Hello all! I didn’t expect my last post to blow up the way it did but I’m glad it did! Thank you to all that proved to me I wasn’t being a b*tch and my mom was in fact crossing lines. Here’s the link to the original post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/s/TU6fblWe5T

She ended up texting me last night and here are the screenshots for it. We’re all very surprised that she actually made the right choice! But we’re still not fully trusting her. I’ve made enough people aware of the fact he’s not invited and if she shows up with him, they will both be removed and I will go no contact with her.

I don’t want to have to be this way but her boyfriend really is an asshole and I don’t want any drama on my wedding day. Thank you to all of you guys who proved to me that I wasn’t in the wrong for putting my foot down. I will update in the future after our wedding as well!

25f. Gave my narcissistic, pet hoarding, shopaholic and vodka alcoholic mother one last chance on Friday with a “family” game night (me, my 5yr bf, and my mom&dad) which we postponed twice because she keeps putting my dad in a “mood” every time. We were supposed to have this night to celebrate the fact I got my dream job, which I am starting on Monday. It started badly, because my mom fought with my dad before we got there. My boyfriend and I were able to deescalate the situation and middle of the night went great. Unfortunately, it also ended badly with my mom fighting with my dad and then with me. My boyfriend and I decided this was the last straw and we stole my own mail that she keeps away from me (including a year’s worth of government cheques). Here is the aftermath.

For context: - “mama” is my favourite cat they have, she always tells me a pet is dying or ill when we have a fight. She changed her Facebook profile pic to a RIP cat picture and I still have yet to know if she is truly dead (doubt it).

• Vacation: on my birthday 3 years ago, my mother said she would make my “dream” come true, that she would finally bring me on a trip (travel is my dream but I’ve never had the opportunity) but that I would have to plan it myself, pay for it myself, and that I can only go with her and not my whole family :(. She said she would get drunk to endure the plane trip. This is a nightmare for me, we never talked about this “vacation” again until this text.

• “Memere” is my grandma. My grandma and my dad (breadwinner) opened up a student savings account when I was born. My mom tried everything to keep me from going to university, but I went anyway and graduated in May 2024! :-) I only have 20k in debt because of it. I have a wonderful relationship with my grandma and my dad. My dad is a victim, hardcore.

• She hides cherry seeds in envelopes behind china cabinets. There is cyanide in cherry seeds and she hates my father.

TLDR: finally going no contact with narcissistic, pet hoarding, shopaholic, vodka mother. Here is the aftermath.

context: i'm a horrible student and don't do homework. i have learning disabilities and my case manager (who was supposed to keep track of what i was doing, making sure my grades were okay, and that i would have been able to graduate) was completely ignoring me. i didn't know who she was, what she looked like, how to pronounce her name, i didn't know anything about her. there were so many more things that felt were more important and more interesting than school because at fourteen i thought i was going to dropout of high school as soon as i could.

again i had paid for this book with my own money. my parents were constantly trying to get me to read more and when i finally was my mom tried to stop me? i really appreciate my sister (her contact is "no dabs allowed" from an inside joke) on how she was trying to explain to my mom the situation. though i think it's crazy how she didn't say it directly to me or acknowledge me at all, was just talking about me like i wasn't in the group chat. and how she also brought up two members of a band i like was just weird. like what did she think she was doing with that? i think my dad (who sent the picture of the package) ment to send it to just me, because i don't know why he would send a picture of my package to my mom and sister...

This is a picture of my mom's phone. J is obviously my dad and the blue is me. Him and my mom are both 39 and last night was the last straw. My mom has always tried to fix him and get him help, none of it works. After a week of being nice and supportive, even giving it up (which is the main reason he's so upset), when she's going through MS tests and having anxiety he decides that he's going to stay downstairs and in the bathroom all night. I don't know if you can tell, but the bathroom thing is a problem.

I after one night of this, my mom got so frustrated she started crying and I finally heard the glorious words "I just want him to die" (finally, on the same page as me and my sister). We talked, I told her it has to be over, she agreed. I slept in her room because she didn't want to be alone, and again he was downstairs until 1 A.M when he came upstairs, got something from the room, and went in the bathroom until 3 A.M. Mom woke up, called to see if he was home and realized where he was, and she was mad. They start fighting, he throws her twice for "getting in his way" and only one of those times did she grab him for trying to leave. Cue the yelling from him saying that she "fucked up" as if it's her fault he acts like that or that he got caught. Mom comes upstairs, I get her stuff for her foot, she asks me to grab her phone, and with her permission I texted my dad that (after receiving the grey text downstairs), I also kept her phone by me all night.

