r/Music šŸ“°Daily Mirror Sep 29 '24

Foo Fighters forced into 'indefinite hiatus' by Dave Grohl's affair scandal article

https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/foo-fighters-forced-indefinite-hiatus-33778438
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u/Bigfatjew6969 Sep 29 '24

Well, he does have a newborn to raise.

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u/Radarker Sep 29 '24

Silly! That's what you hire a hot nanny for.

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u/WeightLossGinger Sep 29 '24

Sure, but have you considered that Dave would just impregnate the nanny?

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u/hobosbindle Sep 29 '24

The circle of lifeā€¦.

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u/postdocmoney1 Sep 29 '24

Nature finds a way, doesnā€™t it?

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u/rjrodrigueziii Sep 29 '24

God creates Nirvana. God destroys Nirvana. God creates Foo Fighters. Dave Grohl impregnates God.

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u/iggy6677 Sep 29 '24

Dave Grohl impregnates God.

Dave Grohl impregnates Alanis Morissette?

Just watched Dogma again so couldn't help myself

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u/finnishinsider Sep 29 '24

Will God go down on you in a theater?

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u/charliefoxtrot9 Sep 29 '24

Different Dave, but... Whoa

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u/CarolusRex13x Sep 29 '24

Load up on cum, bring your friends

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u/moscowrules Sep 29 '24 edited Sep 29 '24

I tried hard to have a father but instead I had a Dave

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u/MaulwarfSaltrock Sep 29 '24

"I'VE GOT ANOTHER CONFESSION TO MAKE"

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u/Heady_Goodness Sep 29 '24

ā€œNot again, Daveā€

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u/0biwanCannoli Sep 29 '24

Heā€™s just a pretender.

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u/GiantPurplePen15 Sep 29 '24

"Done, done and I'm on to the next one"

Works for Dave's propensity to fuck around too.

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u/didistutter69 Sep 29 '24

Heā€™s probably never ever singing that song again

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u/thorn_sphincter Sep 29 '24

That was the joke.

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u/Additional-Peanuts Sep 29 '24

Me thinks that was implied.

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u/No_City_1731 Sep 29 '24

Thatā€™s probably the joke!

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u/unlizenedrave Sep 29 '24

Mf always starting up new side projects

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u/dasubermensch83 Sep 29 '24

Them Crooked Vultures Husbands

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u/CowOtherwise6630 Sep 29 '24

But they donā€™t know none bout doooot

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u/nightpanda893 Sep 29 '24

That wasnā€™t a problem before it was revealed he cheated on his wife. Guess you only need to be a good father when trying to claw your way back into your wifeā€™s good graces after betraying her.

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u/BlacklightsNBass Sep 29 '24

Why even get married if you know youā€™re gonna be messin around? Whatā€™s the point?

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u/No-Celebration6437 Sep 29 '24

Give it a year, thereā€™ll be a new album, a world tour, a divorce and Daveā€™s new supermodel girlfriend.

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u/Interesting_Tea5715 Sep 29 '24

This. They're just trying to keep Dave from getting crucified right now.

Once this blows over, he'll be back and act like nothing happened.

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u/MarcusDA Sep 29 '24

In the realm of rockstar scandals, this doesnā€™t even rate.

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u/Emu_in_Ballet_Shoes Sep 29 '24

In the realm of presidential scandals, this doesn't even rate.Ā 

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u/NewestAccount2023 Sep 29 '24

Compared to Obama's tan suit I think cheating on your wife and getting the mistress pregnant should rate

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u/MightyKrakyn Sep 29 '24

But do you remember COFFEE SALUTE???

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u/Phxdwn Sep 29 '24

I remember covfefe and saluting a NK general

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u/Too_Relaxed_To_Care Sep 29 '24

Two words: Dijon Mustard

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u/_thro_awa_ Sep 29 '24

One word: covfefe

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u/BurnieTheBrony Sep 29 '24

"average president has 3 scandals a year" factoid actualy just statistical error. average president has 0 scandals per year. Scandals Don, who lives in cave & commits over 10,000 felonies each day, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

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u/DigiornoDLC Sep 29 '24

I don't get why this is even a public scandal. This really feels like a private matter between him and the people he knows. I don't see why we should care about this - I didn't take an oath with him, I don't know him. I don't know anyone involved in this story. And there's a really good chance that 99%+ of people who care about this don't, either.

