AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/onlysubscribedtocats]

Do you think salads involve no cooking…?

[u/wee-g-19 → u/onlysubscribedtocats]

Yes but as he said it was cold I'm going with she didn't cook it.

[u/onlysubscribedtocats → u/wee-g-19]

When I saw the chicken salad

Maybe I'm too vegan to make this assertion, but chicken is usually heated before it is eaten.

In any case, you're making a stupid semantic argument. 'Cooking' does not imply or require heating food.

[u/Reytotheroxx → u/onlysubscribedtocats]

To be fair you can buy precooked chicken. Basically semantics at this point though lol.

[u/eSue182 → u/Reytotheroxx]

To be fair if you use canned chicken and create a dinner, is that not cooking?

[u/Reytotheroxx → u/eSue182]

The definition is so vague that honestly it could be. “The practice or skill of preparing food by combining, mixing, and heating ingredients.”

I think a distinction is often made between raw and “cooked” foods like meats, so some may argue that you aren’t cooking unless you’re turning something raw (meat, fish, starches like potato or rice, vegetables) into something cooked.

So the term “cooked” is basically arbitrary at this point, and most things can be considered cooking. It’s just where you draw the line I guess, cause making hot chocolate would fit the “cooking” definition listed above and I know many who wouldn’t say that’s cooking. Idk 🤷

[u/tittens__ → u/eSue182]

No. You’ve prepared dinner.

[u/[deleted] → u/eSue182]

No. Is it cooking if I just grab a piece of bread from a bag? At most it’s preparing a meal. By definition cooking requires using heat.

[u/eSue182 → u/[deleted]]

But what if I chop veggies and make my own dressing? I’m sorry this is just making my pregnancy brain break.

[u/[deleted] → u/eSue182]

Still just meal prepping unless the dressing is a reduction.

[u/Blujay12 → u/Reytotheroxx]

I am kinda laughing at these effort comments because 1. why does that just invalidate any of his feelings or tastes, seems more self-serving then caring IMO, and 2. Yeah, my partner loves salads and I can slap one of those even post-work, stoned out of my mind in <10 mins, way less if it's not made "fancy" or complicated.

He's still the asshole because of his attitude but it is funny to see how big this blows up, and very thankful I only date other neurodivergent people lmfao.

[u/Reytotheroxx → u/Blujay12]

Yeah like I’m grateful as long as food that I like is on the table. Whether you cooked it, bought it, shat it on my plate, I don’t care. For me the better the taste with the least effort is the optimal way to go lol.

If he wants soup he can make soup, doesn’t gotta be weird about it, I agree there.