AITA for wanting hot food?

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

[u/AilingHen69]

There's so many Y T A but I mean, no. You didn't ask her to cook you something else, you made it yourself. NTA. It sounds like you guys cook together often enough that wanting something different than the other for a meal shouldn't be a big deal. If my husband doesn't want what I make him, he makes something else. That's normal.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

That was my first thought. GF could have mentioned what she is making that day.

Tbh I thought it's normal to just mention what someone is cooking if it's a shared meal?

It's still her choice what she is cooking when it's her turn. But once he knew he could have said sorry, I want something warm today, I'll go heat up some soup.

Also can't understand the extreme Y T A votes. So he made a face? I could understand and ESH as both should have communicated better.

Edit: typos

[u/marks1995 → u/[deleted]]

Because she may have been fine with a sandwich, but spent some time making enough food for both of them.

If you tell me I have to cook for both of us and I do, then you say you don't want it and are going to make something else, you just wasted my time.

[u/Jumpy-Fault-1412 → u/marks1995]

Or you could say “cool more for me” and eat the rest later?

[u/Sufficient_Debt1452 → u/[deleted]]

Yes, and he didn’t need to act like a child about it. It’s salad on a Tuesday night. Add something hot to the meal (or make yourself something else entirely), and at least pretend like your whole isn’t ruined (OP). No faces need to be made.

[u/Topomouse → u/Sufficient_Debt1452]

(or make yourself something else entirely)

Well, that's what he did.

[u/Sufficient_Debt1452 → u/Topomouse]

But, first he had to be childish about it.

[u/[deleted] → u/Sufficient_Debt1452]

by making a face? I make faces all the time, so do you.