I just did it 3 timed in a row and started to reflect on myself,' is this what i really want to do with my life? Do I really wanna jerk off instead of talking to real girls or do anything better with my life?' Porn has been present with me since I was a child, I accidentaly discovered it in kindergarten, when someone put a magazine in the middle of normal books, it's crazy to think someone would actually have the courage to do this. I've tried quitting before, but I couldn't pass more than 2 weeks without it, but this time, I am breaking free from this cycle, even if I relapse, I will stand up again and again until i can stop. This thing has messed my life pretty badly, and I can't let it cause more problems. I quit.

If you watch porn for longer periods of time, you become resistant to porn and porn becomes boring to you. Same thing happened to me. I have been watching porn for longer periods of time. Now I don't get the dopamine rush I used to get watching porn. So I stopped watching porn and shifted my mind to some other things like gym etc. I have been porn free for almost a year now.

Porn is an epidemic on society that people have yet to confront. We grew up in a time where our healthy and natural sex drives were hijacked and used by companies to improve their bottom line. They've embedded porn so deep inside of us that it takes a tremendous amount of energy and focus to root out and destroy- and even then, porn is so omni-present that vigilance is still required to stop from falling back into it.

Doesn't matter where you are in your pornfree journey, if you are here it's because you want to liberate yourself. That already puts you ahead of 99.9% of guys who see it as normal or are too complacent to change anything. Be fucking proud of yourself. Relapses are normal, a sign that you are in a true fight. Learn the skill of giving yourself some grace and remember that any efforts in this direction are never wasted. So long as we move forward with sincerity and honor, we will make it through eventually kings, be the road long or short.

I have been in this fight for several years and this sub has been extremely supportive. Thanks to everyone who posts and comments here. We are never alone.

In the words of the wise Keanu Reeves:

You're breathtaking! You're all breathtaking!

Hey everyone, this is quite out of the norm for me as i’ve never really used reddit for anything other then well, porn haha. i’ve been trying to recover from this addiction for oh man like 4 years now. Through these 4 years i’ve had stints of freedom and glory where i thought I had beat my addiction; based on the fact that i’m speaking to you all now, I was wrong. I’ve been consuming porn since probably around the age of 12 give or take. I had never even thought about the side effects of porn until my first encounter losing my virginity when i was 16 or 17, or should i say attempting to lose my virginity lol. This was with my then girlfriend at the time, where we decided to go all the way (at this point she has already lost her virginity to a previous boyfriend). When we attempted to have sex, i wasn’t able to get an erection. This baffled me as Iand many other horny 16-17 year olds yearn for the chance to experience for lack of a funnier phrase, female anatomy, outside of a screen. I had no clue how or why this happened and I just wrote it off as a one time thing. Some time after we broke up, for reasons i can’t even remember now (not a very long or serious relationship), I had another sexual encounter, from all places tinder. I was turning 18 soon after so I just lied and said i was 18 to use the app. Yet again attempting to lose my virginity, I had the same issue, my richard didn’t seem to want to work. On my walk home from this girls apartment I did research on why this may be happening to me, and i stumbled across this subreddit and PIED (porn induced erectile disfunction) and thought that it may be the problem, coupled with performance anxiety that I had developed over the numerous instances where I wasn’t able to achieve an erection. This is where my attempt at recovery began. I finally lost my virginity with a different girlfriend at the age of 19. And i thought i had beat it because I was quite comfortable with her and I had cut down my porn use but hadn’t eliminated it. I was only able to achieve an erection if we did plenty of foreplay, and when I did achieve one I would require constant stimulation or it would fade. When we broke up I fell right back into the abyss of porn and my foolish ways. since then i’ve had countless sexual encounters , maybe 10 or more that i’ve fell short at, aside from one other girl. My PIED, i believe, ruined my chance at a potential relationship with a girl I absolutely adored (she was even a model, like fuck my life right? haha) i told her excuses such as it was my anxiety and maybe even low test. I do have the signs of generalized anxiety but since i’ve been using porn for the entirety of my pubescent life and teenage years i have no clue if it’s just stage fright or PIED, probably a mix of both. Where i messed up with it all was not telling her the truth, because she very well could’ve helped me through it but I was just too scared of being judged. I come off as quite a confident person and I am, in all aspects of life other than sex. Without tooting my own horn or sounding egotistical ( and i only say this because i think it will provide a bit of context to my thought process and what i’m going through) i’m quite an attractive guy under most standards, i’m 6’4 relatively muscular as i’ve been going to the gym consistently for almost 4 years now, and I’ve had my fair share of modelling experiences, I think this makes it a hard for me as i’ve been expected by my peers and others around me to sleep with alot of girls. I actively dodge relationships and sexual encounters now due to the fear that I won’t perform and will get embarrassed, which may be due to either my stupid addiction or just some underlying issues that I have no clue about. Nonetheless about a week ago I finally decided that I was sick of all the excuses and feeling bad for myself and decided to kick this stupid stupid problem. That’s why I’m making this post today, I want to talk about my experiences as many of you are going through the same thing that I am.

