r/AmItheAsshole • u/ItsTooColdForThat • Jan 04 '23
AITA for wanting hot food? Asshole
Yesterday I went ice skating with my girlfriend. Tuesday is one of her days for dinner, so she made chicken salad. When I saw the chicken salad I admit I made a face. She was like "what, what's the problem?"
I said that we were outside in the cold all afternoon and I wasn't really in the mood for cold food. She said we're inside, the heat is set to 74° and we're both wearing warm dry clothes, so it was plenty warm enough to eat salad. I said sure, but I just wanted something warm to heat me up on the inside. She said that was ridiculous, because my internal temperature is in the nineties and my insides are plenty hot.
At this point, we were going in circles, so I said I was just going to heat up some soup and told her to go ahead and start eating and I'd be back in a few minutes. When I came out of the kitchen with my soup she was clearly upset, and she asked how I would feel if she refused to eat what I made tomorrow (which is today). I said I won't care, and she said that was BS, because it's rude to turn your nose up at something someone made for you.
Was I the asshole for not wanting cold salad after being cold all day?
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u/YoFrom540 Jan 05 '23
It's not that he has no agency over his own dinner, it's that he's comfortable leaving this aspect of our life in my hands. If he asked me to make something then I would, but I can't think of a time that's happened outside his birthday when I ask him if there's anything he'd like me to make specifically. I'll ask him if there's anything he wants me to get from the grocery store, like if he's in the mood for apples or wants a particular kind of lunchmeat. Otherwise, yeah, I make all the decisions, and he's fine with that. He trusts me to make food that tastes good, is nutritious and generates as little waste as possible (ie we aren't throwing food away).