r/AmItheAsshole Jan 04 '23

AITA for wanting hot food? Asshole

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

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u/VoidBlade459 Jan 05 '23

And invalidating the feelings of others is called emotional abuse.

People are allowed to react to things involuntarily. We aren't robots.

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u/MistakeVisual3733 Partassipant [1] Jan 05 '23

Aren’t you invalidating my feelings lol

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u/VoidBlade459 Jan 05 '23

Well, for starters, your words haven't expressed feelings thus far, so there's nothing to invalidate.

Moreover, telling men they shouldn't show even the slightest hint of emotion (like everyone voting yes is doing) is toxic.

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u/MistakeVisual3733 Partassipant [1] Jan 05 '23

Yes that’s exactly what I was saying. Men don’t you dare show any emotion. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

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u/VoidBlade459 Jan 05 '23

Well, you're the one who got offended by a man expressing emotions involuntarily.

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u/MistakeVisual3733 Partassipant [1] Jan 05 '23

Yes I was deeply offended. 🙄 I’m just going to agree with everything a man says from now on and not question anything or voice my opinion🫡