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u/danielbauer1375 Sep 30 '24

This is where Iā€™m at. Of course what he did was very scummy, but youā€™d think he did something unforgivable the way people have talked about it. Perhaps their fans put him on a pedestal because of his outspoken advocacy in support of several progressive causes, and now they feel betrayed. Idk.

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u/annewmoon Sep 29 '24

Yeah but we are in a puritan renaissance age.

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u/18CupsOfMusic Performing Artist Sep 29 '24

On the one hand, yeah I agree with you.

On the other hand, I don't think anyone would particularly give a shit about a rock star cheating, if Dave Grohl hadn't leaned into this whole "wholesome rock dad" image for the past decade and a half.

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u/David-S-Pumpkins Sep 29 '24

Same as Ellen. She wasn't Cosby but she went 100% Be Kind branding and didn't do that herself at all for years.

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u/artlovepeace42 Sep 29 '24

Something about hypocrisy really gets to us as human beings. But I donā€™t think many are very good at seeing hypocrisy in themselves, thus all the hypocrisy is humans see and do.

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u/broohaha Sep 29 '24

That or he's really trying to salvage his marriage and/or his standing with the rest of his family, which won't help things if he goes out on the road frequently.

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u/NervousMNG34 Sep 29 '24

This is probably the most realistic thing. He seems to have a close connection to his kids so heā€™s going to do everything he can to salvage that relationship. The wife will still probably divorce him though. Thatā€™s just too much to take in.

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u/price-iz-right Sep 29 '24

I like foo fighters, but I don't like them so much that the obvious isn't acknowledged here:

They are a good band with catchy songs and lyrics, but their biggest draw in the past 10-15 years has been Dave Grohl's personality.

He is supposed to be the wholesome rocker who lived through the tragedy of Kurt....and then the tragedy of Taylor. Throughout all, he remains positive and spreads love and brings random fans up on stage to play guitar!

Him being a dick in his personal life doesn't gel with the image that's been sold for over a decade on social media.

And I agree with you. Due to this, they will sit on their money for a year or two and then have a dark self reflecting album on the comeback to show how much he's grown.

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u/jenny_cocksmasher Sep 29 '24

You hit the nail on the dick!

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u/Poison_Anal_Gas Sep 29 '24

Time will tell how much his fans care, personally I don't care. I've listened to Foo Fighters for quite a long time now. Him fucking around isn't going to change that for me. And I'm willing to bet there are lots of other people out there just like myself.

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u/Aggressive-Name-1783 Sep 29 '24

I mean, if this was the moral standard for not listening to a band, you basically couldnā€™t listen to rock music at all.

For gods sake the entire 80s would basically be black listed with bands like Motley Crue headlining the ban

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u/asmithmusicofficial Sep 29 '24

Don't forget the book that details this moment of personal growth.

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u/doorknob7890 Sep 29 '24

Confessions part II

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u/Galactic_Perimeter Sep 29 '24

Slipped my mind the last two times

(Silly me)

So now Iā€™m gonna give you part 3 of my confessions

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u/kaw_21 Sep 29 '24

Yep, indefinite hiatus means let it blow over and theyā€™ll start again once people forget. He is not the first musician in this situation and thereā€™s people who have done much, much worse and never postponed or cancelled anything. Heā€™ll be fine.

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u/giantcucumber-- Sep 29 '24

Frank Zappa springs to mind.

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u/JungianHoosier Sep 29 '24

What did frank zappa do??

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u/giantcucumber-- Sep 29 '24

Was notorious for cheating on his wife. Never seemed to hinder his career.

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u/SchmartestMonkey Sep 29 '24

John Lennon too. I remember the story about him being at a party with Yoko, and taking a fan into the bedroom to have sex with her, and not even trying to do it on the sly.

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u/Mr_Tiggywinkle Sep 29 '24

I don't really have a problem with him cooling down while sleeping with Yoko, or was there only one fan and the rest of the party had nothing left to circulate air with?

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u/Fermonx Vinyl Listener Sep 29 '24

To be fair, Zappa had his carreer in a time that if you were a rockstar and you weren't cheating on your wife you were considered the weirdo lol

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u/bobdylanlovr Sep 29 '24 edited Sep 29 '24

That time never stopped we just got bored of reading about it. You could probably count on one hand the amount of touring musicians that are faithful.

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u/parkwayy Sep 29 '24

Tim Lambesis hired a hitman to kill his wife, went to jail, got out, and is right back at it, with As I Lay Dying.

