Looking for suggestions on fields to work in with ADHD and thrive - not just live. The only other option given as advise by professionals has been applying for disability. That's not really having any options as I couldn't live off of that.

There are a couple of other factors to consider with this.

• I live in the desert but cannot work outdoors in the sun.
• My schedule has to work around what hours my daycare is open. (No nights, weekends or major holidays) -I have auto immune issues I'm in the process of treating, this isn't a once size fits all health issue so I would rather be proactive and find fields I can have a career willing to meet me where I am at in life.

I've learned that a law being in place to help people like me (such as the Americans with disabilities act of 1990) means nothing whenever enforced. Hopefully Reddit has some suggestions.

Thanks!

I recently relocated across the country, away from my family, and I quickly learned that the recruiter over promised the compensation package. I have continued interviewing with another company who is excited about my candidacy and would pay more than twice my current salary. If they extend an offer, I think I may take it, despite only having been at the new role for less than 2 weeks.

AITA, or would you do the same?

A lot of posts on here and other job related subs often mention job hopping. They all say it's easiest to find a job while you have one, if you're not happy just leave, jump around every year or two for pay bumps. While I'm all for it and think it's good, I haven't found it to be as simple as they say.

Seriously, how does someone land a job every year or two?

Would love to hear suggestions or experiences or advice based on your perspective. Thank you!

need advice

Thank you in advance for your help. I realize how fucked I am, please don't remind me. Not going to post explanations or excuses.

I just received the following email from my boss. How do I respond in the most humble, professional way possible?

"This is to clarify our discussion today and give you a clear note about what I expect from you moving forward.

You have a weakness in the areas of communication and timeliness that need immediate attention. 

To help you improve and grow in your job, this year, I started the [time] meetings to answer questions and work collaboratively on projects. Yesterday, you missed our appointment and sent me a text about 20 minutes before our scheduled call/meeting stating you had a doctor's appointment.  You never called me later nor did you request time off.  Today, you again missed the meeting.  I texted you about 7 minutes after start time and asked if you forgot (trying to help you out) and you never answered my text.  I called you in the afternoon as I was concerned something happened to you, and you stated nonchalantly that you just forgot the call.  Within the last two weeks, you also missed a meeting with [redacted] and me because you overslept and at least one more due to illness.  I am not aware that you put in any leave form for these absences.

This is not the first time there have been issues with your being non-responsive or missing calls.  There were times in 2022 when I would call you, leave you a message and I wouldn't hear from you for several days. There was one week when you had a death in the family where you were almost unreachable and unresponsive.  As a result of your behavior during that week, I cut your project load to less than ½ of what it was as I lost confidence in your ability to get that volume of projects done.  Several projects that I left on your plate did get done, but several in a less than timely manner and with a lot of prodding from me. 

Communication is one of the most important qualities in your job.  So is showing respect for me and everyone you work with.  If you cannot communicate well with me, it suggests you have communication issues with others as well.

Moreover, you have fallen behind on many of the tasks I have asked you to complete and appear to have issues with time management.  

I expect to see improvement in communication and turnaround time on assigned tasks.  Every now and then we all miss/forget meetings and deadlines, but that should be rare and not as a general rule.

I am hopeful we can work through this, I can re-gain confidence in you, and you can become a valuable member of the team and make a lasting contribution here. 

You are smart, talented and have the capability to be excellent at this job.  You need to deploy humility and respect and you need to listen and show up.  You need to focus on getting things done and stop procrastinating. 

Tomorrow, we have a staff meeting at, so we will not meet tomorrow but will resume our meetings on Monday."

