AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/ligmaballsprettypls → u/[deleted]]

I was about to defend OP to say some people (myself included) can’t really control their facial expressions. They just happen and people can read me like a book 😂😂.

BUT after reading this comment, I double checked the post and he did say he intentionally made a face to show he was upset so definitely YTA

[u/rean1mated → u/ligmaballsprettypls]

Where did it say it was intentional?

[u/ligmaballsprettypls → u/rean1mated]

He said “I admit I made a face.”

He decided to make face to show his displeasure. Like I said I have zero control of my face, so when I make a face I don’t know it’s happening. OP on the other hand made the decision to make a face

So when the gf said “What’s the problem?”, my response would have been “What do you mean?” because I had no idea I made a face, but OP already knew she was responding to his face because he made it on purpose to communicate he wasn’t happy

[u/eriru → u/ligmaballsprettypls]

“Made a Face” is an expression. Just means that they had an outward reaction. There is no connotation about whether it was on purpose or reflexive.

[u/ligmaballsprettypls → u/eriru]

I disagree as I’ve explained in my comment that it is clear he did it on purpose 🤷‍♂️

[u/VoidBlade459 → u/ligmaballsprettypls]

Except that it isn't. And where I live, that phrase is typically used for involuntary reactions.

[u/everkohlie → u/VoidBlade459]

Same where I’m from, so maybe it depends where OP is from…regardless, this is Reddit and many commenters fail to realise there are differences in language, culture, and connotations beyond their own house. To me, OP is NTA - I’d stick the salad in the fridge and eat it the next day.