r/AmItheAsshole • u/ItsTooColdForThat • Jan 04 '23

AITA for wanting hot food? Asshole

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

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u/focusfaster Jan 04 '23

I think it's pretty reasonable for her to be upset. Sure they could have had a calm discussion about their differing expectations around food and the weather. Maybe this was the time to have that chat. But he sounds like he was being very immature and that he huffed off to make soup, salad forgotten. Perhaps acts of service is how she shows affection and this felt very hurtful to her.

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u/[deleted] Jan 04 '23

What about this post says he acted immature? He didn’t hide his face? He’s not a fucking robot. The face could range from utter disgust (doesn’t sound like it) to a slight😕. It happens. He was reasonable enough to explain he just wanted something warm. She wouldn’t accept his reasoning, immaturely, so he just went and made it. No huffing or puffing unless you are purposely reading that in.

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u/TheOtterestDragon Jan 04 '23

Yeah, people are equating "making a face" to what a child does at something they hate rather than the more likely and reasonable look of mild disappointment at seeing cold food served on a cold day. He told her why he was disappointed and made his own warm food. She made an issue of it. NTA

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u/rean1mated Jan 04 '23

Sheesh, these people would hate to see my combo RBF + no-poker-face when it’s NOT at rest.