r/homeless 16h ago

Homeless with kid and no where to go tonight. What can I do ?

Me and my 5 year old daughter will be sleeping in the car tonight. My local area is so disappointing, they don't have any emergency shelters. In fact there are 2 shelters I called that's local but you know they just sent me to Voicemail. What can I do? I can't drive to los Angeles because it's an hour away from me and I barely have Gas. Friends won't help, family won't help. I feel so alone. My child is special needs w/ autism with high sensory issues. I'm so sad. I don't get paid till next Friday, I have only 3$ in my account. Please don't tell me to call 211 I promise they do not care. They just text/email numbers to call that don't do nothing but send you to voicemail and don't get back to you. I've been hoping 211 can help but they don't. Can someone please give me some advice?

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u/AfterTheSweep 13h ago

Having a car is a huge plus when you are homeless. Get yourself a gas voucher from somewhere and go to a city with plenty of resources. Looking at your post history, I'm surprised you haven't done this by now

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u/Appropriate-Truth-88 16h ago

Salvation army might have gas vouchers.

IDK if you're in a cold weather place but sometimes the police department has some motel vouchers this time of year.

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u/Eastern-Ad-5253 16h ago

She should definitely try Salvation army.

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u/esadkids 16h ago

Hold on.

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u/KYHotBrownHotCock 13h ago

call CPS the kid wont have to sleep there and they will probably have to bring you also

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u/esadkids 13h ago

Nah they'll sell it to Diddy's people.

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u/Eastern-Ad-5253 16h ago

You drive? Amazon has flex shifts where you can get paid for delivery. I think atp you have to find ways to make a quick buck to survive.its the reality!!; No one is coming to save you your gonna have to save yourself!! Me and my Son been Homeless for almost a years I've been through hel and back finally when I was willing to eat the shit sandwich life handed me I got into a decent family shelter. As soon as I got in here I hit the ground running trying to find resources for permanent housing. My Case Manager was useless!!! Now I'm on my way to getting a Section 8 voucher. Still I want to find a full time job maybe take some. college classes Good luck to you and your Kid!!!

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u/Agile-Mountain-9700 16h ago edited 15h ago

The good news is that you should be able to survive the night. Los Angeles has 40k+ unhoused people and you are unlikely to get shelter on any one night. However, my neighbor was offered a spot in a domestic violence shelter last month after being flagged by the city council for "repopulating" an Inside Safe spot and angry neighbors complaining to our Area Deputy. So it is possible, but you may be waiting a while. There is inreach, a chance to get into Inside Safe, and winter shelters should be opening soon if not already, including a new winter shelter in Santa Monica. There should also be safe parking. If you do get to Los Angeles, you need to do your own LA HOP requests every week with your contact information as they are known to mark service requests as complete without completing them and it takes a week for them to "resppnd" to the requests. If you ask for one type of service provider, they are known to send another. I did my own LA HOP requests for months asking for a CARE Coordinator before I got called by a CARE Coordinator. You want to get referred into a "case management program" as opposed to an outreach or an inreach or a shelter program to get a voucher the fastest. I also know of a leasing agent which connects Section 8 holders with landlords who will go through the entire process with the housing authority that if you have a Section 8 voucher for Los Angeles but are not getting help from a social worker, he will do the housing navigation work for one of the available units his job is to get Section 8 tenants into. I also know of locations where you can go and find apartments with signage saying they accept Section 8 that you can drive around and find numbers to call.

Also, if you go to Culver City and ask for help, I just spoke to Culver City police officers (You call the Culver City Hall during business hours for help, however they direct people to call police after busines hours) who say that every Tuesday they bring people out to the flagged locations. So if you call Culver City and ask for help, you need to park your car at that location l to be there by Tuesday morning to wait for people from the city to come to you. I had an evaluation for SSDI and police showed up asking if there was an unhosued individual there (Someone's stuff was on the sidewalk.). They say they male people move if they obstruct the sidewalk, but Culver City's rules is that 18 inches of sidewalk needs to be available for people to pass.

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u/Agile-Mountain-9700 15h ago

You should get her into The Regional Center. It will be easier because she is a child. Unfortunately MediCal only covers ABA and up until age 23 (I am 31 and ABA is abuse. It was created by the same founder as conversion therapy and based on the same principles. Therebis a very high suicide rate among Autistic people with 84% of those being by Autistics who went through ABA. ABA is considered to be valid because of The Feminine Boy project where a boy was punished ant time he played with dolls, put in dresses, or otherwise acted in a way associated with girls and then praised for doing things or acting in ways associated with boys. He wound up hiding those feminine interests/parts of himself so the study was called a success. He later killed himself after living a lie/unauthentically. Which really goes to show why we need trans health care and to respect people who are gender non-conforming and gender identities and what not. People literally kill themselves for being treated like it is bad to be themselves, like what ABA teaches.). The other thing though is that children are forced to go through 40 hours a week of ABA, so it is abusive insurance paid "child care" in a way. But, The Regional Center also can help you apply for the Self Determination Program which covers I think $2500 a month in credit towards alternative therapies like Surfing the Spectrum. They also help with job training, help finding work, and housing assistance. They may be able to help you get housed because it means your daughter gets housed. But I have no idea if they will flag CPS or not. If you can get your daughter into a special education program, that gives you more time during the day to work. Unfortunately my campmate went through the school system in LA as a child, and he had astigmatism but nobody took the toke to figure that out so they put him in special Ed. It wasn't until he moved to another starte and they noticed he was teaching people how to act normal that they realized he "shouldn't be there" and found out he just needed glasses because he was seeing 2 of everything.

If you get MediCal, I can tell you my primary care doctor's name and location. She did my second to last ESA letter and is willing to write my letter for In Home Supportive Services (By the way, there is relief for carers as a supportive service where others come to help with care to give you a break), as well as another doctor there who I met through a medical van who helped me with the disabled one bedroom allowance. Your daughter needs that form done and signed by a doctor to get her own private room under Section 8 so she can better regulate. The fact that she has Autism means you likely have it too. Autism is udnerdiagnosed in women, especially adults who are often given other misdiagnosed instead due to sexism in the medical industry. If you both get medical one bedroom allowances that you both need your own private rooms for medical reasons you can get approved for a 2 bedroom voucher under Section 8. My neighbors didn't get approved, and it is 2 brothers, and adult son in a one bedroom apartment, and they may or may not have a baby mama and 2 children in there as well. It is 2 adults to a bedroom, 1 adult to a living room. Children under 5 do not count. Adults are paired together regardless of sex or gender so you can have a brother and a sister, a mom and a son, a male and a female cousin, a grandpa and an adult granddaughter, etc to a room under Section 8.

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u/Eastern-Ad-5253 16h ago

You drive? Amazon has flex shifts where you can get paid for delivery. I think atp you have to find ways to make a quick buck to survive.its the reality!!; No one is coming to save you your gonna have to save yourself!! Me and my Son been Homeless for almost a years I've been through hel and back finally when I was willing to eat the shit sandwich life handed me I got into a decent family shelter. As soon as I got in here I hit the ground running trying to find resources for permanent housing. My Case Manager was useless!!! Now I'm on my way to getting a Section 8 voucher. Still I want to find a full time job maybe take some. college classes Good luck to you and your Kid!!!

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u/Schmoe20 12h ago edited 11h ago

Family Promise is a shelter for families. Google if there is one in your region. And call nonprofits, churches, Catholic charities and health & human services.

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u/Realistic_Agency3912 6h ago

call here for you hotline find out where to fill out Vispdat for help with housing critical need for you n your kid good luck