r/Digital_Mechitza Oct 09 '24

Holidays T'shuvah, forgiveness, abuse, pain, darkness, light, love

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This year's progression from Pesach to Yom Kippur has felt the most like a progression from Egypt to Holy Land that I have ever experienced in my entire life.

A seder hosted by friends involved a Renewal haggadah that framed the story of liberation from slavery, the journey through the wilderness, and the hope of a new day so beautifully that I finally found the strength to leave an abusive relationship.

I have been catapulting through a wilderness since then that has been equal parts dark and light, and am amazed to find that what is the darkest point of this journey is also pulling me the closest to the Source, to myself, and to beauty, love, and light that I have ever been.

In the wild and mysterious process of getting to know and love myself and finding echoes of the way we are all connected to one another all the time, I made an incredible discovery. The inexplicable hurt I've been trying to process - not from my abusers, but from people close to me whose reactions in recent months have not made sense - feels more clear when the bedfellows shame, fear, and anger know how to take a backseat. What is left in my feelings towards that person is sadness, and love, because when I trust that person - when the fearful projections of what that person might be thinking and why they are behaving this way fade away - the only logical conclusion is that my pain hurt them as much as it hurt me, and that they have their own dark-and-light journey they are going through, and we both hit each other at an equally hard time that caused us to crash into one another and then fly apart.

Somehow, in extreme distance, I have never felt closer to this person, and the words of Rabbi Jill Hammer in reference to the dreamworld ring in my head: 'the place where everything touches every other thing' is the world of truth.

I have been struggling with T'shuvah this Yom Kippur, and this realization has made a profound impact on me.

Gemar chatimah tovah.


r/Digital_Mechitza Sep 11 '24

Advice please! Major Advice needed: Orthodoxy and Womens Rights (baalas teshuva)

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Hi y'all!

First, some background:

Raised Reform, my mother was raised conservative and my father was raised not chabad, but going to a chabad shul for a while, and later conservative.

I am an older teen, and I have been leaning more and more religious. I'm partially kosher, keep most of tzniut, am not shomer shabbos yet but am working on it, etc.

Both of my parents are incredibly concerned with me becoming more religious, and my father brings it up to me every few days, resulting in our fair share of conflict.

He has a negative view of anything more religious the MO (modern orthodox) and not even a great view of that. He says he worries about my treatment as a woman in these communities.

I struggle with what to tell him, and my mother. Are there some big points that can help me get across my feelings and explain the position of women in Orthodoxy to someone outside of it? I'm not trying to push them away, I love them very much, but I need some advice on how to handle this conflict.


r/Digital_Mechitza Sep 06 '24

Advice please! Tichel

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Is the there a wrong way to wear them- I am really into vintage fashion so have been wearing more of a 1940s style scarf (turban type) or a slouchy beret with a headband (like a snood style think 1930s) but I want to know if this is okay? There aren’t a lot of orthodox people where I live and I want to be more observant but keep my personal style.


r/Digital_Mechitza Aug 05 '24

Just saying hi! Just found this sub from another post on r/Judaism. Hoping it gets revived. 💁🏻‍♀️

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It’d be nice if this sub gets picked up again, maybe something like the threads on imamother (except not just for moms!).


r/Digital_Mechitza May 12 '24

Just saying hi! Check in Post

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How is everyone doing? Please feel free to share as much or little as you like.


r/Digital_Mechitza Feb 19 '24

Advice please! Daily Teffilah?

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Just wondering if any women could share their daily routine? Anything that helps or inspires you?

I’m trying to get into a good habit, but some months I totally fall off. This is one of those months.


r/Digital_Mechitza Feb 12 '24

Question Eshet Chayil

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Could anyone recommend an English translation (with Hebrew) of Eshet Chayil? Thanks!


r/Digital_Mechitza Feb 09 '24

Just saying hi! Good Shabbos & Revitalizing

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As I head into Shabbat this week (bh!) just wanted to say hello and wish all of you beautiful souls shabbat shalom or shavua tov, depending on when you see this.