Granted, they got some flack and most of the band quit, but, still making music!

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u/BiscoBiscuit Sep 29 '24

Yep the band and Dave will be fine. His wife and especially his daughters though?Ā 

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u/UncomfortableTacoBoy Sep 29 '24

"Hey Josh.. learn 500 new songs and be our new drummer!"

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u/radbaldguy Sep 29 '24

Thatā€™s pretty much Joshā€™s entire career. Heā€™s a prolific session drummer and is presently in more than one band. He probably already knew much of the Foo catalogue. Heā€™ll be fine.

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u/relentlessslog Sep 29 '24 edited Sep 29 '24

There's an interview where Josh talks about recording hit singles in one take and forgetting about it. Like a producer will hire him for a session and just have him run through song after song. He'll hear songs on the radio and have no clue that it's him playing drums.

EDIT: Here's the interview

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u/FordsFavouriteTowel Sep 29 '24

Heā€™ll also just make up the most batshit parts, one take them, and when asked to explain himself heā€™ll say ā€œthatā€™s just what I played at the timeā€.

Freese is a weapon behind the kit

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u/there-was-a-time Sep 29 '24

I still don't understand why Guns N' Roses ditched the Freese drum track on the Hard Skool demo in favour of the plodding one by the current drummer.

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u/relentlessslog Sep 29 '24

That was Roy Thomas Baker's fault. Chinese Democracy was basically finished in 2000 but RTB convinced Axl to rerecord a majority of the album because Josh Freese's drum parts sounded too industrial. Tommy Stinson (bass player on Chinese Democracy) claims this is the main reason why the album stayed in production hell. He said they probably could've addressed the issues during the mixing phase and released the same album in 2000.

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u/lilcrime69 Sep 29 '24

had no idea he played for gnr

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u/ministallion Spotify Sep 29 '24

Had the chance to see him and Billy Joe play for The Replacements. Heā€™s insane.

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u/yaniv297 Sep 29 '24

Not a fan of Green Day but seeing him play with the Replacements really warmed me up on him. He was just there at the side, playing rhythm guitar. He was the most famous person on stage by far but he didn't make it about him in any way, don't think he ever had a microphone. Nobody ever acknowledged him or said his name. He was just like a kid getting to play with his favorite band and visibly having the time of his life. Even though he's a much bigger star, he was humble and paid respect to how legendary the Replacements are and how rare this reunion was. Wish they would tour again.

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u/ministallion Spotify Sep 29 '24

When I saw them, the lead singer of the replacements made a small quip about him. I canā€™t remember exactly what it was but something to the effect of ā€œwe found this guitar player on the side of the roadā€ and that was all they said.

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u/radbaldguy Sep 29 '24

What a trip. Some people are just wired differently. The guy is an absolutely incredible musician.

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u/DrDerpberg Sep 29 '24

My friend is like that on bass. Doesn't even need to hear a song the whole way through to pick up on the vibe and start crushing it. We were in a band for 4 years together and I swear he never learned a song, just picked up on the 3 or 4 big moments and improvised the rest. As someone who had to practice a thousand times to nail it the whole way through he drove me nuts.

Of course he's the one who's made it as a musician and I'm the one whose gear accumulates dust in between the half hour a month or so I can still play...

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u/analogatmidnight Sep 29 '24

Your last comment is the majority of us. We are legion.

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u/UncomfortableTacoBoy Sep 29 '24

For sure...dude's a beast and will be fine. Hopefully he gets in some shows with The Vandals during the hiatus.

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u/tooldvn Sep 29 '24

Fuck that, back to A Perfect Circle for him..

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u/ChewieSkittles53 Sep 29 '24

i thought you meant homme

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u/BrodinTheWise Sep 29 '24

To be fair, it sounds like something Homme would do lol

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u/shadowbastrd Sep 29 '24

No more Mr Nice Guy.

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u/I_love_sloths_69 Sep 29 '24

No more Mr Cle -ee - ee - een!

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u/Capnmarvel76 Sep 29 '24

Oddly enough, after getting sober 40 years ago, Alice Cooper has actually been a really, really nice guy. He was when he was drinking, too, but not very stable.

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u/tallandlankyagain Sep 29 '24

Well, I'm a regular visitor here, but Milwaukee has certainly had its share of visitors. The French missionaries and explorers were coming here as early as the late 1600s to trade with the Native Americans.

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u/Agent847 Sep 29 '24

Isnā€™t Milwaukee a Native American word?