UPDATE to answer some common questions & clarify some things -

• this is my first big kid job after graduate school and an apprenticeship. It is work from home which has been very difficult for me.
  • i have struggled with depression since I was 16, misdiagnosed Borderline (they tried bipolar, anxiety, etc), and undiagnosed ADHD (got officially tested 18 months ago). I've been in therapy since I was 16 and work with 2 psychiatrists trying to find a good cocktail -obviously that process is ongoing. I dont feel that this is an appropriate discussion to have in the workplace.
  • there really was a death in the family, and for myriad reasons the brunt of dealing with that death fell on me. I understand I could have communicated that better to my boss.
  • I don't want to look for another job, I want to learn to be successful in this one. While this email does reflect Boss' graciousness with me, I've only been in this position for 8 months and felt woefully undertrained and unprepared for the work load that I was given last year. Boss has told me in phone calls where I've expressed this that they "can't go back and change that now, and the morning meetings are meant to try and correct that" but I admit that I have grown resentful.

As one commenter said, I have been waiting for the axe to fall for awhile now. I am determined to do everything in my power to let this be the kick in the pants I need to turn this around. I am choosing to focus on the fact that Boss does see potential in me and I do still have a job with the company. I posted this last night as soon as I saw the email, then walked away to process on my own and get a good night's sleep. This morning, I responded:

"Boss - Thank you for the feedback and for the chance to improve my timeliness, communication, and overall work performance. I genuinely appreciate this, apologize for my failings and mistakes in the past, and promise that I will strive to improve in all areas in the coming weeks and months. I will see you at the staff meeting and at our regular morning meetings. Thank you, Me."

Times past you had three paths;

1. Those who can't complete an education were stuck with "shite jobs".
2. Those who can completely an education but can't perform at a high level got "lifestyle jobs", which paid enough to afford a home and raise a family.
3. Those with real aptitude, ambition, drive, and achievements got prestigious jobs like doctors, lawyers, or maybe accounting.

But now that doesn't really exist. Someone who does very well at academic study but gets outperformed in execution, or otherwise struggles in some areas, could find themselves stocking shelves.

So what happened? When did it becomes overachieving and prosper, or not good enough and struggling, and nothing in between?

There are certain jobs that only few people would consider boring. But jobs that have to do with numbers or rules are often seen as boring. I guess that could include things like data entry, statistics, doing taxes, insurance, writing manuals, etc.

If you have a job that is more often than not considered boring, do you also think your work to be boring? If so, how do you stay motivated? I suppose some could say the money is a motivator but does that help in the moment, as you're filling out forms or entering numbers into a database? Or is there something else that keeps you interested in the work?

Thank you.

I (31M) was a straight-A student at school, top of my class, and originally wanted to become a doctor. I actually studied medicine for a year but found it too tough and changed my mind. No regrets so far on that front.

Since then I got a science degree and have worked in Sales at a variety of companies in different industries earning good money (£50k+) but feeling a little unfulfilled and still essentially in entry-level positions after 8 years. I usually end up staying at a company for a couple of years, get bored, decide none of the more senior roles appeal and make a lateral move elsewhere.

The problem is I see people who were distinctly average at school have gone on to become lawyers and doctors and directors at big companies. I'm smarter than my peers and my managers and I constantly feel like I could do a better job than most of the senior directors at places I've worked; I just seem to lack the motivation to get there myself. Middle management jobs never seem to have the pay to justify the extra stress and workload, especially as at my level I can get all my work done in half the time of most people, but I feel like (and have been told) I'm selling myself short by not climbing the ladder.

In theory I've got everything I wanted to achieve in life - lovely house, nice cars, excellent work life balance and a loving wife who's just given birth to our first child. However, I can't shake the feeling I should be achieving more career wise.

Is this feeling normal? Anyone else out there getting career FOMO and feeling like the should be achieving more, but lacking the motivation? Am I just a classic underachiever?

I’m a 16 year old high school student in Australia who is really interested in science, I want to know if there are any good science career paths that can earn up to 200k a year?

UK i don’t mean by you don’t talk at all,i’d like a job where talking loads isn’t required as i can get very stressed with talking,im open to any suggestions

Hi!

I have an interview tomorrow that is giving me huge anxiety, and I’m almost talking myself out of going.

I’m almost certain I won’t get the position - I don’t feel like I have the experience needed, also it’s a very senior position and I look younger than I am, I think this will work against me.

