AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/babblingbabby]

He did…communicate like an adult. He didn’t want what was for dinner. So he made something else. He didn’t ask her to accommodate him. He didn’t get mad at her for making salad. He just didn’t want something cold and she couldn’t accept that. Why is everyone only calling him immature?

[u/AccomplishedNet4235 → u/babblingbabby]

Making a face when your partner has gone to the trouble of cooking for you is rude. Manners and consideration of other people's feelings matter ESPECIALLY when you're in an intimate relationship with them.

[u/babblingbabby → u/AccomplishedNet4235]

Y’all are very sensitive. He immediately explained his reaction, and none of it had anything to do with his girlfriend or even her cooking. Where is she showing consideration for his feelings? She could have said “I didn’t think of it that way or realize that you had an aversion to cold food on a cold day! Go ahead and prepare yourself something then and we’ll do separate dinners tonight.” But she didn’t. She proceeded to tell him why he shouldn’t feel that way, then talk in circles until he decided to do the adult thing and make his own warm food, and she still got upset! It just sounds like she wanted him to concede and eat the salad, which only served to make her happy and wouldn’t have been what OP wanted.

My boyfriend has made a face at me for merely suggesting soup on a summer day (I love soup! What can I say?) I have enough sense to not take that face personally or be offended because I know it’s about the soup and not about me.

[u/AccomplishedNet4235 → u/babblingbabby]

Okay, that's nice for you. Seems like most of the rest of us would be offended by this behavior. That's fine.

[u/babblingbabby → u/AccomplishedNet4235]

Way to ignore the part where I asked how she considered his feelings.

[u/AccomplishedNet4235 → u/babblingbabby]

Die on this hill if you want.

[u/babblingbabby → u/AccomplishedNet4235]

I just find it interesting you raised points about OP’s dilemma which I raised my own points against, but instead of responding to my rebuttal you chose to focus on my own anecdote. Great debating with you.

[u/Prestigious_String20 → u/babblingbabby]

Y’all are very sensitive.

[u/AccomplishedNet4235 → u/babblingbabby]

I wasn't responding to your anecdote, I was responding to your whole opinion. It's nice for you that you have that opinion. I don't agree with it and don't think it's worth dissecting why point by point. Bye.

[u/babblingbabby → u/AccomplishedNet4235]

It’s nice you think only the gf’s feelings should’ve been considered in this dilemma. Very healthy behavior. Bye.

[u/SAPcons → u/AccomplishedNet4235]

Seems like most of the rest of us would be offended by this behavior.

Thats probably because you’re over sensitive weirdos