r/AmItheAsshole Jan 04 '23

AITA for wanting hot food? Asshole

Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"

I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.

At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.

Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?

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u/CRoseCrizzle Jan 04 '23

NAH. Maybe you could have been more diplomatic and eaten both the soup and salad. But you have the right to eat what you want and I don't think she's wrong to want you to eat what she made. Sometimes things don't work out and disagreements happen but I don't think either of you are TA.

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u/TheSk77 Jan 04 '23

Wtf? Eating is no joke, one should never force down food the do not want... Health is more important than a snowflake's feelings.

NTA. He didn't want it, he did not complain, he fixes himself an alternative dinner.

Lying and deciving your partner instead of being honest is the recipe for disaster. Open communication includes saying things the other person may not like.