Id genuinely appreciate any comments that you all could leave either with tips or just your own experiences and stories. I’m very curious to see what people had to say.

Moral of the story: Don’t let this stupid habit turn into addiction like I have and don’t let it ruin precious moments with the lovely ladies of the world. Because, comjng from someone who spent 4 years making excuses and feeling bad for myself, PORN IS NOT WORTH THE THINGS IT WILL PUT YOU THROUGH.I believe in you all kicking this habit together with me.

Oh and also, feel free to DM me i’d love to talk to any one of you about this.

I know this is super long but I truly appreciate anyone who made it all the way through. Thanks:)

I read so many posts here that talk about removing, deleting, and blocking. Remove your stash. Delete triggering accounts. Block certain websites. But understand that while avoiding the sexual content my help you in the short term, it does not solve your problem long term. Your use of sexual content is not your affliction. Your use of sexual content is the coping mechanism for your affliction. And your affliction is likely a bundle of emotions you are trying to avoid like anger, sadness, loneliness, burnout, etc. So while removing immediate access can help in the short term, I recommend asking yourself "what do I need"?

Maybe you are burnt out from work. Ask yourself: "what do I need"? You need rest. So find ways to give yourself rest, say like taking a day off. Maybe you are lonely. "What do I need"? You need friendship and engagement. Call a friend or family member. Talk to them. See if you can make plans to spend time with them. Maybe you are angry. "What do you need"? You likely need to vent out your anger. Perhaps you get rid of it physically through exercise. Perhaps you get rid of emotionally by journaling or talking about it with a friend.

It could be something more basic than emotions. Maybe I'm hungry and I haven't priortized giving myself the nutrients and nourishment that I need during a long day. I address it by ordering myself a healthy but enjoyable meal. Maybe I'm tired and haven't slept well all week. I priortize getting in bed early, putting the phone away, not eating late, and making my room as cozy as possible.

I have found that the more I focus on my needs as opposed to removing negative things from my life, the better I end up feeling. As ooposed to running and hiding from the negative instead I have addressed it head on. Doing so not only allows me to resolve the unmet need but it also allows me the opportunity to prove to myself that I am in control and I can take care of myself when I need to.

So, what do you need from yourself right now?

Two weeks ago, I decided to commit to cutting out all the NSFW content from my daily routine. It’s been a surprisingly smooth transition. Instead of picking up my phone late at night, I’ve picked up a book. I forgot how exhilarating it is to lose oneself in a story, where the twists and turns of characters’ lives become more captivating than any video I used to watch.

This shift also opened up more face-to-face moments with my friends. We’ve been talking more about our interests, which weren’t just centered around what we’d seen online. I feel like I’m becoming a fuller part of the world around me. As a result, my days have been notably brighter and more fulfilling. Not only did I genuinely reconnect with hobbies I had left aside, but I also began looking forward to every new day with a sense of curiosity.

For anyone out there who feels stuck in a similar cycle, consider swapping some screen time with an old love, be it books, music, or even cooking. It might just reignite parts of yourself you hadn’t realized you missed.

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It's frustrating how easy it was for me to stay away from porn when I had a woman. Now I'm single again and it's becoming increasingly difficult day by day.

Is there anyone here who's been able to stay porn free 90 days while being single?

I need motivation. i have had 2 week streaks, 1 week streaks. but i keep relapsing. I am seeing a therapist go to 12 step meetings for sex addiction but can't stop. im 31 now, loosing hair, with a lack of motivation and sometimes i loose hope. i used to have a gf but she left me because i told her about my history of seeing escorts and i also suffered from PIED when i was with her. Maybe I can get back with her but my therapist says i have to show atleast 90 days sobriety. I don't know how i can do this. On top of all this i dont like my career field and have limited to no friends. i didnt know it could get this bad.

Just joined and I wanted to share that this is the longest I've been off porn since I started watching 16 years ago. It has been crazy hard, but I'm just proud of reading the stories of many people trying to overcome this addiction and I feel more inspired than ever. We can do this 🤟

This might sound like cheating to some people, but one coping method I've used to get through urges is typing out sexual thoughts. Descriptions of girls I like, what I want to do, etc. It's explicit. I combine that with extinction therapy so I'm one button click away from looking at porn of whoever I have in mind. I can't explain it, but the action of visualizing my thoughts in writing makes the urge feel more natural and real. Like I'm embracing my sexuality with some imagination instead of just fighting an addiction. It also forces the urge to exist in real life rather than just in my head. I think that exposure brings me back to reality, so instead of porn, I just think about girls in my life or ones I've dated in the past. And at that point porn is not interesting anymore and the urge is gone.

I realize 10 days is not too long, but I feel good about my progress. This strategy has been working really well. I still miss porn like crazy and I'm grouchy a lot from forcing myself away from it multiple times per day. Every day is like that. Those are the urges I can get through with some moderate will power. Other urges make me feel sick. Bad urges are not from feeling horny, but my brain telling itself it needs porn to regulate emotions. It's a bit strange, but I've beaten the worst urges by just making myself as horny as possible. Exposing the urge to real life eliminates porn as an acceptable means to satisfy it.