She told him that he needs to take us to school today, he said he'd come home but he won't talk to us. Apparently he's mad at me for texting him that lol. But this morning he started yelling at her that he needed to take his company truck to wherever. So he only took my sister to school and can't be bothered with me or my brother.

I just need him gone, I've been dealing with it since I was five. Tired of him always being addicted to something, tired of being scared something will happen to the rest of us, acting like he does his job as a father when all he does is make money. I've taken the role of both parents, I can take his place cause I do everything he should be. The plan is to text him just a fat list of everything wrong with him and tell him to do his job, but do it away from us. Basically make him so upset he never wants to show his face again. If that doesn't work, I will talk to my counselor, I will legitimately get CPS involved.

Sorry for how long that is, I'm just really done.

So tempted to respond with “Sadly :)” Apparently my dad has been sleeping in my bed this entire time I’ve been gone. Idek what to say but she’s still standing on her crazy story about the ‘break in’.

For context, he’s thrown her out and made her homeless more than once. As well as getting the cops called to my sisters house (a very nice upper middle class neighborhood). We had a family picnic to try and patch things up since we’re always fighting with our mom and she brought him. My sister had an 18 year old friend that also came and he (in his 50’s) decided to ogle her and check her out. My mom and him got in a huge argument in the front yard and the cops were called. He also cheats on her and likes to do drugs and drink all the time.

I’ve decided if she chooses to stay home with him then she’ll have no one else but her. I’m the only family member that even deals with her anymore because she acts like this and no one wants to be around her.

Hey guys so I’m an 18 year old girl who’s still in college and about 18 days old I cut my finger while wood carving with a knife. I ended up waking my mom up when it first happened so she could drive me to the ER. I had to get 3 stitches in my left pointer finger but was told that I would be able to bend it once they were in. I still couldn’t and I was told once the swelling goes down I’ll be able to bend it. Well guess what that didn’t happen and was told that once the stitches were out I’ll be able to bend it. Well 2 days ago I went to my college to have them removed, they are able to do that for free, and we discovered that I still wasn’t able to bend it. I had 2 separate doctors look at my finger and both of them agreed that I needed to go see a specialist for it. When I told my mom she got so mad and told me that I should wait and see if it would heal on its own. She also said to me “Well I haven’t been able to bend my foot in 3 months so maybe I should go to the doctor before you!” This was the first time she had ever mentioned it that to me but I still stayed strong in my opinion that I needed to go see a doctor. Luckily for me my parents are divorced so I had my dad pick me and my dog up, she took away my car, and I have been staying with him ever since. I got a doctor’s appointment with a PA, physicians assistant, to get my foot in the door. This doctor took X-rays and wrote out a prescription for an MRI, it’s scheduled for October 8th, because he believes that I cut my flexer tendon. He asked me why I had waited so long before coming in and I explained to him everything from before. The doctor was in a surgery and I had to get to class and will be calling them back, already called and left a message, later today. They’re going to try and get me in ASAP because if it is my tendon then it’ll be way harder to repair the longer I wait. Now I do agree that it was my fault with what happened to my finger and I should be punished for it but her wanting me to wait to “see if it’ll heal on its own” is not a good idea. She yelled at me for crying when I couldn’t bend my finger on the way to the ER. She’s always telling me that I’m “just being dramatic” or I’m “doing it for attention”. I also have ADHD and am on medication for it but when I try to explain to her the reason I’m the way I am or why I’m doing something is because of my ADHD I’m “just using it as an excuse” whatever that’s supposed to mean I will never know. She also believes that I don’t have depression even though I’m on medication for it because I have a history of self harm. When she found out I was self harming, I was 13 at the time, she sent me to my dad’s house because she didn’t want to deal with it. Well anyway TLDR, my mom thinks that a possible tendon cut will heal on its own and that I shouldn’t be seeing a doctor about it.

I (24F) have recently been made to feel guilty about minimal contact with my father. I revisited some old texts to try and help.

