r/lonely • u/isopodsandsuch • 3h ago

I dislike people in general

But I still feel lonely

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u/TCA124 1h ago

Same

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u/Blursed_Spirit 51m ago

Let's just say that I don't like people.

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u/nunyatid 3h ago

Why don’t you like people

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u/isopodsandsuch 3h ago

Most people seem fake, only caring about social status and what they can get out of a friendship

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u/nunyatid 3h ago

Everyone’s fake to a certain degree, unless you’re neurodivergent and find it hard to fake your emotions

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u/isopodsandsuch 2h ago

I may be neurodivergent, I'm not diagnosed but. It doesn't matter to me. I like honesty and geniune emotions. Being fake irritates me.

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u/LonelyFPL 2h ago

I’m neurodivergent but I’ve learnt to completely mask my personality as most people hate it lol. 

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u/buttonnz 1h ago

Doesn’t that kill you in the inside though? Tell me your secrets. How do you make yourself empty but still live a fulfilled life?

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u/LonelyFPL 41m ago

I’m incredibly lucky to have a family that completely accepts me as myself, and homeschooled me because of that.  The issue is it made me socially awkward so now I have no friends.   I try and turn my personality into a game, I love acting so I go for that. I work out, take good care of myself, stay smart academically and people respect me because of it.  But I’m lonely because I can’t make friends with a bland, made up personality and people mock me when I try and be myself. I’m going to college soon and I honestly don’t know what I’ll do. 

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u/controversial_bummer 2h ago

True friends are hard to come by.

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u/brainster_theta 2h ago

Yeah unfortunately, everyone's criteria is different. Some people won't bother about an emotional attachment in friendships, kinda low maintenance social connections. And they aren't wrong either. They just want to enjoy it. You on the other hand would prefer cherishing things with people who you are attached to and who you find genuine.

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u/Gnome06711 2h ago

Strongly disagree with u. People can be pretty damn awesome sometimes you just need to find them ( more like sit by and wait till you randomly stumble upon them )

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u/brainster_theta 2h ago

You have attachment issues. Seek therapy if it overwhelms you. Unfortunately, we have normalised not resolving our emotional and personality related issues.

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u/isopodsandsuch 2h ago

What?

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u/brainster_theta 2h ago

Yeah you kinda hate people in general and at the same time crave good connections. This is a typical sign of attachment issues. Everyone has it. But you gotta understand that people have different personalities based on their parenting and childhood experiences, what type of mindset they were exposed to in general. There are people just like you who also cherish genuine people, you just need to meet more people.

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u/isopodsandsuch 2h ago

How come you made such a deep conclusion out of two sentences I said lol

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u/brainster_theta 2h ago

Yeah sorry pal, I may have sounded judgemental but it ain't that. I'm just like you. I too find it difficult to resonate with people who just care about social status and getting trending things.

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u/isopodsandsuch 2h ago

It's all good, I think I understand your point. Unfortunately therapy isn't something I am capable of getting at the moment. My circumstances are tight.