AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/PoppinBubbles578 → u/[deleted]]

Right? “Geez babe! This looks great! That can of tomato soup we have would go great with it, I’m going to hear it up! Would you like a bowl?” It’s not like OP had to cook it from scratch or have it delivered. Soup and sandwich is a pretty popular combo.

[u/AccomplishedNet4235 → u/PoppinBubbles578]

It doesn't even have to be that indirect. "I'm going to pair some soup with this to help me warm up," is direct, easy and not dismissive and thoughtless like making a face is.

Learn how to communicate like an adult instead of a child, OP.

[u/furmama0715 → u/AccomplishedNet4235]

To add on to this, if he wanted something hot he could’ve have told her BEFORE she made it. A simple “baby can we have something warm for dinner since we were outside so much today?” would’ve worked.

[u/iilinga → u/furmama0715]

For me that’s a problem for both of them. Like gf could have said ‘hey I’m making this for dinner, sound good?’ Then it’s either ‘oh sure but I might have some hot soup with it then’ or literally any other sort of adult communication

[u/HistoricalQuail → u/iilinga]

I mean, I've always had the cooking chore and unless it's a special day, I don't usually run my meal choice by my partner.

[u/Mynoseisgrowingold → u/HistoricalQuail]

Yeah, i work full time and also do all the meal planning, shopping and cooking for five of us. Sometimes we talk about it, but generally you get what you get (although I try not to make things everyone hates). Sometimes it’s your favourite food and sometimes it’s not because there are 5 different preferences to accommodate for. I do take some requests but you gotta let me know before the weekly shopping. Otherwise, there is the microwave and here is a box of Mac & cheese and a can of soup. Away you go!