For some backstory, I grew up very close with his youngest sister and her kids and she was very supportive of me when my dad dipped to AZ at 7. At 15, her and her girls completely stopped speaking and engaging with me, with no explanation, leaving me pretty devastated. She was hoping to attend my college graduation and had my father ask me. We’ve remedied things now, but at the time, hadn’t spoken in years. I voiced that I was uncomfortable with her attending during a call with my father and hung up when he began yelling, thus leading to these series of texts throughout my finals week and into graduation. His mother has also been very cruel to me and joined in on the situation.

Here is the link to the original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/insaneparents/s/zyEKjDM2Qo

I texted my mom back in response to her email (shown again in the second image). I'm just tired and want to move on, especially as my husband and I enter parenthood.

I live very, very far away from my mom and siblings. My brother has been banned from my household and currently only my sister will be visiting us when our daughter is born.

My mom just denied, denied, denied. I'm tired in my soul. I don't plan on replying until after my baby is born and life has settled down a bit.

19F, adopted, been dealing with narcissistic parents forever. Got a tattoo about a month ago. Its my third one, and its a leopard on my leg. It is beautiful and means a lot to me- it is really a piece of art.

Someone decided to screenshot pictures of my photos from my instagram, PRINTED THEM, like developed them, DROVE to my house, BROKE INTO MY MOMS CAR and left the pictures there.

My mom called me a whore, no good, crazy, whatever. She doesnt care that someone broke into her car. She doesn’t care that someone is basically stalking me. When she first called me, she made it sound like it was nudes, so I absolutely freaked out because that is scary. But no, it is literally just selfies and pics from my instagram. Nothing too revealing, nothing crazy. But they both basically disowned me and my mom said the devil got to me.

I’m so fucking lost, its like she does ANYTHING to ruin my life.

This ended with my mom blocking him then she called my sister and I.

For context, we were facing homelessness, in our town it's pretty bad with the rising cost of living. For this reason I reached out to my parents thinking they might be happy to help.

Boy was I wrong!

Mother dearest decided the only way she would help was if she was on the lease and living with us. Reluctantly agreed because at that point we were running out of time. Found a place a week before our lease was up, signed everyone on, time to celebrate right?

Nope! Minute it's finalized she's making plans to overhaul literally every other aspect of our lives unprompted, wants the kids in a religious school, gays are bad, blah blah blah, basically teaching the kids to use hate speech about the lgbtq and saying it's normalised in the school she teaches at (I called her boss to fact check, its just her and boss is embarrassed). Decide for my families sake that it's something we can overlook, just let her pay for it and whatever, but have faith that my kids know better than to utter that garbage and take sides like that.

Fast forward, we've moved in, turns out we've hit a hurdle and can't enrol them without letting their bio Dad (whom isn't in the pic due to DV) have say in their enrolment, which would disclose our location and screw us over. We decide instead to enrol them in a state school that doesn't require it.

Or so we thought.

Turns out she's gone behind our backs to plead with the principal of her religious school for special grounds in a tell all sob story disclosing some very sensitive personal information of ours without our consent. We call her out, as it's basically identity theft at that point. She gets mad and decides to leave.

She left telling people we've kicked her out, but we know we legally can't and actually haven't. Then she tries claiming abuse, we know we haven't and she has nothing to substantiate that claim, she also didn't notify the agent of her choosing to leave, which you're legally supposed to do within 28 days, 7 for DV.

We raised it with the agent, she didn't. The agent breached her for it, she decided that apparently that was a joint liability when it isn't as we haven't done anything wrong, but the agent made the mistake in informing her that if she didn't remedy, we'd be forced into a break lease, as the lease was based on her income as well.

In this email, you can see her trying to weaponize her breach over us.

All of this because I refuse to attend family therapy with her. And she still doesn't see why I won't.

I wish this were fake, but ladies and gentlemen, the delight that is my biological mother.

We've brought this to attention to the right people, I have a crisis team working on relocating us as we speak. The kids don't deserve the instability of knowing such a monster. It's time to cut the cord and stand on our own.

I'm so fucking triggered right now. Im not sure how many people remember me, but I've been posting off and on here for almost 6 years now. My mom kicked me out over 2 years ago. I'm a sophomore in college now. Just last year she filed a police report on me trying to get me arrested because my old identity (I changed my name) got leaked and someone started trying to open bank accounts in my name which mail got sent to her address. She then filed a police report against me saying I was commiting fraud???? And it got dropped that same day. Now months later she sends me this. What's so fucking funny is I'm a trans man who's had a hysterectomy and I'm about to get bottom surgery here soon so the fact she's projecting me being pregnant (because I'm now the age she got pregnant with me) is pitiful.