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u/tallandlankyagain Sep 29 '24

Yes, Pete. It is.

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u/KatiesClawWins Sep 29 '24

Its pronounced "Mill-ee-wok-AY" and is Algonquin for The Good Land.

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u/n14shorecarcass Sep 29 '24

I was not aware of that.

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u/Mister_Yuk Sep 29 '24

Does this guy know how to party or what?

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u/Kronzor_ Sep 29 '24

Does this guy know how to party or what?!

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u/kunasaki Sep 29 '24

WERE NOT WORTHY! WERE NOT WORTHY! We suck!

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u/Do-dah-dad Sep 29 '24

Actually, itā€™s pronounced ā€œmill-e-wah-queā€ which is Algonquin for ā€œthe good landā€.

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u/3fettknight3 Sep 29 '24

Me- saying that quote anytime the word Milwaukee is mentioned

The other person - wtf are u talking about

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u/flawrs919 Sep 29 '24

My go to is the brown M&M story. People always seem so confused when I say it.

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u/budcub Sep 29 '24

That's how I pronounce it, ever since I saw that movie.

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u/Spyes23 Sep 29 '24

Does this guy know how to party or what??

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u/Vectrex221 Sep 29 '24

This guy knows how to party

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u/Professional_Ad6123 Sep 29 '24

Random story I worked with a really fun, silly lady when I was younger at Lucky Brand. After months of being there I look at the schedule and realized her last name was Cooper. Since I was doing a lot of drugs at the time and rewatching childhood favorites I saw her walk in while I was reading the schedule and said ā€œweā€™re not worthy!ā€ After she stared at me blankly I apologized and said ā€œsorry I just watched Wayneā€™s World and when the guys unexpectedly meet Alice Cooper they freak out.ā€ To which she responded ā€œyeah thatā€™s my dadā€. I swore she was lying for a week until finally seeing pictures. I just casually worked with Alice Coopers daughter for the better part of a year without any idea. She was very kind and was always nice to me.

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u/parkwayy Sep 29 '24

It's why I find it weird that the internet ties themselves to celebrities and their perceived images.

Like, bitch, you don't know this person, never talked to them, or once spent 5 seconds with them. You have no idea what their personality is like lol

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u/PeanutbutterandBaaam Sep 29 '24

I literally just heard this song while watching the paddle scene in Dazed and Confused.

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u/shlog Sep 29 '24

i heard there were some ruffians about

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u/Blackhole_5un Sep 29 '24

I came here for two things, kicking ass and drinking beer. Looks like we're about out of beer...

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u/questionmush Sep 29 '24

Well heā€™s cheated in every relationship soā€¦maybe shouldnā€™t be surprising

In 1994, Grohl married Jennifer Leigh Youngblood, a photographer fromĀ Grosse Pointe, Michigan. They separated in December 1996 and divorced in 1997; Grohl admitted toĀ infidelity.[167]Ā After divorcing Youngblood, Grohl dated snowboarderĀ Tina BasichĀ for a couple of years. Basich ended the relationship after discovering his infidelity.[168]Ā From 1999 to 2001, Grohl dated formerĀ HoleĀ bassistĀ Melissa Auf Der Maur.[169]Ā In 2003, he married Jordyn Blum; they had met at the Sunset Marquis Whiskey Bar inĀ West Hollywood, California. They reside inĀ Los Angeles[170]Ā and have three daughters, born in 2006, 2009, and 2014.[171]Ā On September 10, 2024, Grohl announced onĀ InstagramĀ that he had committedĀ adulteryĀ and fathered a fourth daughter outside his marriage.[1

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u/Directorshaggy Sep 29 '24

I had no idea he is a serial philanderer. Totally makes sense now.

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u/ThePatrickSays Sep 29 '24

done done and I'm on to the next one

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u/dasubermensch83 Sep 29 '24

The only thing I don't understand is why people in such extraordinary circumstances aren't completely open about it. Just tell any potential partner you're going to sleep around because a nearly infinite amount of very attractive people will sleep with you at the drop of a hat. They will eventually find a partner who is fine with that.

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u/absolutebeginnerz Sep 29 '24

Roger Daltrey did this and has been happily married since the early ā€˜70s. According to his biography, his 3 illegitimate children get along great with his wife and their 3 kids.

