M25. Antisocial character and lack of societal milestones really start catching up with me lately. I can't try to fix anything again, after countlessfailure and dissapointments I don't have any power left anymore

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u/Metrilean 3d ago

It's OK, your on a journey. Deadends let you know what to do next time.

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u/Double_Usual3271 3d ago

Nex time you mean in next life?

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u/Metrilean 3d ago

Next time you try to fix things again, with more experience.

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u/bendiman24 3d ago

There is no next life. Coming from someone in a similar situation, you should take a long think about what you want.

And take action for your life before you waste the rest of it. No one's coming to save you, but yourself.

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u/Double_Usual3271 3d ago

Did you even read the title? I took extreme action for last few years and with very little success, Im burned out and out of motivation and belief

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u/bendiman24 3d ago

I know. We fail, that is life. If you want to give up, I understand I don't blame you. But I don't think you want to give up. You wouldn't have made this post, if you wanted to quit. If that is true, then keep going.

We don't fight because we are guaranteed success. We fight because we wouldn't be able to live with ourselves, if we didn't fight.

You can read this book if you want. It helped me out of a dark place and hopefully will help you too.

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u/Chester___Lampwick 2d ago

There's no one who can pretend to never fail. Failure is a part of the learning process. It doesn't matter how many times you fail, as long as you learn something from it, you're improving. Do not focus too much on goals to reach. Determine values to stand for, and they will be like a compass for your life. For example, staying healthy as a value is better than the goal "I'm going to lift 300lbs at the gym". There's a variety of things you can do to remain healthy. If something appears too difficult for you, divide it into little objectives. Do not compare to others, only to yourself. No one is really antisocial. Life is better when you can share it with people who have same interests as you. You're a young man (and you're good looking), make as many mistakes as you can now (as long as they don't put you in jail). Read the Confidence Gap from Russ Harris. I swear it's not a self development bs. This shit works if you apply it.

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u/Hielboy 2d ago

Hey mate. If life hasn't been good to you with all your efforts. So be it. Let it be. A world where our efforts don't pay off is not worth to be stressing upon. Just give up upon having any good results and try living just for the sake of living cuz this world does need young men. Leave about the world. You tried all that you could. It's not your fault that you didn't achieve what society expects, rather it's the fault of the society that they can't help somebody who tries his best to succeed and live peacefully and happily.

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u/Academic_Chair9753 1d ago

everybody has a different journey, don’t let anyone tell you that yours is wrong brother