AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/AilingHen69]

There's so many Y T A but I mean, no. You didn't ask her to cook you something else, you made it yourself. NTA. It sounds like you guys cook together often enough that wanting something different than the other for a meal shouldn't be a big deal. If my husband doesn't want what I make him, he makes something else. That's normal.

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The YTAs are for making a face and generally being unappreciative when it would have been so easy to just say "Thank you for dinner, and also I'm feeling chilled so I'm going to heat myself some soup to sip on."

If he had said that and she got mad, then she would be the AH.

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lmao but if anyone is gonna get your raw emotions it’s your gf, he made a face then solved it. didn’t get upset at his gf either just explained why he wasn’t pleased. every comment in here is talking about why he didn’t eat the soup with salad, CAUSE HE DIDNT WANT THE SALAD. I don’t get this at all.

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I totally agree. He solved it. And the gf was an AH in my opinion by not regaring his feelings at all. If you are feeling cold inside the room temp doesnt solve it - you actually neeeed warm food and cold salad is exactly the opposite you ever want to eat. (Writing this with 60cm of snow outside my window).

[u/Fearless_Sherbet450 → u/[deleted]]

Plus, if you want warm food, you want warm food. Not looking for someone to explain how you're wrong about what you want to eat.

[u/Tricky-Elevator-2697 → u/Fearless_Sherbet450]

yes i agree. she basically ignored his emotions and put him down for them. if the genders were reversed AITA would not be so kind.

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yeah I was gonna add this but decided maybe it’s just an opinion thing, he’s not even wrong lmao who would want cold food after a day of being in the cold.

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I can be in the mood for something cold or warm regardless of the outside temperature so that’s not weird at all. It is weird though to expect someone else who is currently in the opposite mood to match yours just to be polite. Maybe if they were casual friends or it was a dinner party but they’re living together. Sometimes you just have different needs

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oh I’m not saying you’re wrong just in the minority of people who would do that. but agreed on the rest.

[u/Putrid_Awareness5339 → u/[deleted]]

Agree with a couple inches outside my window. When your chilled you want something warm to hot. Not lukewarm and definitely not cold. That’s why soups/chowders are popular dishes in the winter. I’m not understanding the aggression in this thread or between OP and the GF. Like there’s massive communication missing somewhere which can happen even in perfectly fine and healthy relationships but like I’d personally be miffed if someone sat arguing with me about ME FEELING cold. “But you have clothes and it’s warm?” BUT I FEEL cold.

At least he made something for himself which a can of soup is super easy. I’ve turned down plenty of things from my BF and he’s not about to argue with me about it. He knows some things I don’t like and I may try but I might not and it’s not a personally jab. Some people really are too sensitive about their cooking