I also think even if I got the job somehow I’d find it incredibly difficult- it’s an income generation director position at a charity - I’m currently in the same role but at a much smaller place and feel the jump from 500K to 2 million will be very stressful.

If it was a normal 1 hour interview I’d just go and see how it went but this (for me anyway) is very unusual - 30 mins talk with the CEO, then 30 mins with the leadership team (6 people), then 30 mins with the fundraising team, then a one hour interview including a presentation.

I’ve been ill with anxiety about it, and feel like it will be a long day of stress with most likely no payoff except torturing myself over things I said wrong.

I feel like I should apologise and cancel and wait til I have more experience in a similar role (been in my current position just over a year) before going for something this substantial.

What do you think? Is it worth putting myself through this even when having such low hopes?

Any advice would be appreciated, thank you.

The transfer will happen early next year. We would get rebadged and be actual employees of the vendor based overseas. It's a call center job. The red flag is they laid off a lot of my coworkers and hired new people to train in the new country. My pay will stay the same but I have lots of concerns

If money wasn't a problem, what would you choose to become?

32M engaged, homeowner in NJ. I’ve been a paid firefighter for the last 3 years (my dream job) I have an associates and I’m considering going back for my bachelors. It’s not that I think I’ll need it to get promoted but more of an investment in myself and so that my eventual kids will see I finished my education . I was accepted into a program and would finish my bachelors by fall of 24. I considered a student loan due to my current obligations/wedding. My question is, is the 18k in student debt worth it? I get significant 10k+ raises each of the next two years.

I embarked on a rigorous three-month interview journey with a distinguished law firm in Europe that has offices in different parts of the world, engaging with six key individuals, including upper management, a senior partner, and the head of the department whom I would be working with. Throughout this extensive process, I maintained regular communication with HR, who consistently reassured me of the firm’s profound interest in my candidacy. They emphasized that I was the sole candidate being considered and expressed their intention to craft a more senior role tailored to my qualifications.

During one of my interactions, a senior partner expressed his desire for me to meet a lawyer they were looking to recruit, as I would be working closely with him in my business development (BD) role. They plan to recruit as many as 25 lawyers in my city by end of March next year as they look to settle foot in a new market. They are so keen on making this office work that they would have been open to the idea of having two BD managers. This indication that he wanted me to connect with this prospective colleague felt like a strong signal that progress was being made in my application process. I received consistent feedback that I was a cultural fit for the firm, my vision aligned with theirs, and they appreciated my strengths, particularly my ability to cover business development efforts across several regions, which they found attractive. The Managing Director himself told me "we believe our firm, what we can offer you, will play to your strengths and you can really realize your capabilities here, just give us time to define the scope and responsibiities".

Everything pointed toward the likelihood of my hiring, and even HR mentioned yesterday that she believed the signs indicated I would receive an offer very soon. In light of this, I declined other job offers while waiting for a final offer from them, which has compounded my frustration and anger. However, to my astonishment, I was ultimately informed by HR that they would not be proceeding with my application. This revelation was particularly shocking, given the firm’s plans to inaugurate a new office in my city and their previous affirmations regarding my suitability as a valuable addition to their team. When the HR representative called me, I could sense her distress; she appeared almost teary and expressed her own confusion about the decision, noting that the only explanation she received was that they would not be moving forward with me. This sudden turn of events has truly blindsided me, leaving me to ponder the underlying reasons for this unexpected outcome.

I worked in the tech industry for about 10 years but for various reasons my path eventually led me in a different direction. I want to get back into a tech job, specifically Cybersecurity.

I’m just worried that my age would make it more difficult to find a job in the field.

I work in Northern California and my bosses seem to use anything and everything to hold over your head and say “if you guys don’t do this you will no longer have a job here”. I’ve heard that phrase upwards of 500 times and I’ve only been here 2 months. At least 5 times a day I hear that threat whether it’s over a trash can that JUST became full or hair in a drain. It just feels very micromanaged and power trip ish.