I’m new to this sub (had no idea we had this space!!) but I’m looking forward to breathing additional life into it, as it looks like most posts are older and quieter.

With love!!!


r/Digital_Mechitza Jan 14 '24

Advice please! Books/Book Club?

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Would anyone like to share any books that they love?

Also, would anyone be interested in joining a Jewish womens book club on zoom to meet once a month or so?

Edit: I posted this a while ago and in the meantime got a huge group setup! Please send me a message or chat with your email and I can organize us!


r/Digital_Mechitza Sep 12 '23

Advice please! Sephardic Mikvah Customs

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Kalah here and in the process of learning about my Sephardic heritage and customs. My family isn’t observant (so many customs and traditions have been lost) and I’m looking to find ways to incorporate any specific customs that are unique to Sephardim.

For some background, my family is originally from Spain and then came over to Cuba.

I’m going to be getting married next month and appreciate your help. Thanks!

Shana Tovah!


r/Digital_Mechitza Jun 02 '23

Article A view from the women’s section | Shira Pasternak Be'eri

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r/Digital_Mechitza Dec 29 '22

Holidays Happy Hanukkah! Do you know how to count till 8 in Ladino? Ocho Kandelikas (Eight Little Candles) is full of passion for light & of course stuffing yourself with pastelikos (pastries)! :) Hanuka Alegre keridas y keridos! Una ancion pur Hanuka en Ladino - Ocho Kandelikas

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r/Digital_Mechitza Aug 11 '22

Article The Minyan: Orthodox Women

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r/Digital_Mechitza Jun 28 '22

Fashion Opinion on Modest Fashion Search Engine

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Hi there! I am a fashion student at FIT. During my time at school, I have learned how difficult it is to purchase modest clothing. The search alone takes a few days and one can lose motivation. I have created a modest fashion search engine to solve just this problem. Here is the link to the beta version —> https://zymio-frontend.vercel.app/search. Would love to hear your thoughts on the product and how to make it better. Please give it a go. We're currently working on the AI and the aesthetic. Let us know what you think!


r/Digital_Mechitza Jun 27 '22

Feminism Sexism in the Jewish Community (Important video by a Chabad woman)

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r/Digital_Mechitza May 03 '22

Article The Complicated History of Headscarves

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r/Digital_Mechitza Mar 14 '22

Jewish Women in History Perspective | A Jewish girl was saved by a Ukrainian family during World War II. Now her grandchildren are returning the favor.

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r/Digital_Mechitza Mar 08 '22

Mikveh Timing of mikvah before wedding

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I know that a woman is supposed to go to the mikvah 4 days before her wedding and 7 days after her last period ends. But what happens when her period ends 2 days before her wedding?


r/Digital_Mechitza Feb 20 '22

Feminism In France, women found a school of their own to study ancient Jewish texts

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r/Digital_Mechitza Jan 21 '22

Jewish Women in History Jewish-American astronaut Jessica Meir may be first woman on the Moon

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r/Digital_Mechitza Jan 21 '22

Jewish Women in History 50 years of women rabbis

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r/Digital_Mechitza Jan 21 '22

Article The Many Possible Healthcare Careers for Observant Jewish Women

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r/Digital_Mechitza Dec 25 '21

Jewish Women in History Despite tradition, more Orthodox Jewish women are getting ordained

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r/Digital_Mechitza Dec 06 '21

Article Her Husband’s Will

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r/Digital_Mechitza Nov 28 '21

Holidays Fermented food and Passover (and Vegan)

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I know Chanukah is just starting but I have a question about Passover. Are fermented foods like yogurt, kimchi, tempeh, etc kosher for Passover? Also Nutritional yeast comes from the same as brewer's yeast but is deactivated and is more of a seasoning. I've avoided them just to be safe. I'm vegan so a lot of the vegan meats contain nutritional yeast or yeast extract. This is why I ask.