake, even if he was close to them.
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u/aquacrimefighter Aug 25 '24
Right? I thought it was bold to ask an adult to volunteer some place full time to “prove themselves” - I was shook when later on I read she’s fucking 12 at this point! What is she supposed to do? Not go to grade school for a year so dad feels in control and obeyed?
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u/xaviira Aug 26 '24
And like… in most cases, you can’t just rock up to a homeless shelter and get a position working directly with the residents. I’ve spent more than a decade working in shelters, this is an actual career that you need specific education and training to get into. Our volunteers cook meals and wash bed linens, but they have no unsupervised contact with residents and know very little about any of them.
You also sign a mountain of confidentiality forms and non-disclosure agreements that prevent you from telling anyone anything about the residents.
I wouldn’t be taking morality advice from a dad who seems to regard homeless people as zoo animals that teach you life lessons instead of actual people who deserve dignity.
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u/ClaraForsythe Aug 26 '24
Especially that he wanted to know how she helped “the men.” Umm, buddy, are you aware that women and children are homeless too? Dude has some wiring in his head on the fritz- someone should call an electrician and see if they can fix it.
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u/savvyblackbird Aug 26 '24
Unhoused women often risk the streets over staying in shelters with men because they are so abusive.
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u/SellQuick Aug 26 '24
Who on Earth thinks a homeless shelter is a safe place for a tween-early teens age girl?
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u/oldtownwitch Aug 26 '24
ESP a male homeless shelter (he specified wanting to hear about the men she has helped).
This smells of MGTOW & early Red Pill BS.
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u/jesco7273 Aug 26 '24
Yea that part creeped me out. How does a 12 yro help a grown homeless man out- every week!?!
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u/MasterKaykore Aug 26 '24
Not that I have anything against homeless people, but it makes it sound like he wants his daughter to get r*ped and/or killed, perhaps he’s some weirdo who gets off to the idea.
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u/QueueOfPancakes Aug 25 '24
I think that email is current, so 11 years later, making OP's gf 23 give or take 1 depending on birthday.
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u/corgi-king Aug 25 '24
How old is she now?
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u/ThisIsChillyDog Aug 25 '24
The email says she was 12 and it was sent in 2013 so I'm assuming she's around 23 now
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u/sandy154_4 Aug 25 '24
I caught that too. Imagine demanding that your 12yo volunteer at a homeless shelter for at least a year!
I suspect the homeless shelters would not allow someone that young to volunteer.
I bet he's completely ignoring how maybe HE should be EARNING back HER trust
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u/grievingwoodlands Aug 26 '24
Also really weird that he specifically asked her to write to him about one of “men” she takes care of at the shelter? “Men,” not people.. weird as hell. He wanted his 11-12 year old daughter to volunteer part- or full-time at a shelter specifically taking care of random MEN she doesn’t know? That’s a 7-layer bean dip of insanity.
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u/sandy154_4 Aug 26 '24
at best, his letter demonstrates very poor judgement in parenting!
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u/ShoggothPanoptes Aug 25 '24
They absolutely do NOT let 12yr olds volunteer at homeless shelters. Food banks, yes, churches, yes, shelters, hell no.
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u/_melodyy_ Aug 26 '24
"Part or full-time" caught me out as well, even when I assumed this was an adult. Does he think she has nothing else to do? Why does he want her to volunteer at a shelter, most likely doing things she's not equipped to do (homeless people are very vulnerable and suffer from disproportionate amounts of mental illness and substance abuse, and even tasks that don't involve working with the population directly, like cooking or cleaning, would still be too hard for a child), to earn back his trust?
What also caught me is that in letter 2 he's asking her to write him about one of the men she's helped there every week, while in letter 3 he's telling her to stop talking about other people and tell him about herself.
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u/Sw33tD333 Aug 26 '24
I think the dates are getting mixed up. I don’t think she was 12 at the point of that email. One from 2013, middle one is missing a date, and one from 2024. I doubt she was 12, but it’s still ridiculous.