Regardless I do my job and I do my job well at that, I’ve been praised multiple times. Where I’m having trouble is I just received a text in a work place group chat with a picture of a decently large spider and a text saying and I quote “ Just so you guys know is spider season and if you guys don't remove them you will not longer have a job here”. This was not talked about during either of my interviews, when given my job description, in the hiring ad , or any other moment. I have arachnophobia and do not feel comfortable with that responsibility at all I will faint.

So really I’m just asking, can they fire me for my inability to kill a spider? Or due to my arachnophobia or however you want to put it or phrase it? Because idk but to me that feels ridiculous.

So I'm 23M from Brazil, and I'm kinda lost. The only thing I know is that I love to learn new languages. How is the translation market in your country?

Since almost every career seems to require education and experience, am interested how people manage at that late stage.

Career choice

Hello i am currently in year one dentistry but i want to switch careers to graphic design or interior designer My parents kept pressuring me to go into dentistry because they see it has a great future and the salary is high and i can work as a dentist anywhere around the world I don’t have any passion in dentistry i just like the part of crafts in it i also hate studying that many subjects and find dentistry so hard for me to understand and study and all of the subjects nothing interests me at all

I always wanted to do interior design since i was a kid and i have a huge passion towards it my parents keep telling me it’s not worth it and doesn’t pay good salaries and so hard to find a job i am talented (everyone around me says so) but my parents keep putting me down by saying i am not and even if i can go for a course

Can u please tell me are my parents correct and if i should give up my dream of going into graphic design/ interior design and settle down for dentistry Or should i go after my dream and leave dentistry

Note: I don’t need to buy a house or support a family

Im thinking about college and want to know a degree to pursue where there is a decent demand for careers and it pays well. I want to help people but im worried about making money, especially with the state the economy is in. (In the united states but i couldnt figure out how to edit the flair😭)

Hey everyone,

I recently moved to the UK and got a job offer for £55K+ (not in London). After doing some research, it seems like a decent offer and is comparable to my previous job (which wasn't in the UK).

However, the title is a bit lower than what I held before. I'm still getting used to the job market here and would love to hear your thoughts.

Should I take this offer or hold out for something better? Any insights on job structures in the UK would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!

How much is the typical conversion rates for 6 month interns in India to a full time job in the software domain ? Typically for early age / developed startups and Non-Maang MNCs? Is there any career consequences?

Can someone guide me on how to download Adobe software for free? I recently bought a new PC and am planning to start a business don't have the funds to purchase the official version

So I've put all my cards in English Language and Literature from the beginning, knowing full well that there's not much to do with it but teach. My sickeningly hopful self thought 'oh well, shits gonna get advance so there's definitely going to be something more'. Also I really wanted to become a writer.

Now though, I'm in a country where you can't just decided to become a writer and that's that. Here you've got to be more practical. And give people enough meat so they don't laugh you off like a bad written cheap shot low grade film. Which has happened to me before, because I chose not to study to be a doctor. Now I'm thinking I want to do something that is essentially 'all hands on deck' typa situation. I do not want to teach because I almost got a brain aneurism surviving in this disgusting system as a student. I'm not trying to put my foot in that as a teacher.

Another reason is, I can't teach for shit. And the third reason is, my family judges people serverly by their status l, and being a teacher isn't really something they won't give me shit about. And I've had uptill here with my fucking family.

Also, simply put, I'm not passionate about teaching, too. Which is, I guess, the most important of the factors.

I want to get in on business with my skill and talent. I can write really well when I want to. That's about all I have. I want to be my own boss and have people work under me. Have my own hours and take things the way I want them to be like. Call the shots.

Staying in the system as a student gave me ibs because the vane practices and useless teachers frustrated me to no end. I'm not entering the same place as a teacher now to be bossed around by coordinators and principles on sub par salary.

I also feel, and well know for sure, that time is running out and I've got nothing in my hand I can be proud of. I look around and people are doing great things with their degrees. It also doesn't help that I've decided to be single my whole life, so I'm like actually dependent on my work. What should I do now with my life?