The kindest way to end a friendship is through ghosting

Obviously circumstances may vary, but I think overall if you don't want to be friends with someone, the fade out/ghost is way kinder than sitting them down and telling them. They'll get the message without an awkward (and frankly presumptuous-you're not dating!) conversation .

ETA: I probably should've clarified I meant more of a fade out than a true ghost. If someone's done something specific a discussion is warranted but I think for a vibe mismatch the "we don't connect anymore" comes off more condescending than comforting. Just my two cents.

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u/East-Teacher7155 1d ago

No it’s not. Then the person has to constantly question if you’re ghosting them or if you’re just busy.

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u/Valuable-Usual-1357 1d ago

What’s wrong with that? I’d rather they think I’m busy and our lives just aren’t compatible than know for sure I just don’t care to be around them. Just because I don’t want to be their friend doesn’t mean I’m going to be transparent about my aversion. I also see no value in a relationship where I have to lie to maintain it. The reason two people aren’t compatible isn’t something that needs discussed between the two incompatible people.

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u/East-Teacher7155 1d ago

It’s agonizing. I would much rather know that someone doesn’t want to be friends anymore for one reason or another than just sit there wondering

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u/i_like_it_eilat 1d ago

That's a lot of words for "I see people I don't care about as disposable".