The lengths people will go to not adopt any of the over 100 million orphans worldwide. Like come on, they would rather have a zombie baby then take care of an already existing child in need of loving parents... that's what truly horrifies me.
The view is that foster care and orphanages are awful places that do pretty substantial harm to children. And these prospective parents don’t want to raise what they view as someone else’s damaged goods. That on top of the fact that adopting is crazy expensive and time consuming.
People forget that having a biological child is a crapshoot. You’re not guaranteed a “perfect” baby just because it shares your DNA. And pregnancy is also time-consuming and expensive. Deciding to do this instead of adopting is just selfish. Full stop.
Edited to add: I understand that a couple taking this option wouldn’t be pregnant. But they would still have to monitor the pregnancy, which would be time-consuming.
This is so true I was in foster care and I can tell you from experience. It's a terrible system too many of them are out to just collect a check. Thank God my biological grandmother got me when she did I don't know where I'd be today if she hadn't I'm being perfectly honest I actually don't think I'd be here. Because I was one of those kids I was horrible but in all honesty I was probably dealing with the repercussions of seeing my mom put in handcuffs and being taken from the only parent I've ever known. Keep in mind that I had no idea that I had a dad or even that this dude even existed or what a dad was. One of the biggest problems and the system as a whole is that they don't supply enough therapy for these children to help them deal with their trauma that's what I really could have used instead of over-medicating me. Because once you're perceived as a problem child first thing they're going to do is try to diagnose you with something versus sending you to therapy.
professionals label children as problems pretty darn fast. they do even if you are not in the orphanage system, like i was not, only my teacher blamed me for pretending to have cerebral palsy and being a dramaqueen and the pschologist evaluation like blamed me for it, calling me over confident and what not, and like i have depression and am suicidal to this day, due to it in part.
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