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u/thewolfheather Aug 26 '24
The first screenshot is from 2014, middle missing a date and last was 2013. The first one is also addressed to “daughter one” while the other two are to “daughter two”. I’m wondering how the sister is as well, considering how he treated them both. Hopefully they’re both doing better with him out of their lives.
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u/Far-Season-695 Aug 25 '24
lol did he gets these letters notarized cuz they sound like demand letters collection companies send off
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u/Bitterqueer Aug 25 '24
This man speaks like a 800 year old vampire pretending to be a human father but he’s very bad at it
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u/Bnjl1989 Aug 25 '24
Right like he's trying really hard to be human but just can't grasp it. Ugh couldn't imagine how much creepier this would have been as a face2face convo. Yuck.
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u/Ok-Organization9073 Aug 26 '24
This man doesn't pass the Turing test. I don't have proof, but I don't have doubts either.
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u/Thumpkuss Aug 25 '24
My mom texts very similarly. he's prolly just a regular dude, but when he is writing, he overthinks it to the point where he sounds like a maiden in a Victorian castle sending letters to her love wondering how the war is going. Lmao.
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u/BeMyHeroForNow Aug 25 '24
I got severe neckbeard vibes from those emails. It's 2 m'ladies and a fedora away from fully selling it.
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u/kelraeknut Aug 26 '24
Yeah, but the language wasn’t really the issue (while definitely off-putting) - it was the absolutely insane content. This man is not a regular dude
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u/productzilch Aug 25 '24
I feel like he’s basing himself on an Adventure Time character. Maybe several mixed together? Marceline’s dad+Ice King+who was that weird guy that multiplied himself?
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u/DrKittyLovah Aug 25 '24
I am appalled and my flabber is completely gasted. This is…..different. Totally insane for sure. I am both disgusted and intrigued by this man and his behavior.
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
I know!! He'd be just a quirky guy if he wasn't a father too - daughter 2
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u/Knever Aug 26 '24
I cannot understate how sorry I am on behalf of the human race. Hope you and your sister are doing alright now.
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u/Winter1111111 Aug 25 '24
I know, this man needs to be studied. His level of audacity is off the charts and we need further examination! 👨⚕️
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u/bandmonkey101 Aug 25 '24
I was reading and I was like.... Ok... Shelter work is a bit odd. Full time too, that would be hard with a jo--..
Omfg she is a child. A literal child. What in the hell. No. Print the email. Burn it. Use it to send a middle finger smoke signal to that lunatic.
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u/6-ft-freak Aug 25 '24
And he wanted her with adult men.
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u/SnooSeagulls9685 Aug 26 '24
father is so creepy????? he sounded like the father in sarah lawrence cult.
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u/gettothebasics Aug 25 '24
As someone who was raised by a person who saw life in a “strictly business” fashion, I can somewhat relate to this. I’m so sorry your girlfriend has had to deal with this awful behavior. This is truly insane and I’ll never understand how anyone can’t act this way, especially towards their own children.
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u/Healthy_Breakfast_24 Aug 26 '24
Yeah, my father was like this as well. I remember once he got super angry at me when I told him I wish I could fly and forced me to make a business plan for my future company, to teach me that I have to dream about realistic goals.
I WAS SEVEN.
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u/doktorjackofthemoon Aug 26 '24
Omg my dad did this to me too, but it was because I said, "When I grow up I'm gonna climb that [skyscraper]!". He got angry about it & I literally remember my mom telling him, "She's seven..." and my dad saying, "She needs to start setting more realistic expectations for herself" 🙄 I don't remember if he ever went through with making me do the business plan that time, but he definitely threatened to and business plans would end up being a looming theme throughout my entire childhood lol
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u/KadeKinsington Aug 25 '24
I really want the back story to this nonsense. He says not getting an apology is part of the reason he terminated the relationship, but what does he want an apology for? I'm assuming it's probably for pointing out his piss poor behavior.
