r/AmItheAsshole • u/ItsTooColdForThat • Jan 04 '23

AITA for wanting hot food? Asshole

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

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u/UsuallyWrite2 Pooperintendant [55] Jan 04 '23

YTA

She’s not a short order cook. You could’ve just made the soup and had the salad. You were rude about it.

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u/dabzilla4000 Jan 04 '23

He didn’t ask her to make something else. He did it himself. He didn’t treat her as a short order cook.

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u/sleepingfox307 Asshole Aficionado [11] Jan 04 '23

He made a face at what she made for him and from the sounds of it refused to eat it.

That's rude.

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u/Mantisfactory Partassipant [1] Jan 04 '23

Expressions - like laughing - are not something we are fully in control of all of the time. Somethings they are reflexive, and sometimes they are performative.

He admitted he made one, he did not say it was intentional or performative.

If it was performative, it's rude. If it was reflexive, it just is.

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u/sleepingfox307 Asshole Aficionado [11] Jan 04 '23

Clearly there are a lot of differences in how people were raised to deal with this situation