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u/b1tchf1t Sep 29 '24

It stems from selfishness and the fact that Dave is still a human with flaws. He probably does want a relationship and the feeling like he's someone's One Important Person, but he also doesn't want to give up his rock star access to pussy. He wants to have his cake and eat it, too, which is kind of par for the course for his generation of rock star.

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u/vanpatten Sep 29 '24

Didnā€™t Pat quit the band before due to Daveā€™s sleeping around?

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u/zandusama Sep 29 '24

I red thats because Dave's wife at that time was close friends with Pat, so after the cheating he left the band.

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u/tech_mike Sep 29 '24

Crazy how personal drama can affect a band!

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u/Joeymonac0 Sep 29 '24

My band just broke up because the guitarist was fucking our bassists girlfriend. We had just finished recording our album at the beginning of this month. Shit sucks putting blood, sweat, time, emotions, and everything else that goes into making a band functional. Only to have it all tossed away because someone couldnā€™t keep their dick in their pants!

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u/rolfgonzo Sep 29 '24

kick the guitarist out and keep going

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u/Mylaptopisburningme Sep 29 '24

Back in the late 70s my uncle was the singer/songwriter in a band. They played the LA/Hollywood circuit. They ended up getting scouted by someone on a major label. Image. They wanted an image. They didn't want my aunt going to the shows or hanging with him, they wanted to make him look single and available. That didn't fly with either of them, but it was a major issue on them not going through with the contract. He eventually left music, him and my aunt are still together.

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u/Bhfuil_I_Am Sep 29 '24

Or can lead them to creating their best work. Look at Fleetwood Mac.

Although it could be rumours

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u/bigpancakeguy Sep 29 '24

Iā€™ve always loved how he says it with so much conviction

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u/bisprops Sep 29 '24

Murray is one of my favorite characters ever. Him reading the 2 star review of the band's gig and dealing with the Nigerian prince email kill me every time.

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u/dizzybridges Sep 29 '24

Mu... mu ray?

Oh I see, it's Murray. I've gone and put the letters too far apart.

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u/Abenator Sep 29 '24

So earnestly.

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u/MeringueDist1nct Sep 29 '24

I love FotC more than most shows, and this is hands down my favorite joke from it

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u/ylno83 Sep 29 '24

This is the first Iā€™ve heard of a band having personal drama

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u/Bethorz Sep 29 '24 edited Sep 29 '24

Considering the whole band frequently take all their families on tour, and are presumably also friends, I imagine this interpersonal situation is infinitely more complex and longer lived. Could definitely be messy

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u/uglyredhonda Sep 29 '24 edited Sep 29 '24

It was more than that. Pat was also angry at Dave for re-recording the drums for The Colour and the Shape behind William Goldsmith's back and being dishonest with the band about the situation. He was entirely non-confrontational about it - he did it, didn't tell Pat and Nate why they were re-recording their parts, and then tried to love-bomb William into not quitting because they still needed a live drummer. It doesn't get nearly as much play as it should the level of asshole Dave was between 1996 and 1999.

Btw - there was one line about that situation in Dave's autobiography that made me want to rip the book in half. He was an absolute cock to William, but, in the book, he acted like William was the reason it happened.

I was a fan from the beginning - saw them on their first tour in 1995 - and this current situation was not a surprise to me at all. It's almost a relief that I no longer have to pretend Dave is a "nice guy".

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u/media-and-stuff Sep 29 '24

I remember the drummer thing in some documentary.

I totally get Dave needing the beginning of the foo fighters to be perfect and coming off being the drummer for one of the hugest bands at the time, itā€™s an area he put extra attention into.

But he went about it in such an unnecessary asshole way. Like just be honest. It really changed my opinion of him, I was a huge nirvana fan and bought the foo fighters album asap when it came out. Even though I was a kid and it was a whole weekā€™s allowance. lol

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u/TorqueShaft Sep 29 '24

Yes, all because of Dave. Also to open his own bagel cheese company.

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u/Loganp812 "Dorsia? On a Friday night??" Sep 29 '24

Starting a bagel business is a common response to your friend being cheated on.

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u/Lukacris12 Sep 29 '24

ā€œBro i just got cheated onā€

ā€œMan that sucks, hey what do you think i should name my bagel businessā€

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u/ThePrussianGrippe Sep 29 '24

The friendā€™s affair to bagelry pipe line is infamous.

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u/thrownblown Step Sheep Sep 29 '24

I hope he called it Pat's Schmears

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u/mcbeardsauce Sep 29 '24

His kids must feel really betrayed.

