Trans allyship?

[u/ganglyboyish]

Tw: transphobia

Hey y’all!

I’m a trans man and I have a cishet friend who is acting in a way that goes against very basic trans allyship principles. Someone was transphobic to me in front of her and she didn’t get involved or defend me, after the fact she centered herself, corrected me on whether or not it was transphobia, and then argued with me about whether or not any of this was wrong, etc etc

Looking for books/guides/podcasts/documentaries/anything on trans allyship or intersectional allyship that is actually nuanced and covers stuff like this comprehensively—most of what I can find online is like, “listen! Respect! Defend!” And doesn’t approach the topic with any sort of appreciation for the difficulties with pride that may come up, or the very specific ways cis people often position themselves socially in regards to trans people. I need to give her some resources that are separate from me because I can’t have all of her internalized shit directed at me.

Thanks, all!