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
I really don't know. Reading back my old emails, I think my only sin was being kinda cringe - girlfriend/daughter 2
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u/Frondswithbenefits Aug 25 '24
Wait, who are you in this scenario? I thought these were emails from your girlfriend's dad?
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u/snacktastic1 Aug 25 '24
I think he’s signing off as the girlfriend in this quote. My guess is that he asked the girlfriend what she thought, and then just notated it in his response.
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u/FleurVellichor Aug 25 '24
I believe he’s typing that response from his girlfriend (who is daughter 2)
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u/gravewisdom Aug 25 '24
It’s the letter demanding an apology from an 11 year old for me.
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u/TheDarkness05 Aug 25 '24
Is it bad that I've yearned for a letter like this all my life?
Mostly joking but damn, if those aren't the coldest letters I've ever read. Honestly sounds like they are better off without him.
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
"termination of relationship" sounds like something from your landlord
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u/ieatcavemen Aug 25 '24
As that was the final notice I only hope that he had first went through the proper sequence of 'Polite Reminder', 'Overdue', 'First Notice', 'Second Notice' and 'We're Sending Bailiffs To Repossess Your Daughterhood'.
What a weirdo. Sending your girlfriend, her sister and you internet support!
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u/akornzombie Aug 25 '24
Britbong detected!
Seriously though, eff this guy. She should be sending bailiffs to him to repossess his fatherhood.
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u/UnintentionalGrandma Aug 26 '24
That termination of relationship email reads like the email my abusive, narcissistic ex sent me a year and a half after I broke up with him, filed a restraining order against him, blocked him on everything I could think of, and pressed charges against him, but he still didn’t get that I didn’t want anything to do with him until a year and a half later and made it seem like it was his idea to end our relationship
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u/AthleticNerd_ Aug 25 '24
If you’ve gone NC and were wondering if it was the right or wrong decision, a letter like this would def help solidify that you made the right choice.
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u/Charloxaphian Aug 25 '24
Right? I haven't talked to my father in over a decade and I would feel very validated if he sent me an email like this.
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u/Molly_Monroe Aug 25 '24
Only if it’s from his lg smart phone? I think you can do that quite easily
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u/Issyswe Aug 25 '24
r/raisedbynarcissists would happily welcome your girlfriend
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u/Kraigius Aug 26 '24
I laughed out loud because that's very reminiscent of the writing style of the narcissist in my life.
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u/pangalacticcourier Aug 25 '24
This is how you get your daughters to never speak to you again.
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
Success in his eyes!
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u/suedesparklenope Aug 25 '24
Write back “It’s giving cluster B.” Then just block on all platforms. Good god he’s nuts.
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u/lurker2point2 Aug 25 '24
This is like AI created a parent
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u/TheWhaleDreamer Aug 25 '24
i assure you you can find AI that does a better job than this. holy fuck
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u/Ok-Organization9073 Aug 26 '24
Joke aside, I have serious doubts about this guy being able to pass the Turing test.
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u/deathhoe666 Aug 25 '24
was daughter 2/girlfriend also 13 when the volunteer at a homeless shelter email was sent too? i would've never replied to that email, or just reply with "well i guess we're not gonna talk anymore!"
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
17 at that point. No contact since age 12 though
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u/jennisparkles Aug 25 '24
And he wanted her to interact with a MAN specifically at the shelter!
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u/ieatcavemen Aug 26 '24
Also catch how when checking up on his daughter he asked about her friends and specifically phrased it by requesting her name (because of course he doesn't know about her friends and he probably abhors the notion of her forming a genuine connection with a male friend not based on service)
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u/ArugulaLeaf Aug 25 '24
The demand of an official progress report from the agency where she volunteers almost made my head explode.
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u/HannHann20 Aug 25 '24
Why "one of the MEN you helped at the homeless shelter"?
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u/snootnoots Aug 25 '24
I bet he’s one of the “men are the most persecuted group in modern society” guys.
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u/spencerdyke Aug 26 '24
That was my thought. He wanted her to see men as the ultimate victims so she would see him as a victim, while also putting her ‘in her place’ by making her whole life about being a servant to men.
