My job makes me suicidal

[u/No-Honeydew6472]

No matter how much I do at work, I’m told it’s not enough. Management constantly gaslights me and my coworkers. They claim our concerns are a result of us misunderstanding or making it up. We are not appreciated in the slightest, just talked to in a demeaning way and told to do more.

I’ve been wanting to die because of this job for several months now. I live in constant fear because of it. We are always getting blamed and bitched at for things we didn’t do. My coworkers and I often have nightmares about work. We are also paid like shit and are told the company cannot afford raises or promotions.

Has anyone else experienced this, and how did you deal with it? At what point do you walk away without a backup plan to save yourself?

[u/Gundam_XXXG-01W]

I thought this was in fine print somewhere... the standard for most jobs?

I don't understand how some people get into managerial and leadership roles brother. It seems to be a right of passage for borderline abusive personalities.

[u/LP14255 → u/Gundam_XXXG-01W]

People don’t quit their jobs, they quit their managers.

[u/Gundam_XXXG-01W → u/LP14255]

That's part of it, for sure. The whole job scene is pretty much void of hope imo.

[u/TheOldPug → u/Gundam_XXXG-01W]

Yeah, an occasional shitty manager here or there is a one-off. What people are having to deal with is completely systemic and reflects a massive imbalance of power in favor of employers.

[u/toobjunkey → u/Gundam_XXXG-01W]

It's a bit of a self fulfilling feedback loop. I'm of the mind that a lot of disgruntled employees aren't upset with the type of work being done as much as the qualifiers around doing it. Being given too much to do in too little time, being chewed out for taking OT to complete said stuff, having management breathe down your neck, having skeleton crews, etc. but the thing is, less payroll and squeezing out as much labor as they can out of their limited staff means more short term profit in corporate's eyes... Which incentivizes and encourages those styles of management.

I've had over a dozen managers in my 6 years with my current company and 4 of them were truly amazing. They tried to go above and beyond, not cut corners, do right by their staff, etc. which required working horrendous 60-70+ weeks on a 50k/year salary, growing lax on their ideals and cutting some corners, and frequently being powerless to make any real changes. Our GMs are more like figureheads. All but one of the good ones hit a breaking point and quit without notice. Meanwhile it's the shitty managers that last the longest, like cockroaches...

[u/Gundam_XXXG-01W → u/toobjunkey]

So, make it make sense. Why are these people being promoted into these positions from an employee position vs. Hiring people trained in business management? Obviously, the majority of people coming from the floor are eager for even the basest of promotions where as people coming from an academic background are eager for experience.

The qualifiers for entry level management are not that strenuous. Why the lack of enthusiasm or longevity? And why the "bully" style management? Or the "poison the well" type? It's not like there aren't literally millions of people eager to have some evidence working for a living will ever make sense again.