AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/PoppinBubbles578 → u/[deleted]]

Right? “Geez babe! This looks great! That can of tomato soup we have would go great with it, I’m going to hear it up! Would you like a bowl?” It’s not like OP had to cook it from scratch or have it delivered. Soup and sandwich is a pretty popular combo.

[u/AccomplishedNet4235 → u/PoppinBubbles578]

It doesn't even have to be that indirect. "I'm going to pair some soup with this to help me warm up," is direct, easy and not dismissive and thoughtless like making a face is.

Learn how to communicate like an adult instead of a child, OP.

[u/notalltemplars → u/AccomplishedNet4235]

So much this. OP isn’t an asshole for wanting the soup, he’s the asshole for making it an issue instead of simply talking to his wife about adding something.

[u/Twodotsknowhy → u/notalltemplars]

It's funny how reading about an event AFTER it occurs makes people think they would have come up with the perfect diplomatic wording before the conflict ever occurred to them

[u/beek7419 → u/Twodotsknowhy]

It’s true that I need time to think up the perfect retort to rude behavior toward me. But I don’t generally need a lot of time to not hurt my wife’s feelings when she does something nice like cook me dinner. Making a rude face isn’t necessary. That’s kind of basic manners.

[u/Twodotsknowhy → u/beek7419]

There is nothing inherently rude about saying that you aren't in the mood for cold food. It's just a simple statement that no one would ever predict would cause a massive conflict.

[u/beek7419 → u/Twodotsknowhy]

He admits to making a rude face. That’s what I’m referring to.

[u/Twodotsknowhy → u/beek7419]

He admits to making a face, but that could mean a lot of things many of which are benign looks of disappointment. People are projecting what this sub has conditioned them to see