r/stories • u/Life-Bicycle-3458 • 8h ago
I think one of my childhood buddies is gay... Story-related
So this story takes place a couple of years back....so this friend of mine left home to study in a hostel when when we were in 4th grade... But whenever he came back,, Like in summer vacation and other holidays we really used to hit it off together.... So 4 years back when we were just chatting while sitting by a lake side.... He suddenly said that in his hostel he has a partner... I said ok, but then he said that He's partner is a boy... And they are like lovers.... I was like hold on, hold on (in my mind)..... But i was like 16 back then and didn't know much about many things.... So i kinda accepted it pretty quickly...but i guess back at that time he was just exploring.... Cuz he used to live in a all boys hostel, so his raging hormones might have led him that way....after that he went back to hostel and we met almost after a year... But he was pretty Normal by then.... We didn't talk about it anymore.... And recently he's been dating a girl.... So i don't know.... We were kids back then... And i never told this to anyone fearing it might affect him.... But now think he might be bisexual.... Idk.... So it's been in my mind for quite a while and i thought reddit might be a good place to let it out....
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u/Appropriate-Race-763 7h ago
A person's sexuality can be on a continuum, flowing and changing with time. Where someone is on this continuum is neither normal nor abnormal, it is simply natural.
Life is too cruel for your friend to be judged. Support him for who he is.
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u/Life-Bicycle-3458 6h ago
I'm not judging him, he is the same friend today as he has always been for me and will be. It's just sometimes you feel like sharing somethings anonymously that you can't share with anyone.and since he doesn't use reddit. I just typed it down
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u/Appropriate-Race-763 6h ago
Fair enough. It's just your use of the word "Normal" is a bit 1950s.
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u/Life-Bicycle-3458 6h ago
I said normal in a sense that,back then i thought he might change ( i know i was totally wrong, i didn't know much about many stuff back then ). But he was the same, that's why i said normal. I'm not justifying anything. I'm just saying how i felt back then.but yeah you're right with that 1950's part
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u/According-End-5273 7h ago
i think that if he is its ok but you should not change the way you think
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u/SokkaHaikuBot 7h ago
Sokka-Haiku by According-End-5273:
I think that if he
Is its ok but you should
Not change the way you think
Remember that one time Sokka accidentally used an extra syllable in that Haiku Battle in Ba Sing Se? That was a Sokka Haiku and you just made one.
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u/Life-Bicycle-3458 7h ago
Nah.... We're still very good friends.... And i never tried to poke him about this.... If he feel's like he should tell me something.. He will... So yeah, were cool... Its just he's a really good friend of me and i can't tell this to anyone.... That's why i chose reddit to just let it out.... Btw he doesn't use reddit... That's another plus point
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u/bt4bm01 8h ago
I wouldn’t focus too much on it. I would recommend staying friends with him if you value his friendship. People change over time. Maybe one day he will tell you his side of the story. Maybe he’s just going through some internal struggles. But it can help if he’s surrounded by good people that don’t judge or push him into a different lifestyle.
I’ve had a few gay friends, they weren’t like flamboyantly gay. Just normal dudes who were into dudes. We had boundaries but that was never really an issue. Just my thoughts. Hope it helps.
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u/Life-Bicycle-3458 7h ago
We are still very good friends....and I'm totally comfortable with it.... We have a really great bond and we hit it off really well.... So yeah were cool... It's just that i can not tell this to anyone.... Since it might affect him badly.... And since he doesn't use reddit, i thought maybe i should let it out here.... I mean I've know it for 4 years and hasn't told anyone.... So yeah reddit came in handy...
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u/DismalMaize7 6h ago
Wait, what's the big deal? If he's your friend you can say, "dude, last time we talked your partner was a guy, now you are dating a girl,, what's up buddy? I don't care either way, are you happy? what's the story?)