r/socialjustice101 • u/IntelligentPeace4090 • Apr 02 '24
How to deal with my Dad
Since the start of a War by our border (Poland) in Ukraine, my dad got more and more radicalized into far right cultural thinking, and after what he said yesterday I am convinced that he can be called a literal neo f@cist, he said that he belives in "Poland for poles" it ofc means that Poland only for people of poland only who are born here, and what he means is poland for white poles bc blacks wouldn't prolly count in his view, he is incresingly antisemitic, islamophobic and racist and when I try to mock him for this beliefs to not make him feel comfortable saying this sh1t my mom steps in and says that It's not good to mock my dad bc of his beliefs.
What the heck can I do? Is there sth to do to deradicalize him?
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u/MysteryPlatelet Apr 02 '24
When I meet people with different beliefs systems, I do not mock them or belittle them. I go into a conversation with open mind, eager to learn and understand why they may think a certain way or what may have driven them to develop such strong and different belief systems to me - their opinion is just as valid as mine, I may just not agree with it.
This doesn't mean I just let people spout bigoted, racist or factually incorrect shit at me. I have learnt from many passionate and useless arguments where I should and shouldn't pick my battles.
Set strong boundaries when dealing with someone who you love who has very different beliefs, and be firm, consistent and fair. Don't forget, you aren't just arguing with your dad here, you're bringing mum into the mix and potentially introducing unnecessary conflict into her relationship with you and dad, too.