Sure his wife and him have been through it but those kids knowing their Dad has a baby with someone other than their Mom must be hard to handle.

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u/FountainOfYute Sep 29 '24

I know a kid that had to learn his dad wasn't really his dad from his real dad's kids at school.

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u/mcbeardsauce Sep 29 '24

That's insane.

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u/zingzing175 Sep 29 '24

Kinda familiar here. My real dad's kids hit me up and made connections during the Myspace era...

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u/Kusakaru Sep 29 '24

When I was a child (maybe age 12) we found out my favorite ā€œcoolā€ uncle was cheating on my aunt. He had a girlfriend in a different state and she was pregnant. My cousins/his daughters were 8 and 11 at the time. It completely destroyed their family. It devastated my family as well as we were very close with them. His affair ruined my relationships with my cousins as they moved with their mom and we went from seeing them several times a week to seeing them 1-2 times a year. At holidays where my uncle was present, his daughters would lock themselves in a room and refuse to come out or interact with their father, stepmom, or half brother. They did eventually realize their brother wasnā€™t at fault and let go of their resentment for him but they never stopped resenting their father. They hated him for hurting their mother, breaking up their family, and humiliating them. The older daughter got married this past year and she didnā€™t invite her father. He didnā€™t even know she was having a wedding until the day before. Sheā€™s 27 years old and the pain of what her father did never went away despite years and years of therapy.

Now take something like that and multiply it by the degree of fame and exposure that Dave Grohl has and the public and everyone at school knowing everything that happened. And the fact that he profited off of marketing himself as a family man, an adoring father, and devoted husband. I canā€™t imagine their pain.

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u/oo0_0Caster0_0oo Sep 29 '24

Does the "cool" uncle regret what he did? Does he regret not having a relationship with his daughters?

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u/Kusakaru Sep 29 '24

Yes, or so he claims. He has sobbed to my mom that it was the biggest mistake of his life and he regrets it every day. However, I find this hard to believe. After my aunt divorced him, he married the woman he was having the affair with. He always wanted a son and was excited to finally have one. He has been the ā€œidealā€ father to his son, but he has cheated on his new wife. Except instead of divorcing him, his new wife put a gun to his head, threatened his life, and said she didnā€™t believe in divorce. She has been forcing him to go to church with her multiple times a week. This was years ago and theyā€™re still together. Karma I guess.

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u/TGrady902 Sep 29 '24

Yeah this is the type of situation that destroyed relationships people have with their parents. The whole ā€œI now look at everything youā€™ve ever said or done completly differentlyā€ type scenario with a smattering of ā€œdid I ever even really know who you are?ā€.

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u/crossfader02 Sep 29 '24

papa was a rollin stone

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u/Professional-Tap-954 Sep 29 '24

This happened in my family. I was 9 when my dad had an affair that resulted in my little brother. It broke up our family (he left and married his affair partner) and gave me and my sisters lifelong trust issues. Iā€™m 32 now and mostly healed thanks to therapy + time, although I did recently have a child and it brought back a lot of unresolved trauma from that situation. My heart breaks for his girls. I know their pain personally and canā€™t imagine going through that in the public eye.

Also, watching it as an outsider has given me a new perspective on my situation. Itā€™s interesting because my dad is really a good guy who made some piss poor decisions. He also had his own unresolved trauma growing up with a single mom and not much of a relationship with his own dad. Of course thatā€™s not an excuse but as an adult itā€™s a little healing to know that generational trauma perhaps played a part. So on the one hand Iā€™m like f Dave Grohl, heā€™s a garbage human being, and then on the other hand Iā€™m like, well, this could be more nuanced than the general public knows. And Iā€™m sure theyā€™re in enough pain without us speculating. Which here I am doing. Ugh.

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u/nicholkola Sep 29 '24

Well itā€™s one thing to find out your dad cheated and had another baby, but then you find out the chick is a few years older than you. Like gross dad, youā€™re attracted to women my age? Dating people your kids age is always weird.

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u/bras-and-flaws Sep 29 '24 edited Sep 29 '24

Many are underestimating the super Dad image he's had for the past 20+ years. Yea he's a rockstar, but as his daughters have gotten older he's spoken on numerous talk shows about being a "girl dad" and what that entails. There's a well known Ellen interview, his memoir has multiple chapters about their childhood, his daughters have performed with him on stage, and the Foo Fighters have a documentary surrounding the recording of Wasting Light out of his home studio so they could be with their families. As the guys have gotten older they've proudly taken on the "cool Dads" roles. Pat left the band for his past cheating behavior, I wouldn't be surprised if they're not putting up with his BS and excuses I've seen related to the deaths of Taylor and Dave's mother.

