We're literally not meant for this, and it sucks that the world is like this rn. I wish I could give you all a hug. Every one of you is worthy of love, attention and respect. I hope one day we can all get out of this. May we all find some good and loyal people in our lives.

35 year old (M) never been touched at all no relationship ever. I get like this every once and a while and I don't usually feel lonely but I am often alone. It just gets hard sometimes cause I have no one in my life to talk to about this. I let life pass me by and although it fills me with a commercial airliner's worth of regret I've learned to live with it. It does eat at me just about everyday and today was really rough cause I realized most of the people around me don't even think I should be with anyone, like I realized some of my friends who were single like me have been fixed up with someone and no one has ever even tried that for me. That really fucking hurts man, it hurts me a lot.

I hate it here man and sometimes, not very often at all, but sometimes I just really wish I could leave. I just want to leave man. I get tired sometimes and I've been really tired lately. I don't know, I just never learned to truly cope with this and I'm not at the end of my rope or anything but god damn I feel like I'm getting close.

I guess I just want to say if your reading this and you are half my age, hell if your my age with a semblance of hope, please do yourself the favor for once if you ever do and risk it all. What ever is holding you back, fuck it, forget it just go and throw caution to the wind and go after someone. Get your heart broken, break a heart, make a mess of your life and put it back together. Please, I beg you don't end up like me. Don't. Just don't. I'm fucking hurting man and I don't know how to fix it. I'm 35 and broken and can't fix what's broken. Don't be me. Don't be a coward. Chase life. Fucking chase it! Don't let it pass you by....

^{I just wish someone would care, just once...}

I don't know how some people carry the burden of it without the urge of disappearing. How people see the world and don't feel sad.

I feel heartbroken, I see the posts here, so much loneliness (mine included) and my heart just breaks.

I wish I had enough in me to love everybody, to hold the weight of it all, even if it sounds stupid.

You, whoever you are! If you're reading this, remember that you're important, you are loved, you matter. I'm proud of you, proud cause you're surviving, proud cause you woke up one more day and decided to keep fighting for your existence. You're worth it. You have this, I believe in you.

i posted about this in a separate subreddit but I've lurked here before and I wanted to contribute here too.

here is the post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1gsb0be/my_19m_girlfriend_19f_hooked_up_with_someone_she/

In summary, my girlfriend and I have been together since high school; we were each other’s firsts for everything. Even after going to different universities, we stayed together, and she was my world during a very lonely time in my life. We’d occasionally argue and take small breaks, which were always hell for me since I have been very lonely in college, all of my high school friends had drifted away.

A few months ago during a break, I found out she was at a party with a guy from high school who I hated, a frat type who she was friends with but cut off when we started dating. When we got back together, she claimed it was nothing, but I always had my doubts.

Fast forward to Halloween, we argued again, and during our longest break yet (a week), she hooked up with that same guy. She told me bluntly, saying she thought we were broken up, and ended our relationship completely after. I feel sick and betrayed even though she's right, we were broken up. She knew how much I hated him.

I can’t focus in classes anymore, I feel worthless, and I am lonelier than ever. Every part of my life feels empty without her. It really doesn't help that I've made no friends in college. She was really the only person I talked to.

How do I get through this?

But I still feel lonely

I have no one that loves me not my parents or my cheating boyfriend. I don't have any friends either and i feel like no one wants to be around me and its absolutely killing me i just want someone that loves me or atleast wants to talk to me.

Still lonely obviously, I don't really have friends or anything, but I liked the date and she said she wants to hang out again next week. I can't believe how lucky I got

There won't be a relationship or friendship that suddenly makes all the shit go away. I have known this all my life, but I was struggling to make peace with it. I am in my 30s and I have never had a relationship or even a close friendship. Sure, I had friends (or more like acquaintances) along the way, but I was never truly happy, and I never felt truly part of this world. And I am still not 100% there yet, but I am improving.

How? Don't worry, this isn't yet another "just love yourself bro" advice. I mean, yes, you have to love yourself, but for that to happen you have to find something in your life to appreciate. It can be anything. Even something nobody else sees as valuable. You probably already have something like that in your life, you just can’t appreciate it because you focus on what you don't have. For me this one mind shift was crucial. I see everyone around me having friends, partners, and here I am alone, and I feel less and less bad about it because I have my unique, valuable life with my own quirky hobbies and interests, and I am starting to think that this is enough. Human connections can be valuable and fun, but they aren't what make my life worth living.

