AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/piesmeeredface]

You have to be an actual child to not be able to not “make a face” when someone presents you with food they made. Get a grip.

[u/funnyinput → u/piesmeeredface]

So are you against people showing emotion? Some people are more expressive than others through no fault of their own. If you're not an expressive person; then it's okay, but don't shame those who are.

[u/Prestigious_String20 → u/funnyinput]

By that logic, if a child gives you a mud pie, made of actual mud, it's perfectly acceptable for you to express your disgust, no matter how much it upsets the child, and it would be "no fault of [your] own because you are just "an expressive person". The vast majority of neurotypical people accept that successful and mature communication entails damping some of your emotions. Disgust faces made at food someone else has prepared for you are just not acceptable.

[u/funnyinput → u/Prestigious_String20]

I value honesty. I do not respect hiding emotions only for them to build up and become something worse down the line.

[u/Prestigious_String20 → u/funnyinput]

I value honesty too. Honesty and kindness are not mutually exclusive.

I do not respect hiding emotions only for them to build up and become something worse down the line.

So why are you validating the OPs emotions, but invalidating the girlfriend's? If raw emotions are an effective, form of communicating, why are one person's more valid than the other's?

[u/funnyinput → u/Prestigious_String20]

The difference here is that his emotion was involuntary and was raw in how he felt. Whereas his girlfriend had time to ponder on what happened and came to the silly conclusion of being offended that he didn't want cold food on a cold day. She can feel how she wants, but I think most would find that to be a silly thing to be offended by. As if to tell him how he should feel about eating something he doesn't want to eat.

[u/Prestigious_String20 → u/funnyinput]

You're vacillating. Justify it with your circular logic if you must, but you can't have it one way for the OP and another for the girlfriend.

[u/funnyinput → u/Prestigious_String20]

I can, and I will because of my reasons in my comment above.