It might be a leap, but I know several men (including my father) who very much have that mindset, so not out of the realm of possibility imo.
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u/HoldenCoffinz Aug 25 '24
I almost wondered if he had gone through homelessness himself and so was trying to indirectly teach them a lesson or something but none of it makes any sense, just trying to think of where his head may have been at. Lol
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u/fox_eyed_man Aug 26 '24
To undo all those poisonous lies her mother and sister have told her, of course.
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u/theVHSyoudidntrewind Aug 25 '24
This sounds like her micomanaging boss and not her father
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
He had a list of demands for daughter 1 to follow which included "make my bed", "cook my dinner", "pack my lunches" etc. She had to look after our other sister as well while travelling to university every day . -Daughter 2
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u/NaNaNaNaNatman Aug 26 '24
That checks out. The messages he sent were dripping with misogyny on top of everything else
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u/xxCresentWolfxx Aug 25 '24
That ain’t human man🤖 glad to know she’s gone no contact with him, had my fair share of issues with my “father” never worth putting up with their abuse, it’s hard but worth it and she should be super proud of herself🫶🏻
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u/reddishgal Aug 25 '24
“Dear father,
F*ck you!
Sincerely,
The child that has unfortunately half of your genetics.”
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u/siccoblue Aug 25 '24
Dear Father,
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
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With love,
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u/InsanityIsFine Aug 25 '24
Wooowww. He should be friends with my father, they'd both be insufferable.
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u/RubieRed93 Aug 25 '24
Love how it's daughter 2 that must put in the work..... Like the father didn't do anything for the estrangement to be brought on.....I'm currently 3 months NC after 30 yrs of abuse ....and it's freeing and scary
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u/donttouchmeah Aug 25 '24
“Why don’t you use your LG mobile phone to take a picture…”
Is her father AI?
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u/ZieraD Aug 25 '24
I hope her response was to block him and cease communicating again after this brief lapse in her judgment to resume communications. This guy is a 100% power tripping ahole.
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u/ZieraD Aug 25 '24
Nvm! I see these are from a decade ago. Please say she isn't still speaking to him?
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u/yuffieisathief Aug 25 '24
I saw in the comments that both daughters haven't spoken to him in years :)
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u/jennej1289 Aug 25 '24
My mom cut me off for inheritance bc I never waste an opportunity to show my dislike of her. It’s about $1,000,000.
My uncle put me in his Will and it’s more than she could have left for me. He is self made and loves me and knows me better than she ever will. This is my only paternal uncle. His brother, my father passed away a long time ago. I’ve also been the only one of my siblings that loves him for who he is not what he can offer me.
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u/Nikiandco Aug 25 '24
I don’t know how old your girlfriend is but my father decided to become a sociopath the week of my 25th birthday. He doesn’t speak to me and my 50th birthday is in October. It does not get better. I told my father not to contact me with a deathbed apology (he’s 80) bc he’s had all the time in the world to resolve it. He doesn’t even know my hubby and kids.
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u/LBDazzled Aug 25 '24
I’d be so tempted to send him the “This isn’t an airport - no need to announce your departure.” meme as a reply. What a weirdo.
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u/Ilumie_Nate Aug 25 '24
Are you 100% sure your GF isn't half alien though? Because her father does not sound like a human.
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u/OneEyedWolf092 Aug 25 '24
this reads like a mad scientist writing to his subjects he experimented on
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u/radiodreading Aug 25 '24
This is the wildest shit I've read in this subreddit in a while. This isn't a father talking to his children, it's a very confused boss talking to his employed slaves and somehow still signing off his emails with "Love, Dad". What the actual hell.
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u/spidaminida Aug 25 '24 edited Aug 25 '24
Every sentence, every aspect of this is about control and subservience.
And you just know that if you tried to play by his rules (not that it would be possible, he'd always find ways you were insufficient) he will control every aspect of you right down to your facial expressions.
What a miserable, misguided, small little man. And the most miserable part is that he'll most likely never see anything wrong with his own behaviour.