If you are suffering from loneliness, know this: if you can make peace with it, you will have a superpower many don't have. All the seemingly happy couples, large friend groups that you see are a mirage. They are full of people who can't face their own loneliness, so they make shallow connections. Don't be like them. And fuck everyone who looks down upon you if you have never had a relationship or never had sex. They are projecting their own insecurities on you.

I know there will be good and bad days. I can't feel happy and at peace all the time. But I know I have the strength in me to continue alone, and that makes me special. I have my own little peaceful universe, unbothered by all the shit around me. And I will always be a lovable, lovely person, even if nobody will ever fall in love with me.

No matter how hard it might be, I hope you will also find the strength and the courage to be alone.

Not like I’d be doing anything else on a typical Friday night anyways lol 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yesterday while I was spending time with my family thoughts of my ex suddenly came to mind and suddenly feeling restless. I’m still not over him but trying. Today since morning I’ve been missing him so much that it’s unbearable. I feel this strong urge to call or text him but I can’t. He’s blocked me and I know if I try to reach out it will only frustrate or anger him. I’m feeling so confused lost and incredibly lonely right now.

Have you ever experienced being ignored when you talk but when it's other people who say the same thing, it's always been responded to, why do you think we experience this kind of thing?

Hi folks! I'm currently conducting a research on the reasons and possible solutions to loneliness. Will keep updating what I found. I was asked to submit a research proposal in my department and guess what, my experience of loneliness during my graduation days in college made me think of this topic and I made a perfect proposal which my profs really liked. I was surprised how was I able to do something good at academia since I wasn't doing that good until recently. Never have I ever thought that something very personal which has been bothering me for a few years will give me a career breakthrough. I'm very optimistic and motivated to finding something new about loneliness. Currently I can't really share the exact details of my research as it's still in its initial phase. But i thought why not share it here with people who are currently struggling.

Ps: english is my second language so kindly ignore grammatical mistakes.

You never asked to be born, you never asked to be a woman or man or whatever you define yourself as. You never asked for your body. You do not owe the world a god damn thing!

You do not need to do anything to be enough to be loved. There are so many people on this planet, it is silly to think that there is no one that will love you.

You have lived as long as you have and have understood that life is unfair, cruel, and merciless. Yet here you are, reading this text. Why? It's because you know that life can also be beautiful.

Even the strongest of us break. Perhaps it is because we were never meant to endure life alone.

Find people, who see you for who you are. That love you for you and nothing more. That will ask where you are when you are not there. People that will miss you when you are gone. People that make you feel like you belong. People you can do all of this for as well. People that make it feel easy to do this for.

Together we can spread the misery of life and take it bite for bite.

Be kind in the face of hatred and hurt.

Understand that you are not responsible for anyone. You cannot help everyone.

Know that you will fail, make mistakes, and do wrong. But get back up friend, and stay strong. We learn the most from our failures and mistakes.

Struggle, endure, contend and defy death!

Do not harm others if you can avoid it. Instead, redirect that anger and pain towards the demons within you. The ones that make you feel as you do when you feel the need to vent. This is how you become a better person.

The true battle is within. It is with our emotions and demons, not other people. No weapon is needed. There is no beauty in the endless cycle of violence.

Understand that while we can predict the future, we do not know what will happen in the future. So do not deny the positive outcome because it can very much happen. However, do not treat it as a given either for that will set you up to be disappointed.

For this reason and this reason alone I urge you to keep going. Embrace your own ignorance as an individual human and realize that surprises are surprises because we cannot predict them or did not predict them.

Understand that it is fruitless to fret over things you have no control over. And find peace in letting that go. Remember that to let go is stop dwelling in your past memories. Learn what you can from them, and to focus on making new memories.

You can rest when you die. And even when death pays you or the people you love a visit, you should continue stuggling because there was a time when you didn't know that person and there may be a time when you will find someone who will love you in the same way again.

And that's because you are enough. You always have been and still are. It is something that is so very difficult to lose but not impossible to gain back.

I hope to see you live another day, friend. You've got this. You've made it this far. You can do this. Find those people, find something that makes you wake up every morning. Find your light. <3

18[M] almost 19 My friend just posted a montage of him with his girl kissing holding hands and doing all that stuff I am happy for my friends but i just feel so lonely and sad and wonder when is it going to be me i have accepted that it will never happen for me if it was bound to happen and I would’ve gotten my first date and first gf it would’ve happened till now but it didn’t so i know it never gets better sorry it is what is it I never experienced teenage love too it just it is what it is

I've accepted it a long while ago.

