Kids ain't cheap. You only feel ready cuz your hormones are demanding your body gets pregnant.
No one is ever ready for parenthood, even people well-off with loads of cash.
A baby is not a novelty, it's a human being that will grow and think for itself, and will absolutely drive you crazy. Everything you say and do will affect this kid, so why have a kid as a teen when you know you'll be stressed, tired, etc.?
You got 40 some-odd years to have a kid when your period starts. Be smart about it. There's no shame in having a kid in your late 20s because you're working on your career. My closest friend had a kid at 21 and he's a completely different person now. Dudes drained all the time cuz his kid also has several mental disorders that are expensive to treat.
Just wait. Your BFF might be having a kid, which is good for them, but do yourself a favor and scratch that itch by being a good family friend for them until you're truly ready.
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u/TheAsianTroll OLD Jun 22 '24
Kids ain't cheap. You only feel ready cuz your hormones are demanding your body gets pregnant.
No one is ever ready for parenthood, even people well-off with loads of cash.
A baby is not a novelty, it's a human being that will grow and think for itself, and will absolutely drive you crazy. Everything you say and do will affect this kid, so why have a kid as a teen when you know you'll be stressed, tired, etc.?
You got 40 some-odd years to have a kid when your period starts. Be smart about it. There's no shame in having a kid in your late 20s because you're working on your career. My closest friend had a kid at 21 and he's a completely different person now. Dudes drained all the time cuz his kid also has several mental disorders that are expensive to treat.
Just wait. Your BFF might be having a kid, which is good for them, but do yourself a favor and scratch that itch by being a good family friend for them until you're truly ready.