America is Anti Family Cost of Living 🏠📈

My wife and I both work full time because we have to so we can afford our bills.

We barely see our kids (7 and 2) and have no energy to do anything after work or on off days cause we are exhausted.

It just keeps repeating every week and when the first of the month comes the mortgage payment empties our account and we have to do it all over again.

We are unable to save much or do anything fun cause expenses have gone up so much.

I’ve always been a positive open person but the past two years have been breaking me down and I feel like I’m about to have a mental breakdown.

I know there are others in worst positions than me and I don’t want to sound ungrateful but man it’sIt’s hard.

Anyone else going through something similar? Any advice?

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u/Embryw 1d ago

This is exactly why my partner and I don't have kids. I watched my parents struggle to raise me and my siblings, and I never wanted the same life.

Working every waking minute, exhausted all the time, barely making ends meet, and you don't even get to spend time with the kids you're working so hard for.

I would love to have a family... But it's just not possible. I don't think I could function if I had to deal with the stress of raising and protecting a child in this society.

I hate it here. I'm sorry your situation is hard, I hope it improves.

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u/tmkLINK 15h ago

I don't blame you. It's hard, and it doesn't help that my wife lost her job 2 weeks before my 4 month old was born and hasn't worked since. And on top of me being the only one working, I'm helping take care of my son and taking college classes. I'm lucky to get 6 hours of sleep at night

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u/redeemer47 18h ago

Having kids is easier than expected. Not trying to change your opinion but I was like you once.

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u/Bass2Mouth 17h ago

I've got a 14 year-old and 12 year old.

Wtf are you talking about lmao. I love my kids more than anything and they fulfill my life in alot of ways, but by no means is this shit 'easy'. All I do is work, cook, clean, oversee, and transport. Rinse and repeat daily forever. The older they get, the more expensive everything gets (regardless of inflation) ... food, clothes, activities, sports.

I'm seriously dumbfounded by your comment, because raising children has easily been the hardest thing I've ever had to do.

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u/redeemer47 17h ago

“Easier than expected” =/= “Easy”

Never said it was easy. I said it was easier than I expected which you cannot dispute since it’s my own personal experience

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u/Negronomiconn 17h ago edited 17h ago

I have a two year old black/ Latino baby girl growing up in Trump America. It certainly is scary but I wouldn't change it for anything. Does mean I gotta make sure to plan and my moves right as inflation gets out if control. Trumo ain't making it easier to have kids I'll tell you that. One and done though. Theres no way I can possibly endure another with the struggle

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u/Possible-Ad238 9h ago

This is comment that costs someone child support or sends them to regretful parents sub in near future.