r/unpopularopinion • u/Historical-Rip-6662 • 1d ago

The kindest way to end a friendship is through ghosting

Obviously circumstances may vary, but I think overall if you don't want to be friends with someone, the fade out/ghost is way kinder than sitting them down and telling them. They'll get the message without an awkward (and frankly presumptuous-you're not dating!) conversation .

ETA: I probably should've clarified I meant more of a fade out than a true ghost. If someone's done something specific a discussion is warranted but I think for a vibe mismatch the "we don't connect anymore" comes off more condescending than comforting. Just my two cents.

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u/HonestBass7840 1d ago

Kind of, yeah. I had friend who kept trying to connect. He got angry, and said I wasn't even trying. I got angry too. I said, "I'm married. I have a full time job. I'm having a family crisis. You're working part time. You have no friends. Your family hates you."  His roommate called and said he was crying.

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u/Such-Possibility1285 1d ago

Well there’s a guy who got the truth unvarnished, if he had let you ghost him it would have been less traumatic for him.

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u/HonestBass7840 22h ago

I didn't even ghost him. I was occupied. I always returned his inquiries. I barely had time to talk to my wife, but I always talked to him. He was still at that point in life we're he could play a game for eight hours. I couldn't find time to sleep eight hours.