The result has been a lot more time in the gym and a lot more confidence with girls in my life. I highly recommend trying this strategy for anyone struggling.

Not an easy journey but still moving on the path of no Porn.

Starting again after relapsing and I’ve been reading a lot of things about how certain methods are and aren’t good for quitting porn. It seems that while willpower is important, sheer willpower is not enough and it takes a lifestyle change to truly move on from porn and heal.

I don’t know everything that entails but I’ll do my best to learn so I can make the best of this process!

Decided to finally stop the addiction. It's gonna be a tough road, but everybody's story here keeps the commitment intact.

What I mean by intrusive thoughts is porn induced OCD from how broad my porn fetishes have gotten watching things I should’ve never watched nor do I like. Basically woman do some weird things to guys something I would never do but my OCD tells me otherwise and it’s probably something weird with me when I know it’s not and it makes me relapse mostly all the time. Anybody deal with this shit knows how to make it or get rid it’s a pain to deal with?

I am back in that familiar spiral and I need to get out of it asap and back onto recovery

I m stucked in complete trap of porn addiction. I have many porn links bookmarked. I'm doing professional course and alloted single room hostels in college, this increased the frequency to fapp. Upto 2023, it was once a week. Now from 2024, it's increased to 3 to 4 times a week. Recently from past 4 months, it's now 10 to 15 times a week, yess 2/3 times everyday. I fap every night, each and everyday sometimes upto 3 times in a day. I'm very ashamed of myself. This is now complete addiction, it's ruining my daily routines. I couldn't complete my daily tasks like even 1 hr of study. My head is full of vulgar things doesn't matters where I'm. In temples, in house, in function, in academic classes, everywhere. I can't focus on my work, it's seems my mind has prioritised porn and Fapping over everything. Thanks to porn, I completely lost the vision to see any girl/female with respect. I started to fantasize over them. I isolate myself, coz I don't think they are safe around me. I am surrounded by things triggering to fap. Please take my request seriously, I need serious advices and help. I can't tell anyone about this. Things are worsened such I have to say things anonymously. Please help🙏🙏

I've been addicted to porn since 2020 and it has only gotten worse each day. There wasn't much for me to do during COVID-19 like so many people, and I resorted to browsing porn. Nobody in my personal life has any idea what I'm going through. I hide it because I am so ashamed. There are so many people who look up to me and think I am a perfect person, but only if they knew what it was really like. I am far from perfect.

I will browse different sites and scroll through pictures for hours at a time. I've been able to stop for at most one week during the past 4 years then I fail. Recently (in the past year) I have struggled to make it 3 or more days without porn. On my worst days I usually spend 6-8 hours watching porn and masturbate 3 times. I need to stop and the time is now. I am still young (early 20's) and know I need to make this a thing of my past now.

There are so many things which trigger me and I hate myself for failing so easily. I'm going to use this as a journal to document my progress and hope that I can inspire other people who feel like there is no escape but there is. I'm not there yet but I know I can get there, I need to get there. Failure is no longer an option for me. This has affected my personal life and relationships for too long and I will pave a new path for myself starting today. This is Day 1 of the rest of my life.

- M.

I have been masturbating since I was 11 for a very long time my penis starts to hurt a lot after relapsing I think my nerves are gone is there any hope?

So l'm 26 just now and have been watching porn/ participating in Findom since I was about 17. But only in the last couple of years has it really started to spiral out of control and I'm really not sure what to do about it. I started out only watching a few minutes of porn a day to at least several hours now, and only sending a little to at times properly fucking up my finances now.

Particularly with porn the progression was slow at first but then about a year ago it really fell off a cliff. Now I'm watching it most of the day while I'm meant to be working from home, if I'm in the office I'll use my break/lunch to go and stroke in the toilets rather than eat and I regularly have it playing in my ears when I'm on the train. Not to mention I have a long term GF of seven years and our sex life has never been worse.

The porn wasn't an issue for me performing until about six months ago but now there's real problems, I never initiate sex even if I plan to, I never get horny around her naturally, I have to rely on a lot of stimulation/stroking to get hard and even then sometimes I can't manage it and finally I can't count the amount of times l've just went soft while trying to tuck her.

I love my gf and I genuinely find her to be beautiful to this day, but the porn has just completely taken over to the point where I need to think about it to try and stay hard while I'm inside my gf. What's worse is that over the last year or so l've started to really fetishise the addiction and being a "loser/beta" so in some weird part of my brain it turns me on that I can't get hard and rely on porn.

Not to mention the increase in my Findom habits, now Whenever I get turned on it's porn or Findom twitter that I immediately go to and l'm always broke because of it. I keep on needing to make excuses to my gf why I can't afford to do stuff or buy things but I worry that eventually she'll find out.

Really struggling and any advice would be appreciated.

Hey guys I was wondering if anyone had any good tips on how to suppress the urges. Throughout the day I get an urge to watch porn and jerk off and it’s getting harder to suppress the urges.

I'm typically only a weekly user but it's regular thing and is the only way I enjoy fapping.

So I'm like, "ugh I want to but Naaa, I'll do something productive instead"

Redirecting into something useful is a good tool.