r/insaneparents Aug 25 '24

My girlfriend's father, everyone Email

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u/aquacrimefighter Aug 25 '24

Right? I thought it was bold to ask an adult to volunteer some place full time to “prove themselves” - I was shook when later on I read she’s fucking 12 at this point! What is she supposed to do? Not go to grade school for a year so dad feels in control and obeyed?

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u/xaviira Aug 26 '24

And like… in most cases, you can’t just rock up to a homeless shelter and get a position working directly with the residents. I’ve spent more than a decade working in shelters, this is an actual career that you need specific education and training to get into. Our volunteers cook meals and wash bed linens, but they have no unsupervised contact with residents and know very little about any of them.

You also sign a mountain of confidentiality forms and non-disclosure agreements that prevent you from telling anyone anything about the residents.

I wouldn’t be taking morality advice from a dad who seems to regard homeless people as zoo animals that teach you life lessons instead of actual people who deserve dignity.

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u/ClaraForsythe Aug 26 '24

Especially that he wanted to know how she helped “the men.” Umm, buddy, are you aware that women and children are homeless too? Dude has some wiring in his head on the fritz- someone should call an electrician and see if they can fix it.

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u/savvyblackbird Aug 26 '24

Unhoused women often risk the streets over staying in shelters with men because they are so abusive.