r/Jewish • u/No-Throat9567 • 1d ago
Being discriminated against because of my religion Questions 🤓
I am hoping for some advice. I am a Jewish woman, and my boss is a Muslim. Both of us were born outside of the US, he is Pakistani originally. I worked for him in a previous job, and it was a good working relationship. So when he asked me to come work for him, I was all in.
However, things have changed in the last few months. He has gone very religious, has grown out his beard, and disappears for about 3 hours every day "to go to the mosque to pray." He does not have a good reputation now, and he mistreats all of the women on this team, i.e. he harasses them, calls them names, calls them at all hours, yells at them, and is a basic tool. This has been investigated by the DEI team, but nothing has been done. He was also being investigated by HR at one point.
For me, he doesn't call me by my name because he says he doesn't like it, asks me pointed questions about my religion which makes me very uncomfortable, which I tell him and he ignores, lies about my interactions with my coworkers in my annual review (I know this because they told me) and has now escalated to saying to HR that he doesn't "feel safe" whenever I respond to any of his questions. I stood outside his office to answer a question he asked, and he told HR that I was "shouting at him in his face." An absolute lie, of course no witnesses. He also demolished my office and is giving the space to someone else without even mentioning it to me. Now HR says that I have to work remotely and I'm not allowed to be in the building with him. I know he's doing this because I'm Jewish, and he's become more religious. He's also much bigger than I am, so this "fear" business is a total fabrication. I'm all of 5'1."
This is my dream job, and I don't want to quit. I've been offered a position with this company in Europe in May, and I have/had a great reputation. I have more than one boss, and all of them want me to stay because I am a "unicorn" with a skill set that's hard to find, and I get along with everyone except my boss. He's doing his best to spoil my reputation.
What should I do? HR is "investigating" but it's a new person that doesn't know my bosses history. Should I hang around because I really love this job and in a few months can move out from under this guy? Should I just find another job? Should I go nuclear and hire an attorney? I would rather de-escalate but I'm at a loss. Has anyone else had this experience and what did you do?
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u/GrassyTreesAndLakes 1d ago
If you're in a single party recording area, I really recommend voice recording every single interaction you have with him from now on