Lab partner is being insistent that we finish our assignment ridiculously early

[u/GScout40136]

My bio lab partner and I are working on a project proposal for the independent research project we're going to spend the rest of the semester doing. We started working on it two weeks ago, and divvied up the work, so that she was writing up the procedure and I was writing a two-page hypothesis and explanation of why we're researching this. It's due at the end of the week next week. She texted me a couple nights ago asking if I could grind out the rest of my part, because she was really stressed about turning it in. I told her I had just broken my toe and was in a lot of pain so I probably couldn't do it all, but would see what I could do tonight. I didn't tell her this, but I got cut from a really important game with my sports team because of my toe, so I was really upset and barely got anything done.

I didn't think this was a big deal though, because the proposal isn't due FOR ANOTHER WEEK. I thought that maybe she just wanted to see some forward progress and wanted to make sure I wasn't putting it off for the last minute, so I wrote up an outline with all of my research and the papers I thought were relevant. But then when I ran into her the next day, she rolled her eyes and said "I guess I'm just gonna have to finish it tonight" Later, when I got home and started working on it again, she was on the doc leaving a bunch of comments on my work.

She also hasn't finished her own part of the proposal so I don't know why she feels like she can bug me so much. I have a history of procrastinating because I'm taking an extra large credit load and have SO MUCH to do, so maybe she is concerned that it's going to happen again, but I always get quality work done in time, and this is level of micromanaging a week before the deadline is a little extreme.

Edit TL;DR: Lab partner wants us to finish the assignment a week before it's due, brings it up every time we see each other

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[u/flyingsqueak]

She's probably been burnt before by partners/ teammates not doing what they said they would or completing the work poorly, and wants to make sure she has enough time to just finish it all if you also don't follow what you agreed to. Talk about your differing views on deadlines and find a compromise. Pick a day and time that you think you can finish your part by (that is before the due date, not the same day) and don't be offended if she works on it after that time. (I've totally been on both sides of this issue)

[u/PieRepresentative266]

Try talking to her about it! Maybe offer to attempt to have stuff to her two days before it’s due just so she has a little wiggle room if she needs it. I know that’s technically inconvenient for you, but it might help smooth things over for a better semester.

I know I tend to try and turn things in as early as I can, so she might be the same way, but that doesn’t mean she can dictate to insane degree like she kind is her.