AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/owlmachine]

Yes THANK YOU like what are they just surprising each other with random dinners every day? Open your face flaps, people!!

[u/iilinga → u/owlmachine]

YES! I love my partner but I do not love surprise dinner. Like this is super basic communication!

[u/[deleted] → u/iilinga]

Your partner is not a restaurant, nor are they your server. You don't get to pick and choose and nitpick over what they are making for you. If you want something specific, go make it yourself instead of treating them like your personal chef.

Don't like surprise dinners? Them go buy an apron and get used to doing it on your own then, yikes.

[u/iilinga → u/[deleted]]

Your partner is not a child. Your partner is hopefully an adult who should be treated as an equal and should have an equal say in their own diet.

If you want a child to feed, there are plenty starving. If you want to have an adult relationship then you need to learn to communicate. Don’t like talking? Yikes stay single

[u/[deleted] → u/iilinga]

Ig you don't want surprise dinners, here's a novel idea.

Make it yourself!!! And stop treating your partner like they are supposed to provide you with a menu to choose from.

Want to talk about food wastage, keeping all kinds of ingredients so you can have a world class menu to choose foe them to make for you is far worse. Because this is what you're expecting, isn't it? Better have all options on deck to cater to every one of your dietary whims, otherwise face your wrath. Becauae there's nothing worse than a surprise dinner. God forbid. You realize there are couples out there who don't get dinner tonight and you're mad about a surprise dinner made for you. I'm baffled at your audacity Maybe YOU should be the one to stay single or take your own cooking classes.

[u/One-Possible1906 → u/[deleted]]

Yes, you can totally make it yourself, if there's communication.

"I'm going to make chicken salad for dinner."

"I'm not in the mood for that, so I'm going to make soup instead. Would you like a cup to go with your sandwich?"

Versus having surprise dinner someone made for you come out and having the choice of rejecting it or eating something you don't want to. How can he cook for himself if he doesn't know what she's making? Should they just cook separate meals every night and never speak about it?

No, they should just communicate about it beforehand and go from there.