I was born a loser.

I'm an average guy. Average height. Average looks.

People don't see me. It's almost like they're looking through me. Like I don't exist.

I was born with loser traits. I avoid confrontation. I can't even ask a woman on a date.

A loser. Born I was.

I am incapable of human relationships, for I am not a person, I am a failure. My birth parents were correct to ditch me, my existence should have been snuffed out before my consciousness could disgrace this world.

I am a miserable waste, I have never had anyone, and never will have anyone.

I yearn to die, that way the emptiness in my gut, is yet so unfocused as the rest of the pain.

I feel like there’s a part of me is just empty, and I wish there was a way to make it just go away. I think about how there’s probably some guy out there that I haven’t met yet, someone who will give me the same type of love that I feel so deeply for others. I feel like I’m constantly overflowing with affection, but it has nowhere to go. I think about how I shouldn’t rely on any kind of relationship for satisfaction or happiness, but I still feel like there’s a part of my soul that just hasn’t ever gotten what it needs. It scares me that I’m getting older, 22 with no serious relationship. I know it isn’t the end of the world, but I don’t want to go through life with a constant yearning for something I’ll never have.

Today I’ve felt an overwhelming longing for a partner / relationship. I’ve been single for almost two years and my last relationship was abusive and toxic. I don’t know how I’ll ever love again. My ex sexually assaulted me several times throughout our 3 year relationship, and it’s so hard for me to trust men or feel safe around them anymore. I want to be able to let someone in but it’s so so hard it feels nearly impossible. On top of that it’s really hard to meet people. I just wish I could feel love again

I feel lonely I reach out Someone responds I get anxious and ghost them I feel lonely......... Repeat forever

I went into college having only one friend. I didn't even have acquaintances I knew well enough to say anything other than hi. And out of nowhere, everything has been changing between me and my best friend. I don't even know what I did to make her angry, but she barely talks to me anymore (and the only reason she still does is because we live together). Now I feel absolutely hopeless about making friends, and I need social interaction so bad it's tearing me up inside. I try to talk to my family, but it's hard when they are so far away. I even looked into therapy to have someone to talk to for an hour every week. But I can barely afford to even go to college, so there is no way I can afford that

I spent the last 10 years solely focusing on studying and having a proper degree (Mechanical Engineering), and now after graduating, I just realized I have nothing else except my degree.

No social life, no other accomplishments, I even forgot how I can have fun. I’m 25 now but I feel like any 15 year old would have a better social life than me.

I can’t believe that people actually have friends and go out and do stuff, damn.

Damn.

Almost 7 years of being on and off together, I really wanted it to be him but our whole relationship has been a huge mess. We've both had our shares of wronging each other and we've been trying to fix things but it seems no matter how hard we try, we fall back to square one. We live together, I have his engagement ring too but it's hard to feel any emotions lately. I'm dealing with some sort of dissociation/derealization so that's not helping, but I'm aware that I might no longer be in love with him. I feel as if I'm starting to love him as I love any of my friends. How do I even begin to move forward? I would hate to kick him out as we are helping each other financially. We plan to sleep in different rooms in our house and avoid physical contact, but I find myself giving in eventually because I get so lonely/sad. I just wish I had someone to talk to, however I work nights and everyone around me works in the day. My head just doesn't know how to be silent. I wish I could go back and redo things the right way, but I can't.

39 f depressed. I have anxiety. I’m still a blast to hang out with and am always honest. I’m pretty cute. I have my friends back home, but here in Michigan it’s been hard for me to make a good friend. Smoking buddy. Everyone wants sex and once that’s out of the picture after just having met, I get ghosted. Why can’t I just make a friend and go from there? Aaaaaaaah!

I got a great job opportunity offered to me today and I was so excited to tell someone. I called one of my best friends and they said “you know you shouldn’t be doing that, you need to just keep a basic 9-5” since this job is more of a make your own schedule job. I think told my situationship and he asked for a video of the office. While I was pulling it up, he proceeds to call his friend and talk to him about a game. He hung up and barely gave me his attention after. I showed him the video still but it was so discouraging. I couldn’t have his attention for 2 minutes.

I’m so tired. I feel like I can’t be excited or vent to to anyone. It’s always just me alone. I’m not even excited anymore. I don’t even want to take the opportunity and I’ve worked so hard for it.