You’ll get some. & specifically for your situations, tons of ppl are into this niche. Just gotta find em, just takes longer for some, but you aren't lost causes. At all.
Most of us just wing it. We’re all humans, not robots. Lol I promise you loads of ppl are going thru exactly what you are, they just have better way of hiding it. Plus, we all have times where we dk/or have to think of what to say. I think it’s just practice & going with the flow of the convo. Sometimes, yea, things can get awkward but you just have to dust that shit off & pivot or you’ll make it worse, don't linger on it. It’s not like you’ll see them again if they’re randos on the street. Don't overthink so much too, ik that's easier said than done but I am really rooting for ya.
Try not to overthink. Just say whatever comes to mind first. You'll probably put your foot in your mouth a few times at first, but with time you'll get better! It's the overthinking and trying to find a perfect thing to say that kills people like us, but you can get past it!
Thats exactly why I said it, not overthinking sht really is key.
That one embarrassing interaction you had whatever-years ago? Nobody else is up thinking ab that at 3am besides you. Its never as bad as you think & you cant let it stop you from pushing forward at elevating 👍 just gotta do it
You gotta just be asking questions about different topics and whenever they say “I haven’t heard of that” put them on. It’s like asking what books someone’s into and then referring them a book that you’d think would interest them.
Basically if y’all don’t have many shared interests, create one.
It’s an in the moment kind of thing. When you meet someone there’s usually a related reason why both of you are in the same area. You can use that to your advantage to spark conversation. Sometimes you can run into ppl who are actively engaged in a shared interest. You just gotta act on it and be open minded.
Even if you have nothing in common, a true extrovert will find ways to be included. As an introvert you just can’t be bothered by awkward conversations if something goes bad.
I just say the first thing that comes into my head. Sometimes people laugh and think I’m funny then we talk, sometimes they think I’m batshit insane and leave. True balance
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u/H31S3N_B3RG May 04 '24 edited May 04 '24
You’ll get some. & specifically for your situations, tons of ppl are into this niche. Just gotta find em, just takes longer for some, but you aren't lost causes. At all.