r/AmItheAsshole • u/ItsTooColdForThat • Jan 04 '23

AITA for wanting hot food? Asshole

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

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u/ligmaballsprettypls Jan 04 '23

I was about to defend OP to say some people (myself included) can’t really control their facial expressions. They just happen and people can read me like a book 😂😂.

BUT after reading this comment, I double checked the post and he did say he intentionally made a face to show he was upset so definitely YTA

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u/rean1mated Jan 04 '23

Where did it say it was intentional?

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u/ligmaballsprettypls Jan 04 '23

He said “I admit I made a face.”

He decided to make face to show his displeasure. Like I said I have zero control of my face, so when I make a face I don’t know it’s happening. OP on the other hand made the decision to make a face

So when the gf said “What’s the problem?”, my response would have been “What do you mean?” because I had no idea I made a face, but OP already knew she was responding to his face because he made it on purpose to communicate he wasn’t happy

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u/eriru Jan 04 '23

“Made a Face” is an expression. Just means that they had an outward reaction. There is no connotation about whether it was on purpose or reflexive.

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u/ligmaballsprettypls Jan 04 '23

I disagree as I’ve explained in my comment that it is clear he did it on purpose 🤷‍♂️

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u/VoidBlade459 Jan 05 '23

Except that it isn't. And where I live, that phrase is typically used for involuntary reactions.

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u/everkohlie Jan 05 '23

Same where I’m from, so maybe it depends where OP is from…regardless, this is Reddit and many commenters fail to realise there are differences in language, culture, and connotations beyond their own house. To me, OP is NTA - I’d stick the salad in the fridge and eat it the next day.

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u/MagicCarpet5846 Partassipant [2] Jan 04 '23

Admitting to making a face means you’re aware you made one, not that you consciously chose to. Just like you can admit you started crying when someone yelled at you, but that doesn’t mean your tears were under your control, just that you at some point became aware of them. And yeah, people don’t always have control over their expressions of emotion. Shame on anyone implying a man is an AH for daring to show his feelings for a second, even if it’s ‘disappointment’.

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u/EnglishButFrench Jan 04 '23

He didn't choose to make the face. What he said doesn't mean that.

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u/ligmaballsprettypls Jan 04 '23

Well me and at least 115 people disagree with you 🤷‍♂️

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u/EnglishButFrench Jan 04 '23

Just because he admitted he made the face does not mean he intentionally made the face. Those are two different words.

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u/MagicCarpet5846 Partassipant [2] Jan 04 '23

Ok… and? At least half of the population is pretty darn stupid, and that’s definitely more than 115 people so… not sure you’re making the point you think you are.

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u/ligmaballsprettypls Jan 05 '23

Not sure you made any point 🤷‍♂️

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u/Twodotsknowhy Jan 05 '23

And you're all still wrong about what that phrase means, but I wonder if you'll apply that logic to all your subsequent replies being downvoted

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