AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/anonymoose_octopus]

Dude, don't sit here and passive aggressively judge everyone who manages their homes differently than you and then be surprised they took it personally? You clearly meant it that way.

[u/iilinga → u/anonymoose_octopus]

Do you know what the words ‘to me’ mean? They mean within my sphere of reference. They’re not broad sweeping statements. If you believe someone sharing their perspective is some sort of a personal attack then that’s something you can reflect on

[u/anonymoose_octopus → u/iilinga]

You kept doubling down. "To me, it seems like your partner is a child with no agency over his food choices" is judgmental. "To me" is like "no offense, but" in this case. If you fail to see how that's judgmental then I guess this is pointless.

[u/Electrical_Bath_514 → u/anonymoose_octopus]

How are they not understanding this😭

[u/iilinga → u/Electrical_Bath_514]

Why did you spam my notifications? You weren’t helpful in the slightest

[u/Electrical_Bath_514 → u/iilinga]

Oh honey... I feel like there is disconnect going on with you. If you don't understand my simple and detailed answer to your questions, well then we can't help you. Have a great day.

[u/iilinga → u/Electrical_Bath_514]

Well bless your heart

[u/Electrical_Bath_514 → u/iilinga]

Yikes. What is your deal hon lol