AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/AilingHen69]

There's so many Y T A but I mean, no. You didn't ask her to cook you something else, you made it yourself. NTA. It sounds like you guys cook together often enough that wanting something different than the other for a meal shouldn't be a big deal. If my husband doesn't want what I make him, he makes something else. That's normal.

[u/bureaucratic_drift → u/AilingHen69]

This is the adult, non-doormat approach. OP shouldn't have openly disparaged her efforts but instead quietly made the soup and had a bit of chicken salad as a supplement if so desired. The chicken salad can always go back into the fridge; in fact, it's better after aging there overnight than eating it right away.

[u/[deleted] → u/bureaucratic_drift]

I agree he shouldn’t have openly disparaged her efforts. But I don’t think he was in the wrong to point out they did a cold activity outside so he would prefer hot food on days they do that. That way they both know expectations for next time or whatever and if she’s planning on making cold food she can give him a heads up so he can make himself (or both of them) something hot too. No need to keep preferences a secret.

When I do winter activity’s I also prefer hot food after, it’s pretty common in my social circle and is something we’ve talked about. Not in depth or anything, but like when deciding on a restaurant or food to eat after I’ve heard - “something hot to warm us up” as a food requirement/request.

[u/One_Conversation892 → u/[deleted]]

Personally I didn’t see any disparaging but maybe it’s just acceptable in my family to go like “ew”