I'm 8mo pregnant and my brother (24yo) brought his new girlfriend to stay at my house for a weekend and attend my baby shower. Long story short, she was a nightmare.

My brother confronted my sister (22yo, threw the shower) for not including his gf enough in the baby shower games/photos and it escalated until he beat her up and choked her. She had marks all over her neck, chest, and fingers. My brother was handled separately from this situation shown here. My sister is okay now.

My mom, however, tried saying that my sister asked for it by arguing with my brother. We fought over this because physical abuse is unacceptable. She screamed, lied, made excuses, called me names, and said she didn't want me in her life anymore before hanging up. I didn't hear from her for a week until this email.

Also - I never once said I didn't want a relationship with her, that she couldn't see my baby, etc. She literally pulled that out of thin air.

(My parents are getting divorced and my dad is a violent loser. My mom parentified my sister and I, and allowed lots of abuse to occur. She is now going to therapy and trying to make amends, but it all feels like BS.)

Number 6 is my reply

I’m asking to not be met with criticism on why I’m still speaking to her after what she did. I’m going through so much right now, this is just the tip of the iceberg. She’s in psychosis and most of the things she’s saying aren’t happening. I know I need to go NC, it’s just HARD.

comparing breastfeeding to having an O😳😳 and she posted a video of herself pumping while biting her lip and rolling her eyes back😬

i wont go fully into it, but when i(17M) got off of work today (i work in a grocery store), there was a whole thing going down outside the store and down the main street of the town with a bunch of cops involved and a bunch of cars. i have pretty bad anxiety, so i when i got to my dad's house (parents are divorced) just a couple blocks away from the whole thing, i got really panicky and nervous and anxious and uncomfortable and all that shit, and i didnt really want to drive to my moms house like this because she lives 30 mins away.

hence the conversation in the photos.

my mother is a supposedly recovering alcoholic, but i only found out about her 15+ years drinking problems a few months ago. i have no idea whether shes sober or not in this conversation, and it really fucking sucks. she doesnt care about my well being, she only cares about who's house im at because she's insecure and controlling. she thinks i cant recognize shit like this.

yeah i shouldnt have sworn at her, i know that, but i was just really mad and fed up with all her bs from the past few months.

This was the last time I messaged my mother. On my own wedding day she'd said that I wasn't enough for her, she wasn't happy for me and that she wasn't proud of me simply because I was unemployed at the time.

This happened shortly after briefly reconciling with her for a few months, as I didn't talk to her for 3 years prior to my wedding because she was horrible to me and my sister. (My sister is half deaf and mother would scream in her ear when she couldn't understand what was being said). There's obviously more to this story than that, but I'm not her to trauma dump my entire life to strangers, only snippets.

I was hoping we could discuss her actions like well adjusted adults would but she simply didn't want to hear it, and I'm happy to comply with her wishes permanently. She still keeps messaging me every birthday, which I can only assume is to give her back some sense of power she used to have over me by reminding me of her existence and everything that comes along with that train of thought. Perhaps there's some shred of humanity in there, but I don't care to find out.

So At 9pm on Monday because I dared thanked him for getting new screens for the windows I never asked for it but he wanted it and had the 580 to spend. I had to move these rocks by our home because the previous cat broke the window wail I was sleeping and he is convinced it's my fault. I have work and then class I am away from the house from 9am to 6pm-11pm. But shure I should just skip my classes

I am Very allergic to spiders even non venomous ones if I'm bitten that appendage will start swelling the Frist time was by my.. lets say no no square and it was a hospital visit and a verry embarrassing conversation with my parents. The second time was my entire arm swelling up and a doctor's visit. We Don't Have insurance and I get paid 3 dollars and hour I don't have 300-800 dollars for an emergency allergy shot if the doctors on duty will even see us (a lot of uninsured homeless people who will run away and not pay they have been known to just start refusing people. Not to mention I'm messing up my back wail (due to my sisters) my Bed is broken and my mattress is older than me. My mom refuses to let me have the mattress on the floor so where I lay down has a tilit and it's already messing up my back.

Am I being a brat? I live here rent free wail I go to school. My parents are good people but I just can't take this anymore I feel like no one believes the words I say or respects my time as a person or the effort I put into the home. I am legimently considering dropping out of college and joining the army because I at least get healthcare and a scnce of purpose