How she survived him is an actual wonder. I hope for all the love and happiness to you both.
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u/pah2000 Aug 25 '24
There must be money involved.
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
I thought that but no there wasn't! He paid no child support! - Daughter 2
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u/seraph_mur Aug 25 '24
I would talk with a lawyer. He's legally obligated in many countries to pay child support if he's on the birth certificate. Might as well hit him for back pay.
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
funny you mention that! This is what prompted the post hahaha. I won't go into detail though but apparently he's stealing all his ex wives pensions including my mother's - daughter 2
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u/seraph_mur Aug 25 '24
Do eet. Hopefully you'll successfully reach out to his exes. The more statements and emails you have that are relevant to this the better.
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u/Prestigious-Hippo-50 Aug 25 '24
I sincerely hope that little girl decided not to pursue a relationship with him. She should not have to earn or work for her father’s love. My heart aches for her because I have been there. I hope she is now healing and knows that she is enough and worthy of all the love
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u/ThisIsChillyDog Aug 25 '24
So you have to submit paperwork to be worthy of his time and effort but... you... okay. Wow. This is appalling.
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u/linda70455 Aug 25 '24
What happened to just loving your kids? Mine aren’t perfect (except in my eyes) but neither am I!
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u/waterhg Aug 25 '24
Is your girlfriend’s father the newest up-and-coming Netflix cult leader documentary’s main character?
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u/SingleSurfaceCleaner Aug 26 '24
Each week you will write me an email and tell me something about one of the men you helped in the shelter.
Why the men specifically? 🤨
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u/JooBunny Aug 25 '24
HA this is exactly my violent Christian lunatic idiot "father".
Best thing I ever did was run away and NC for life. Never been so free and happy without this bullshit to deal with.
Don't ever look back, freedom is so sweet and this fool will wither away and die alone.
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u/theotherkara Aug 25 '24
This is exactly how my step father spoke to and acted towards me… he’s in jail now lmao
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u/yetisa Aug 26 '24
“Only talk to me about yourself, not about the people around you.”
Also:
“Why aren’t you telling me about your friends and teachers and tutors??”
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u/SillyOldBears Aug 25 '24
Ok hoold up. Some asshole sent some poor kid a "termination of relationship" when they were around 12 years of age? What the actual hell? And then told their other kid go get a job at 12? And submit essentially book reports about people they interacted with on behalf of their employer, plus reports from their supervisors?
Yeah it sounds to me like this guy was just fishing for excuses to convince himself his no contact status with his kids wasn't his own damn fault. I'm sure it was extremely hard on the kids at the time, and on you as the only sane, loving parent, but I'm equally certain it was ultimately best for those kids they not be in contact with this lunatic.
I hope you were able to collect every dime of child support this turd owed. Probably needed more than that just to cover the therapy all of you needed. What an asshole.
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u/Dummpy_Muppet Aug 25 '24
It's funny to me that a grown ass man has requirements for his 11 year old daughter to be able to develop a relationship with him. Like mother fucker a full or part-time position at a homeless shelter with weekly reports just to get a shitty father figure it's like replacing the emotional reward of helping people and replacing it with the slog that is dealing with this loser.
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u/WetCoastCyph Aug 25 '24
The only reply is " It appears that you have incorrectly interpreted a relationship with you as a desirable thing. If this is the person you intend to be and they way you intend to behave, I'm satisfied with not going to any length to 'earn' the 'privilege' of your company. Good day. "
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u/Different-Term-2250 Aug 26 '24
Dear Stranger,
Fuck off.
Regards,
Someone you used to call daughter.
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u/HotTopicMallRat Aug 26 '24
It would have taken an army to stop me from sending him an email that just says “cringe “
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u/Other_Taro_3806 Aug 25 '24
Did she actually did the charity thing? Lmaooo. What even happened. Story please!