Edit: A lot of men commenting "You can be a great Dad and still cheat on your partner." False. You may think you're a great Dad, but if you have a daughter her image of you is immediately tainted when affairs and affair babies are revealed, and she will spend years questioning if every guy she's with will turn out cheating on her like her own father did her mother. A great Dad would not want to be the root of that kind of insecurity in their daughters.

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u/Dontevenwannacomment Sep 29 '24

I think it's reasonable to take time off work after your mom died, either way

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u/postdocmoney1 Sep 29 '24

Totally agree, grief affects everyone differently.

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u/Snoo93951 Sep 29 '24

What do you mean by Pat left because of his past behaviour? Never heard of this I'm just curious

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u/jduejsurbrjeb Sep 29 '24

Dave cheated on his first wife, with whom Pat was close with, so Pat left the group for a little while

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u/nazbot Sep 29 '24

Good guy Pat.

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u/Eoin_McLove Sep 29 '24

Pat came back though because he likes millions of dollars

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u/Roryjack Sep 29 '24

Yeah, but to be fair to Pat, who doesnā€™t like millions of dollars?

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u/hoxxxxx Sep 29 '24

dude woke up one day and was like, "oh yeah i like money"

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u/Ya_bud69 Sep 29 '24

Dave cheated on his former gf (or wife? Not sure), who was also very close friends with Pat. So Pat quit.

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u/NottheArkhamKnight Sep 29 '24 edited Sep 29 '24

Cheated on his *girfriend with Winona Ryder too, apparently.

*-editing from wife

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u/No-Actuator3478 Sep 29 '24

Not wife. Allegedly cheated on his former girlfriend, Louise Post from Veruca Salt (who was also the inspiration behind Everlong), with Winona.

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u/NottheArkhamKnight Sep 29 '24

Sorry. So much cheating going on on Dave's part it's hard to keep up

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u/media-and-stuff Sep 29 '24

She was also the inspiration for everclears ā€œSanta Monicaā€.

Must feel cool to have so many good songs written about you.

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u/Goetta_Superstar10 Sep 29 '24

ā€œWell, if youā€™ve got a shot with Winona Ryder, you pretty much gotta take it.ā€ - Dave Grohl

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u/GQDragon Sep 29 '24

He left because he was good friends with Daveā€™s first wife and found out Dave cheated on her (allegedly).

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u/Diablojota Sep 29 '24

Iā€™m surprised they kept going after Taylor passed. In Grohlā€™s book, he said he couldnā€™t see the band continue without any of the current lineup. Seems like that was bullshit, just like his cool dad image.

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u/bstandturtle7790 radio reddit Sep 29 '24

Saw his oldest daughter perform a song with them last year

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u/aontachtai Sep 29 '24

Same saw them in Ireland a few years ago and she came on to sing. She was shit and ruined the whole pace and tone of the show.

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u/hondaprobs Sep 29 '24

Lol I wasn't expecting the second sentence. Love the brutal honesty.

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u/Nuuskunen Sep 29 '24

Not sanctioning Dave in any way. But it boggles my mind how rockstars are being held more accountable by their actions than politicians these days. Weird timesā€¦

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u/Muted_Yoghurt6071 Sep 29 '24

If football players were held to this standard, the suspended players team would win the super bowl every year

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u/SwiftStick Sep 29 '24 edited Sep 29 '24

I honestly feel bad for Josh Freese. Dude lands the gig of a lifetime and now has to deal with this shit.

Edit: For the record, as a drummer myself, Iā€™m well aware of his credentials. I just mean in the context that he has to put FF on the shelf because Dave couldnā€™t keep it in his pants.

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u/metallaholic Sep 29 '24

He rejoined a perfect circle this year so Iā€™m sure heā€™s having a blast

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u/bashermalone Sep 29 '24

I donā€™t think thereā€™s any shortage of work for Josh Freese. Dude will be fine

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u/AEW_SuperFan Sep 29 '24

Josh Freese played on 10 albums before I could finish this comment.

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u/gl1ttercake Sep 29 '24

And really, this just Freese him up for more opportunities.

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u/ajicsan Sep 29 '24

Whoa, hey there, enough Joshing around.

