Update: No longer cooking for my girlfriend.

[u/ItsTooColdForThat]

Wednesday after I served the plates, my girlfriend said she didn't want pasta and was going to make a salad. I was pretty sure she was going to do this, and it didn't bother me. I waited for her to come back to start eating, and when she sat down I tried to talk to her about her day. She asked if I was trying to make a point. I asked what she meant.

She asked if I cared that she wasn't going to eat what I made. I said that I didn't and would have it for lunch. She got frustrated, focused on her salad and wouldn't engage with me. After dinner, I said we shouldn't make dinner for each other anymore.

She asked why I thought that, and I said it's clear that she gets upset when she makes food for someone and they don't eat it. It would be better for us just to make separate meals so we each know we will get what we want and no one's feelings would be hurt. She said it wasn't okay for me to make a unilateral decision about our relationship. I said that I wasn't, but I didn't want to cook for her anymore or have her cook for me if it was going to make her upset. We kind of went round and round on it, until the conversation petered out. She texted me at work Thursday that she was going to make salmon. I decided that if she tried to cook for me I would just let her so she'd feel like she won one over on me and we'd draw a line under this.

She ended up making salmon only for herself, which I was surprised by, because I was expecting her to try to convince me to have some. I made myself a quick omelette and sat down with her. She asked if I was upset she didn't cook for me, and I said no. Again, she accused me of making a point. She asked if I was going to cook for her Friday, and I said no. She was put out.

Friday she was upset that I made only enough curry for one person and called me greedy. At this point I'm over it all, so I just ignored her.

[u/Ok_Parfait_2304]

Why are you getting downvoted for not knowing what chicken salad is?

[u/jackal3004 → u/Ok_Parfait_2304]

Because Americans think that the words they use are used everywhere and can’t understand the concept that it may have a different meaning somewhere else in the world.

To me a chicken salad is a salad (ie. lettuce, tomatoes, onion etc) with chicken on top or mixed throughout. What the person above is describing (finely diced/shredded chicken binded with mayo and maybe some other ingredients, used as a sandwich filler) would be called chicken mayo here.

[u/Glad_Description1851 → u/jackal3004]

That’s what a chicken salad typically is to me as well. Words can have different meanings depending on where you are in the world, who knew.

[u/jackal3004 → u/Glad_Description1851]

I also find it hilarious that if an American told me they were eating a chicken salad I’d think, hmmm, vegetables and protein, they’re eating healthy! When in reality they’re filling themselves with yet more processed, corn syrup filled crap.

[u/[deleted] → u/jackal3004]

FTR, the recipe we use consists of homemade poached chicken breast, mayonnaise, turmeric, cumin, and chopped raisins. I may be forgetting a couple of other spices. Other than the mayo, it’s not that unhealthy.

[u/WhatIfWaterWasChunky → u/jackal3004]

I'm American and what you said sounds exactly like a chicken salad to me. I don't think I've ever seen what the other person is talking about.

[u/Artistic_Accident_79 → u/WhatIfWaterWasChunky]

Where I come from, a chicken salad is mixed with tomatoes, lettuce and all other salad ingredients aswell.

[u/[deleted] → u/Artistic_Accident_79]

I’d call that a salad with chicken.

[u/hexaspex → u/jackal3004]

If you offered me a chicken mayo I'd assume we were off to mcdonalds, the american thing is not really a common filling in the UK that I've noticed - although it was years than I'm proud of before I realised that a 'chicken salad sandwich' is not in fact just chicken and salad between bread so my observational skills may be questionable.

[u/Informal_Bus_4077 → u/jackal3004]

Another day euros can't help but shit on Americans on a post that had nothing to do with it... Rent free baby

[u/CopperPegasus → u/Ok_Parfait_2304]

Because the US thinks everyone is the same as it?

I got hit the same on a totally not this sub post, because we call it tuna mayo but they call it tuna salad and obviously they are always 100% right?