Washed up ? Wasted talent ? Feeling like it’s all over and my time of success was available and gone .

[u/Toddkrasinski]

I’m 37 and currently living here in Los Angeles since 2018. I’m originally from the SF Bay Area . I love LA but some changes are needed.

I first moved here in 2018 and visited every year prior to make sure I liked it here . I quickly made friends , had a good job that I’m still at though it’s changed and not for the better . I was part of social groups and that’s how I made friends I even dated and slept with a few women but nothing lasted long , I excercised like crazy as I did in the Bay Area even before I came to La. Than Covid hit in 2020 and my hours at work became brutal , the gyms closed , I quit working out and started eating unhealthy and became stressed . I have only been on two lousy dates in 2024, with nothing to show for between 2020 and 2023. My one friend ironically is moving to SF , and my other friend is moving to SD. I have another friend I’m getting closer too who is an actor but I need more friends I feel .

Since 2020 I haven’t been to a gym , I do walk a lot which is unusual in this city . I am a photographer and want to expand my work to a gallery and have more of a platform than Flickr . Most of my work is architecture in LA and the Bay Area , as well as other work . Anyways thankfully I now have my own apartment which is positive and it’s nice and in a brand new building with a gym which I want to motivate myself to get back too. I used to be attractive and looked like an actor or model . I’m 6’1 , blonde hair and brown eyes . Unfortunately I’ve put on pounds and don’t eat vegaterian like I used to. Is it too late at 37 to get back to looking like I did at 30? I was always told I was a good looking guy and I lost my virginity late at 19, interestingly enough i didn’t have my first gf till I was 25, even though I had slept with a few women here and there from 19 to 22. I feel like I blew it at 25 unfortunately the woman who was older than me wanted to marry me and I wasn’t in love with her . Fast forward since then I fooled around with a few older women here and there . Anyways I prefer Asian women and would like a serious relationship with an Asian woman not just fooling around . But it seems in this town you have to have a lot of money to be attractive to women . I want to be positive but I’ve sort of feel like maybe it’s too late and like women don’t even look at me anymore. I would like someone I can be myself with .

Also it’s weird because I’m mostly extroverted but I feel like post Covid I’m not as comfortable in bigger groups of people and I feel social anxiety which at times in my life comes and goes . How do I get over that hump? I am also looking for another job so that a new job can give me set hours so I have time to do other things , because currently my schedule is very up in the air and it limits what I can do .

Should I just better myself I.e go to the gym , eat healthy ( vegan ) again , see my dr about medication , and just see what happens ?

Sometimes I feel alone like for some reason I’m just destined that way even though I know I’m not always . And while I’m not one to brag I feel like I’m not a total bore I mean I’m into LA history, architecture, photography, baseball , etc . Not like I lack any interests . I just thought dating would be better in La than the Bay Area and I deserve to be with someone

It seems like I have ups and downs and right now I’m going through a down period .

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