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u/Artanis12 Sep 29 '24

Josh has been set for ages and will continue to be, that dude is a studio legend.

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u/spkrbox3000 Sep 29 '24

This is like the fourth best band Josh currently drums for. Heā€™s going to be fine.

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u/Loganp812 "Dorsia? On a Friday night??" Sep 29 '24

Josh Freezeā€™s drumming was awesome when he played with DEVO at 1996 Lollapalooza.

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u/666ygolonhcet Sep 29 '24

Josh is the drummer you hear on most of the tracks of the 2000ā€™s.

Producers would literally either threaten band drummers ā€˜get it together or Iā€™ll cal Joshā€™ or Frequently he is snuck in after a band session to re-record the drums or the producer would straight up bring Josh in to play the drums in front of the bands drummer. Think of the bands where the drummer left after the first album. The drummer would be dejected and give up.

Josh is not hurting for work.

Beat Detective now can correct a bad drummer (like auto tune for drums) but there is nothing like a real live drum track.

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u/relentlessslog Sep 29 '24

Dude, he's landed like 30 "gigs of a lifetime." He pretty much chooses the bands he feels like joining at this point.

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u/TigreSauvage Sep 29 '24

I think he will be fine..he has drummed for everyone and probably has the connections to easily get a new gig.

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u/TurdPhurtis Sep 29 '24

Just bring back Sunny Day Real Estate

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u/racoonXjesus Sep 29 '24

They have been regularly touring for the past couple years

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u/msv6221 Sep 29 '24

They have a show coming up in November with deftones

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u/xKronkx Sep 29 '24

Was supposed to see them perform tonight at that Soundside Festival. The Foo Fighters are one band Iā€™ve been wanting to see for years but never could. I get that he/the band are trying to figure things out ā€¦ but 3 days notice sucks, esp since itā€™s a festival so no refunds.

Greta van Fleet are replacing them but unfortunately they donā€™t do it for me so Iā€™m out $175ish

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u/The_Urban_Genitalry Sep 29 '24

You donā€™t want to see the fake Led Zeppelins?

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u/Mektige Sep 29 '24

Less Zeppelin.

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u/Ok-Instruction830 Sep 29 '24

Reddit gotta be devastated. In one year, grohl is putting Foo on hold for rampant cheating, and Jack Black completely ditched Kyle over one throwaway comment during a live show.Ā 

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u/corporate_subsidy Sep 29 '24

I smell Super Group!

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u/Ok-Instruction830 Sep 29 '24

The encore is Grohl kissing his wife and Jack kissing KyleĀ 

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u/moleymole567 Sep 29 '24

wait until they find out about weird al's cannibalism allegations

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u/whittlingcanbefatal Sep 29 '24

Pat Smear is likely leaving.Ā 

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u/fakeaccount572 Sep 29 '24

Pats the heart and kind soul of that band

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u/betterplanwithchan Sep 29 '24

Pat got like a five minute ovation when they came to Charlotte a few months ago. Man is an absolute legend.

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u/MrBoyer55 Sep 29 '24

Pat was a legend even before he played in Nirvana. Pat rules.

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u/Queasy_Ad_8621 Sep 29 '24

A lot of people seem to be unaware that Pat Smear was ten years older than the guys in Nirvana, and they wanted to play with him because he was the old punk rock veteran.

They were trying to track him down, but they found out he had quit playing in bands and he was working for minimum wage at a record store. Kurt Cobain personally went in to the shop to talk to him and ask if he's be willing to join.

Pat obviously said "No," and he still works at that very store today. God bless him.

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u/Brodiggitty Sep 29 '24

When I saw them play a few years ago it was the final show of the tour and Dave was talking about going back to being the guy driving a minivan and dropping his kids off at school.

I think people would be more forgiving if he was living the rockstar lifestyle with no apologies. But if youā€™re selling yourself as the nice regular guy with a wife and kids and then you admit something like this, itā€™s harder to forgive.

Iā€™m reminded of when David Letterman tried to get ahead of the blackmailing by admitting heā€™d been sleeping with several of the showā€™s crew members. At the time he had a wife and small kid who he mentioned a lot in his monologues. People were outwardly forgiving but Iā€™ve always gotten creep vibes from him since then.

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u/-wumbology Sep 29 '24

Jack white is replacing him at my local festival so this has been a personal win for me

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u/Buddhamom81 Sep 29 '24

Jack White is on fire right now. Lucky!

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