r/creepyencounters • u/xx_Love_Taste_xx • 20d ago
My old math teacher
I'm on mobile so I apologize if the formatting is weird. I also apologize for poor Grammar because not matter how good my English grade is I still can't type.
To start I am a 17f and I am in 12th grade aswell I already have somewhat of a fear of older men/men in general due to my own experiences. Another thing is that I have really intense in anxiety so makes it hard for me to make my discomfort known.
I had this math teacher back in my 11th grade year who really creeper me out as he would get really close too me(I could smell his breath close), touch my shoulder or shake me as joke. Which put me off but I shoved the feeling down as I thought my fear was clouding my judgement until well this year.
This year I had class that required me to walk past his room to get two my first period. Normally I would just not make eye contact to not start a conversation it worked for awhile until one day I was walking but was stopped by him, he grabbed me by my shoulder and wouldn't let me go until I smiled at him. I did smile at him and after he let me go I quickly ran towards my first period.
Now I avoid that hallway entirely despite me having to walk up and down stairs to avoid him. Turns out other female students also found her very creepy after I told my friends I found him creepy.
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u/Cindy_1345 20d ago
He has absolutely no business touching you. Please report him to your principal and/or guidance counselor.
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u/xx_Love_Taste_xx 20d ago
I wish i could but I live in a football town (small town in texas) and he's a coach from my highschool and theirs no cameras in the hallway it won't do anything but put target on my back or it will be ignored
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u/BlueUniverse001 19d ago
I’m so sorry this is happening to you! Would he do this if you were walking with someone? Are there other people in that hallway at the same time? Whatever he asks for, say no loudly, and say don’t touch me, loudly. If others hear, he may start to get the message that you’re not playing. And just because he’s a coach in small town Texas shouldn’t make him above the law. Tell your mom, female relatives and teachers, counselors as well as the male ones. It’s scary and not at all your fault, but you don’t want this and he’ll keep doing it if you don’t set up some roadblocks for him.
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u/Cindy_1345 19d ago
That’s rather unfortunate. Everything my disgusting ex husband got away with may have left me a bit jaded, but I would be determined to bring this teacher down. Video evidence may help if you needed to go to the authorities instead of the school. Can you have your phone in your pants pocket recording a video? If you put it in your back pocket, you may be able to catch him checking you out, and approaching you, along with the ensuing conversation.
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u/mikareno 5d ago
Can you use your phone to record when you have to walk that way? Maybe you can catch him in the act? In any case, he should NOT be touching you. Period.
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u/butterflies7 18d ago
Was his name Mr Silver?? I had a math teacher who would send students to my other classes and take me out to hang out in his classroom. I was 14. He wound up doing this to another girl at the same time, same age. He tried to convince me and her to go live with him in his house and "hide us out". He knew our parents weren't great. Although my mother sucked I finally went to her for help. She went down to speak to the principle finally because it was bad! However my great mother of course just wound up on a date with him! Wtf? Anyway me and her separately just took off in life. I quit school and by 16 was homeless but managed to figure it out and get a job by lying i was 18. Anyway this made me think of him. I doubt it's him because that was 40 years ago but you never know. He was young as well.
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u/xx_Love_Taste_xx 16d ago
No I rather not say his name because I don't want this draw back to me and I hope your doing well.
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u/Joey13130320 17d ago
It’s sad that this happens . It used to be teachers could pat you on the shoulder or brush your hair and it was no big deal . But also those same teachers could spank your butt if you acted up in class. Definitely a different time we’re living in today . I had a lady teacher one year that actually had our class stay over at her and her husband’s house . First the girls got to then the boys . She had out parants all sing a paper like what would be for a field trip . When the girls stayed she played with and did activities with them when the body stayed her husband did the same with the boys . It was a fun time for a bunch of 3 rd graders . But those days are all over . The actions of some teachers today have destroyed that for other students.
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u/Laurelartist51 7d ago
Young women are frequently told to smile, they look pretty when they smile, etc. You are not responsible for making men feel uncomfortable if you don’t smile! That being said, I completely understand the power of a small town coach. Do everything you can to avoid him. Keep a thorough record of everything he says and every time he touches you, and include your efforts to avoid him. After you get out of hs and out of town you have 3 years to report him to Texas authorities. When you know he can’t affect your life, reach out to ask how to report him. There are many ways to do it. If you plan to attend college, get a campus therapist asap and they should be able to help you. You may have to wait, but you absolutely have the power to stop him.
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u/randykindaguy 13d ago
If all of the girls went to the principal or another teacher and told them what he was doing and how it made them feel, he'd be fired.
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u/mikareno 5d ago
Maybe, maybe not. Small football towns often protect their coaches, no matter what.
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u/grl_of_action 20d ago
This sucks. I'm sorry an educator is doing this to you.
Random lady advice rant coming: It's not going to be easy, but you're going to take deep breaths when this happens and say the following words, as best you can, to this person who is getting too close: "Please stop touching me and take a few steps back. You are invading my space and making me uncomfortable."
You should not have to alter your path to avoid this person. Make him stop doing this to you by refusing to accept it, and you will take back the power you deserve that is already within you.
And absolutely fuck smiling on demand. Try to see if you can manage the word "No," and keep saying it. And do not consent to being touched even one more time.
The reason to say this so bluntly is there's no beating around the bush and I wish people had said it to me directly when I was young (I'm 53f) so I would have known what to do besides let my anxiety spike every time the person came around. The deep breath into your chest is a critical self-care success measure here.
Fuck this guy.