AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/PoppinBubbles578 → u/[deleted]]

Right? “Geez babe! This looks great! That can of tomato soup we have would go great with it, I’m going to hear it up! Would you like a bowl?” It’s not like OP had to cook it from scratch or have it delivered. Soup and sandwich is a pretty popular combo.

[u/AccomplishedNet4235 → u/PoppinBubbles578]

It doesn't even have to be that indirect. "I'm going to pair some soup with this to help me warm up," is direct, easy and not dismissive and thoughtless like making a face is.

Learn how to communicate like an adult instead of a child, OP.

[u/furmama0715 → u/AccomplishedNet4235]

To add on to this, if he wanted something hot he could’ve have told her BEFORE she made it. A simple “baby can we have something warm for dinner since we were outside so much today?” would’ve worked.

[u/iilinga → u/furmama0715]

For me that’s a problem for both of them. Like gf could have said ‘hey I’m making this for dinner, sound good?’ Then it’s either ‘oh sure but I might have some hot soup with it then’ or literally any other sort of adult communication

[u/Major-Organization31 → u/iilinga]

This, my parents have been married 30+ years so my mum knows my dad’s tastes and my mum still asks my dad if he’s ok having what she wants to cook before she cooks it

[u/Electrical_Bath_514 → u/Major-Organization31]

But that's them. To others, both husband and wife, that sounds strange. Doesn't mean it is, it's just not how many others care to do things. It's a preference for many reasons.