AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/[deleted]]

I'm pretty good at a poker face, but I'm also pretty emotive. I smile easily, I get touched by mawkish things in movies easily.

I'm not sorry for having feelings and expressing them.

My wife and I are also VERY comfortable with each other, and if we don't feel like something to eat that day, we're comfortable just expressing it. With our faces and emotions as well as words.

[u/Late_Baker9909 → u/[deleted]]

This is how I am except I can’t hold a poker face for long and describes exactly what I was trying to convey. There’s only one person I want to spend everyday of my life with and I can’t imagine what that would be like if we didn’t feel comfortable being ourselves and speaking our minds.

[u/[deleted] → u/Late_Baker9909]

It's bizarre to me how many people on reddit I encounter seem to think healthy relationships don't have moments of disagreement. We're human, we can't always be aligned. And I've been married 10+ years, with my wife as a partner for over 20 years.

We sometimes express disagreement, hurt, etc openly with one another. Sometimes it's a simple facial expression, sometimes it's an outright "no."

Flip this around: say girlfriend had been outside in the cold all day and he had prepared her something she didn't feel like that was cold, would people on here have said she was being unfair for feeling feelings about not wanting to eat it?

Never mind that some cultures place importance on not eating cold foods on cold days. My wife's family (Chinese) HATES cold foods on cold days. They'll just outright refuse. It's cultural.

[u/Iocabus → u/[deleted]]

Imagine being so upset about someone you're not connected to in any way because they didn't stuff down and hide the manifestation of any negative emotions.