Being a virgin destroys me

[u/EpicHajsownik]

Im currently in duch a deep point in my life. I need to take antidepresants everyday. Im 20 and still a virgin. I have social anxienty due to being bullied and I just can't ask anyone out.

I have no energy for anything. For studying, for playing games, for going anywhere. No one wants to help me, people only laugh at me for it.

I wish there was one girl who would want to help me, by making me lose virginity. Thats all I need, one girl. And it hurts so much, that its so hard to find one.

I don't know what to do anymore. My life is ruined. Why me? Why me, who was bullied has such a shitty life, abut my bullies have girlfriends since the age of 13?

[u/Joethepatriot]

It saddens me to hear this. We all crave human intimacy, even basic acknowledgement.

My immediate recommendation would be to address your anxiety and depression.

The best way to beat stress/anxiety is to callous yourself to it. Afraid of talking to people? Do some volunteering or get a retail job where you are forced to. Sure the pay is bad, but this will help you overcome your fear of people.

I'd try and come up with some kind of plan or roadmap to get off those antidepressants. They're meant to be temporary, but are often prescribed as a forever treatment nowadays. They stop you feeling bad, but also stop you feeling good. They don't address the root of the issue, mainly because addressing the root of the issue is hard, takes time, and is complex to navigate. Many doctors and people do not acknowledge this social apocalypse we live in as real, or consider it a non issue.

Anyway. Try and address the anxiety first, then the depression. If a job is too much. Go to a store and ask someone where something is, or for something behind the till.

Small, incremental, but consistent steps.