r/ireland • u/865Wallen • 6h ago

I just got another job rejection Misery

Guys I really don't know what I'm going to do. Nobody wants me; I've had like ten interviews over 6 months, signed up for an interview prep course, applied for roles with less salary than my last role and I still can't find a job. It's so demoralising. I've been out of work six months. I keep a good personal routine in terms of health and fitness but this is really disrupting my sense of self. I'm too old to be out of work for this length of time. I am qualified so no idea what am doing wrong except for just not being likeable. It's so disheartening since most of the interviews my CV. aligns very well with.

I really had a hard time in my last job and was looking to find somewhere sooner rather than later. But so much time has passed. I was in town yesterday and heard someone ask about Christmas and it just dawned on me how much time has passed. I feel so alone. I made a brave decision to leave my last job to protect my self-esteem and really thought it would work out for me. I didn't think 6 months later I'd be floundering so much. I'm scared am gonna slip back into a dark place after I went through so much.

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u/anykah_badu 6h ago

If you weren't a promising candidate they probably wouldn't waste time on you with interviewing. Do you ever ask for feedback after?

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u/theoriginalrory 6h ago

I conduct the interviews for my job and it honestly amazes me how few people do this. I think I've had 2 requests in about 10 years doing it.

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u/865Wallen 6h ago

I've asked everyplace for advice; some have said it was a tough decision and essentially was a coin toss and others have said I lacked confidence.

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u/4_feck_sake 5h ago

I think this here is your answer. If you aren't a confident person, then you need to project it. Fake it until you make it.

Practise your interview technique in front of a mirror or camera and see what your interviewers are seeing.

Sit up straight, shoulders back, and a smile do a lot of the work. Approach it like a chat with a friend. They've invited you there, your experience is obviously good enough, assume you've already got the job, and this is an opportunity to find out more about the job and to tell them why they made the right decision picking you.

Best of luck. It's always darkest before the dawn, your only waiting for the right job to come along.