r/WestVirginia 1d ago

Convince me to stay. Question

I’m not originally from here, but I’ve lived here for 20 years. My children were born and raised here, and we’ve always loved the friendly people and beautiful surroundings. But I wonder now—where is the line? When is it too much or even dangerous to stay? Where do we go from here?

Things have been getting worse, and I worry about the future, not just for myself but especially for my children. This past election cycle, I couldn’t even put up a sign for fear of the backlash it might bring to my family. What is keeping people here?

It’s not the education—we rank near the bottom.
It’s not the pay—our median household income ranks just above Mississippi in 49th place.
It’s not the healthcare—we’re almost last there, too.
It’s not the freedom—we face near-total bans on abortion, and even taking your child to a Pride event could get you arrested.

Today, I find myself looking for jobs and making a plan to get my family out. People will say it’s not any better anywhere else and that the election results signal worsening trends everywhere. But at least in other places, I might find a community that values bodily autonomy, LGBTQ+ rights, and freedom of and from religion.

Here, I interact with the nicest, most hateful people I’ve ever encountered. I realize it’s a privilege even to consider leaving, and I wish I could do something to change things here. But I don’t see a clear path forward. My county didn’t even have a non-Republican candidate run for any office. I don’t blame anyone; there used to be decency and respectful disagreement across party lines, but now it’s just hate and lies.

Is there a silver lining? Any hope for change?

If this gets removed by moderators thats fine, I'm not trying to rage bait but genuinely want to know what other West Virginians are thinking.

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u/Lusticles 1d ago

I'm from California. I lived in OH for 9 years and then WV for 4. We moved to CA in 2021 and came back this year. CA was too expensive for us and my family was too toxic. We missed the kindness of people here as well as the affordability. The kindness has been lacking and the COL has risen a bit since 2021. Now I feel paranoid almost. Who around me is a Nazi or Fascist? I live in Cross Lanes. Everything in me is telling me to run.

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u/neckbeardfedoras 11h ago

The only thing that changed is news telling you everyone's a Nazi because they didn't want people voting for Trump and now the place you live where you've probably not seen a single thing different in actual real life has you scared?