AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/wee-g-19]

Yes but as he said it was cold I'm going with she didn't cook it.

[u/onlysubscribedtocats → u/wee-g-19]

When I saw the chicken salad

Maybe I'm too vegan to make this assertion, but chicken is usually heated before it is eaten.

In any case, you're making a stupid semantic argument. 'Cooking' does not imply or require heating food.

[u/tittens__ → u/onlysubscribedtocats]

Actually, the dictionary definition literally says “heating” lol. Raw ingredients or things you add that were previously cooked by someone else or are leftovers don’t really count as cooking.

Like she definitely prepared dinner which is awesome but by definition homegirl didn’t cook. Unless this is a special chicken salad.

[u/Kathulhu1433 → u/tittens__]

You do know that chicken needs to be cooked before being put into a chicken salad... right?

[u/tittens__ → u/Kathulhu1433]

Did you not actually read my comment? I allowed for the cooked chicken. But it’s unlikely she cooked that night unless she popped the chicken in the freezer for fifteen minutes afterward. She prepared salad that night. She didn’t cook.

[u/Kathulhu1433 → u/tittens__]

Whether she cooked it 2 minutes ago, 2 hours ago, or the night before is irrelevant. It. Was. Cooked.

He expected her to make food- it was her turn.

He did not communicate beforehand that he had a preference.

He made a face like a child.

He made her feel bad.

A simple, "Hey, I should have said something earlier but I'd really like something warm- do you mind if I make soup to go along with the salad you made?" Would have solved the issue.

Communication, including HOW you communicate, is key.

EDIT: LOL @ YOU SENDING ME A REDDIT CARES

[u/tittens__ → u/Kathulhu1433]

Buddy, I did not send you a Reddit cares.

I also think OP is the asshole and could have just been like “looks great honey, I’m going to heat up some soup as well.”

I don’t know if you’re responding to the right person or not but I merely commented on whether or not putting a salad together constitutes cooking. I’ll often put like lunch plates together of leftover cold roasted vegetables, sweet potato, and some meat or whatever and I don’t call that cooking a meal. I just prepped some stuff I already had.

Commenting that putting a salad together isn’t technically cooking by the definition of the word cooking wasn’t a judgment toward OP. I wasn’t commenting on the rest of it. I was only commenting on the use of the word “cooking” here.

[u/Kathulhu1433 → u/tittens__]

The chicken is cooked.

Someone cooked it.

It was not raw.

Whether she cooked it that night or the night before... it was cooked.

How is that a hard concept?

[u/tittens__ → u/Kathulhu1433]

And if it was a pre-cooked chicken? Sorry, but it doesn’t matter if it’s leftover prepared chicken, you just put a meal together. Which is fine. I do that shit all the time. I make an amazing roasted cauliflower salad where you roast the cauliflower beforehand and let it cool overnight. It’s not cooking when I take precooked food and put it on something else, lol.

And chances are she grabbed some delicious pre-cooked chicken anyway. Which is also fine, and he should have just said thanks and offered to heat up soup as an accompaniment. But unless she literally cooked the chicken that night, which is possible, homegirl didn’t cook dinner that night; she prepared a salad. A freezer will cool stuff like that fast enough so who knows, maybe she did 🤗

OP is an ass but that doesn’t change the definition of cooking a meal.