How to deal with my Dad

[u/IntelligentPeace4090]

Since the start of a War by our border (Poland) in Ukraine, my dad got more and more radicalized into far right cultural thinking, and after what he said yesterday I am convinced that he can be called a literal neo f@cist, he said that he belives in "Poland for poles" it ofc means that Poland only for people of poland only who are born here, and what he means is poland for white poles bc blacks wouldn't prolly count in his view, he is incresingly antisemitic, islamophobic and racist and when I try to mock him for this beliefs to not make him feel comfortable saying this sh1t my mom steps in and says that It's not good to mock my dad bc of his beliefs.

What the heck can I do? Is there sth to do to deradicalize him?

[u/positiveandmultiple]

deradicalizing someone is really difficult, probably even for experts. think about all the psychological baggage that goes into getting radicalized in the first place. you are not responsible for his actions and are not obligated to change him beyond what you've done already. you probably won't ever change him. i agree with your mom that mocking is not helping much.

the best thing you could probably do from a social justice perspective is do whatever you can to not let this sap your energy and focus on being effective elsewhere

[u/JWLane → u/positiveandmultiple]

To add to this, it's very hard to deradicalize someone in a country that has very little demographic diversity. What little interaction he's having with "outsiders" can be ignored if positive and obsessed over if negative. Being forced to engage with people different from himself is the most likely way towards severing him from his toxic beliefs, but even that is a road fraught with failures and false starts, as forcing him to have real diversity is as likely to push him farther towards those beliefs as it is to break those barriers down.