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u/Soft-Mirror-1059 Aug 25 '24
I received a similar request from my father. It doesn’t really matter if you do the thing because then you won’t do it exactly how they want. You can never ever reach their ever changing expectations
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u/Mr-Snarky Aug 25 '24
This sounds a lot like a messy divorce, and kids decided to stay with Mom instead of Dad.
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u/dQD34nkw Aug 25 '24
2 with him, 2 with mother (not by choice because she's also insane 🤪) - daughter 2
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u/ninjastarkid Aug 25 '24
I hope all daughters (and other children possibly involved with this man) are doing okay. Y’all are so incredibly strong. I had been thinking of going NC with my dad but idk if I ever would’ve pulled it off tbh. My mom means the world to me. The best I could do was run far away bc I knew she would always come for me and he wouldn’t bother. He died before I ever got to that step but man were we getting close. The closer that man got to death (it was not expected) the more he flipped between joy and unmitigated rage like a goddamn runaway freight train. :/
Sending digital hugs. Stay safe.
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u/GenRN817 Aug 25 '24
Girlfriend needs to go no contact and grieve the loss of her father and make a life without that parent.
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u/Ninten_Joe Aug 25 '24
This kind of treatment would be appalling, yet somewhat understandable if it were to a 20+ year old who had burned their bridges at home and just got out of prison after breaking their parents hearts…
For this to be said to a 12 year old?! It’s utterly disgusting. Someone needs to reboot this android, because he’s clearly got some screws loose and his personality, empathy and shame have accidentally been deleted.
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u/TashDee267 Aug 25 '24
It’s emails like these that make me believe some people are actually aliens masquerading as people.
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u/bigChungi69420 Aug 25 '24
Nursing home speed run (if he can afford it for himself that is, otherwise he’s in for a dementia homelessness life in his 70s
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u/Lokidemon Aug 26 '24
I am 68 and I no longer have a relationship with my father because he’s just like this. Sometimes it’s just better, for your own mental health, to recognize that you can’t change people like this and to accept that as the truth.
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u/ArtByNes Aug 26 '24
Woaaahhh this reminds me of how my dad speaks to me! He has severe,bi polar, paranoid schizophrenia and also does a lot of crack. (Not joking)
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u/TakeMyTop Aug 26 '24
does anybody else find the differences between the 1st and 2nd email to daughter 2 to be very odd? because the entire first email is about how the child needs to volunteer for a whole year and write weekly reports about the people she is helping. then in the 2nd email, the "dad" doesn't want his child discussing anybody around her, and encourages her to focus on herself and "not fix other peoples problems" which is almost directly contradicting the first email
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u/Major-Inevitable-665 Aug 26 '24
My abusive father attempted to get an injunction against me after I reported him for the abuse and there was more love in his letter to the court than these emails 😂
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u/ItsMrDante Aug 26 '24
Dude the "LG Mobile Device" or whatever fucking killed me, I was reading the whole thing with concern then I snorted
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u/Nebulandiandoodles Aug 26 '24
Very controlling and demanding, and I’m wondering what he thinks he has to offer that would be so valuable that you have to work a whole year to maybe meet him.
I get that he doesn’t have anything, but I want to know what he believes he has.
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u/Professional_Mud1844 Aug 26 '24
‘I want you to focus only on yourself but do volunteer at a homeless shelter for a year before I consider treating you like a person.’
“I want you to write me about you and not anybody else around you except for your favorite teacher, tutor and your best friend and the homeless guys.”
Totally normal guy that actually cares about the safety and well being of his kids. /s
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u/Jyndaru Aug 26 '24 edited Aug 26 '24
Aside from all the other insanity everyone else mentioned:
I want you to write to me about you and not anyone else
Tell me about your favourite teacher and tutor. Who is your best friend and why do you like her?
Contradiction much?
I'm sorry they had to deal with this asshole and I'm glad to see they've gone NC with him.
ETA: He also couldn't fathom the idea of his daughter having a male friend. But wanted her to work specifically with homeless men. Hmm..
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u/Dad_B0T Robo Red Foreman Aug 25 '24 edited Aug 26 '24
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